European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - March 11, 1993, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Thursday March 11, 1993 the stars and stripes Page 17 Iii wife torn by vow not to remarry today a crossword dear Ann Landers years ago when my husband and f were first married we discussed what would happen if one of us died. We were both in our 30s at the time so i did no to consider this a frivolous Chat. A a Jimmy and i both promised never to remarry if one of us should pass away. I Felt greatly relieved because i loved him so much 1  Bear the thought of another woman taking my place. We Are now both pushing 50, and i am seriously ill. Last night As we were sitting by the fireplace Jimmy brought up the Ann Landers subject of our Promise and assured me that it still stands. My question is this Ann am i being unrealistic and selfish to find Comfort in this Promise 1 done to think it would be too hard on him because he a a Workaholic and did no to marry me until he was in his mid-30s. We also have no children and arc devoted to each other. Are there other couples who have made this Promise and been Able to keep it Are there couples who made this Promise and later regretted it i am torn Between the guilt 1 feel that i May be depriving him of future years of happiness and yet wanting so much to know that i will have been his Only True love. 1 can honestly say that if Jimmy died tomorrow i could easily live a purposeful life without Ever having another Man. What is your opinion Ann since neither of our families knows of this Homie please sign me Anonymous in the Midwest dear Anonymous it seems to me that couples who truly love one another would want their mates to remarry when one or the other passes away. To extract a Promise not to remarry would be the ultimate act of selfishness. It is impossible to predict How one will feet several years Down the Road. People s ideas change. It would be extremely shortsighted to tie up a mate with such a Promise and i would definitely advise against it. Letters to Ann Landers should to addressed to her at . Box 11562. Chicago Iii. 60611-0562. C creators Syndicate. Dogs instincts May Lead them to kill dear Abby dear Abby v while you advice never to leave a child atone with dogs is Correct the reasoning behind it is flawed. I am a police sergeant and the k-9 Trainer instructor for the Culver City Calif police department. I have been involved in the training and use of dogs for More than 13 years. I am concerned with what makes them behave As they do and How to Channel it to our uses Many dog owners say a my dog thinks he a a  this leads them to attribute human values and emotions to their dog. These people believe a dog can think reason and behave inappropriately because he harbours ill feelings toward his a a owner or others. I believe this is impossible. A dog is incapable of thought or harbouring ill feelings. A dog views the world from a dogs Point of View. It considers itself a dog and us As other dogs. We Are merely members of its  dogs occasionally Kilt or injure children because of several differences Between human children and puppies. Dogs Are driven by instinct. That is what makes them dogs. There Are about six of these drives. The one at work Here is the a pack drive a which forces the dog to become a member of a pack and to establish its a pecking order within that pack. It does that by nonverbal communication primarily by body language. The difference Between human infants and children and dogs is that when puppies or adult dogs Are placed quibble in a submissive position by a dominant member of the pack they exhibit body language that communicates to the dominant dog that it has achieved dominance. Human infants and children do not have this instinct and  know How to communicate their submission if they did. When human infants and children suffer pain or discomfort such As the dog biting their head they react in an opposite fashion. Instead of becoming passive and motionless they cry and thrash around. Their screams become louder As they receive More pain. This communicates to the dog that it is not applying enough pressure so it bites harder. This frequently results in death for the infant or child when his or her Skull fractures. Your statement that a the most docile pets have been known to turn on a child unprovoked a is rooted in folklore. The dog docs not a turn on a child a rather it treats the child As if it were a dog and when the child does not respond As a dog the dog Steps up its expression of dominance. In Short any dog can be a danger to any child because of the different instincts each species possesses. Louis c. Castle Culver City Calif. Dear or. Castle thank you for an illuminating letter. Letters Lor that column should to addressed to dear Abby at . Box 447. Mount Morris Iii. 61054. C in Versai press Syndicate across 1 Uno a Uno 4 unbelievable Colloq. 6 Throe 12 dadaist Jean 13 Toast Topper 14 cupids Lorte 15 Long tailed. Blackbirds 17 Sci i film knights 18 Ernesto Guevara 19 at ease 21 Hagar the horrible 9 24 Quot cheers Quot role 25�?T�? take Romance 26 Long lunch 26 Trattoria treat 32 German song 34 unruly hair 36 Quot Fly Fly Quot 37 supporter of the ans 39 arachnid s. Creation 41 actress Jillian 42 cart Wright patriarch 44 George s longtime partner 46 annual Publica lion 50 vex 51 secular 52 fireplace sound effects 56 Pickle Type 57 Quot dam 56 historic period 59 Quot zip a a Doo Dah Quot 60 has Bills 61 or. Ruth s Lopic Down 1 or. Hammarskjold 2 stick figure 3 patches Piaster work 4 fare perhaps 5 the whole enchilada 6 Groucho esque Taok 7 comes in last a party outfits a nose counterpart 10 Lump 11 crossword diagram . 16 greek x solution time 23 mint. 1 2 3 i2 to yesterday answer v 3-11 20 you cant stand having one 21 contemptible 22 Pelvic Bones 23 Bubble maker 27 present adornment 29 Irons 30 is. Tennille 31 top rated 33 fiasco 35 mrs. Al Bundy 36 author Daighton 40 third Little pigs material 43 cheesy Tortilla 45 Clumsy Craft 46. Quot Betsy s wedding Quot actor 47 deposited 46 Long distance 49 hands across the water 53 expert 54 before 55 by Orton plays it 21 22 25 Jura in a a 1 4b 4/ 4s 4i 5b a 3-11 1st cry7toquip w cd i f a v t o d w 5 v i ecu i a t o v t i. S 1 a f j a a l k t w w u v j l p w v t t k. Yesterdays  what caused the  resign it was the pits. Today a crypt quip clue i equals l. Quito if co >0 i part id 60 Hatoff line of to a sum my. It you k1ddim6? that could cd 0ati&�oos-Vod Youj that we go cl05ir6 Dow that thus that two cd aa6 ctn Donl  up. You not top Hodul Ulhart might end up Ori you. Plate re Swiss mocha International Java. The perfect Coffee to share Between old friends who Haven to seen each other in Mears this reminds be of that t wonderful Coffee we had the last Tine Wev / Inawat you flu inc Afi tit ? 1h�y cad t just put ahythwj6 on your plate. They hay6 to be five of Here we amp a arid Poitie that has stopped 7hcm 6efo��. I lock juwi0c, the i cad runner  the Coy Ore at thi5 saw juror Conha grow up thinking coyotes a have Kline liv�5,