European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - April 18, 1992, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Saturday april 18, 1992 the stars and stripes a Page 19 Ann Landers dear Ann Landers after 10 years 1 am ready to Call it quits. I married a woman with two children. One died tragically. The other child and i never got along. He left Home recently and now a chasm exists Between my wife and me because of it. A a Mega has a successful business and leads a fiercely Independent life. She always has made More Money than i but it was never a problem. We eat in front of the to every night do each others laundry and rarely go out. Our sex life has All but disappeared. Her desire for me is nil and i am sick of the rejection. I had a Vasectomy thinking it might help but it did no to. She wants sex eight or nine times a year in the dark with her clothes on. I Long for passion which i now realize is an empty dream. I brought Home some books on sex from the Library hoping to share them with Meg. She was offended and said i was  the thought of spending another decade with this woman is depressing. I have been completely faithful to my wife but in a reaching the Point where its difficult to resist an affair. Some of the women who have been coming on to me Are pretty tempting. I have tried to get along with my wife but we seem to be Drifting farther apart. I hate to sound corny Ann but can this marriage be saved somewhere in gods country dear somewhere it sounds grim but please try joint counselling before you throw in the  s crossword dear Abby dear Abby i have a very Low paying Job. It is unskilled labor and i hate it when somebody asks a where do you work a or a what kind of work do you do a it is very painful for me to answer that question. I have tried saying a i do not like my Job and id rather not discuss  but for some reason when i say that people get annoyed and it is usually the end of the conversation. Abby i do not like to lie but when i Tell the truth it puts people off. They usually say a you ought to be glad you re not on welfare a or a what do you care As Long As its honest a Abby am i so wrong to want some privacy about what i do until i find a better Job ashamed in Lebanon Ore. Dear ashamed you Are not wrong you have every right not to discuss your Job if it makes you uncomfortable. When asked where you work or what kind of work you do reply a i am not at Liberty to talk about it a or a a in a sorry but i cannot discuss my  some i suspect your wife a loss of her child had a stronger Impact than you realize. She May be deeply depressed and unable to express her grief. Suggest counselling. Do not repeat not have an affair. You have enough problems to Deal with without adding infidelity to the mix. Good Luck. I Hope things work out for you both. I have a feeling Meg needs you More than you know. Dear Ann Landers i wrote to you on oct. 14, 1964. When 1 was 16 years old i had a baby out of Wedlock. Several months after the baby was born i met a wonderful Man and 1 prayed he would ask me to marry him. He did. It was then that i wrote and asked you if i should Tell my husband that my baby was born out of Wedlock or make up a Little fib and say i was married very briefly and my husband was killed in an Accident. You said a a done to lie. Tell your husband the truth. If he really loves you it will make no  Well Ann Here it is 27 years later and i am still married to this same wonderful Man. We now have five children and five grandchildren. I still keep your letter in the drawer and take it out every now and then to remind myself what a great Friend you were and How Happy i am that i took your advice. I am signing this letter with love a and i really mean it. Signature withheld to protect writer dear Friend in a so pleased that your life turned out so beautifully. Thanks for letting me know that the letter i wrote 27 years ago Means so much to you. I appreciate the Day brightener. C creators Syndicate May suspect that you work for the Cia or the Fri perhaps you should look into training to upgrade your Job skills a Many state employment offices offer free Job skills training. Also inquire at the career counselling office of your local Community College. Dear Abby i have a problem that has bugged me for years. Can you a or one of your readers a help me please while dining in a posh restaurant How do you handle the endless strings of cheese that Dangle from your knife Fork Teeth and Chin when eating lasagna or onion soup should you spin your Fork slash with the knife disconnect with two hands or should you ask the server for a pair of Small scissors Strung out in Augusta a. Dear Strung out spin your Fork and use your hand and Napkin to keep your Teeth and Chin As free of a a strings As possible. Anything goes a As Long As you get the lasagna Down your Gullet. You wont look very elegant but it wont matter because nobody will care How you look a and in All probability they wont look any better. 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