European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - November 14, 1993, Darmstadt, Hesse Miss manners. Judith Mart a dear Mist Mannari most of the passenger son the air plane were beginning dessert which was two cookies in a tightly sealed plastic envelope an the Young Man seated behind me was struggling with the wrapper. He finally Tore the package Ope with Force and one of the cookies flew Over the seat and landed on my shoulder. I Felt i could t just hand him his cookie Back Andi did t really have anything to say to him so i Sim. Ply picked it up from my shoulder and ate preteen son suggested that i should have acknowledged the situation and returned the cookie at which Point the Young Man presumably would have uttered a shy laugh wrapped the cookie in his Napkin and put it on his tray. What advice would you give in Case this unlikely event should occur again Wantla readers switch airlines. This one is no Safe. Of you mean what could you do in regard to the cookie Flinger and the unexpected delivery of an extra dessert to your manners confesses that she fails to under stand the motivation for the actions that you did take. Were you trying to spare the person behind you embarrassment or were you glad to gain a third cookie in either Case it would have been better to return the cookie wrapped in a Napkin with a pleasant smile. However embarrassing that might be to the cookie thrower it is ultimately less painful than being afraid to go up the aisle for whatever Rea so because he does t know the state of mind and body of the cookie , it was his cookie. Daar Mesa Mannara directly to the Point my Girlfriend s parents invited her first husband sex to move in with them because they said he had no place to go. He is employed he moved there leaving his present was living with my Girlfriend and was very upset at this. They saw nothing wrong with it. Aside fro being personally offended i was concerned about what effect this would have on their 6-year-old child has seen his Mother go through two mar i arcs and numerous other men preceding me. At a family Holiday gathering at her sister s Home they brought the sex along. They brought him again when i gave a birthday party for her at our Home Kauai Basel Switzerland o i jl/j3 not even asking me. Of course my answer Wouldhave been no. F feel that her parents never liked me and that she did not know the meaning of the word love or what being faithful is. She kicked me out and had another relationship going before i was even moved out. I am really concerned about this environment audits effects on the child. Please advise not Only on the social aspects by Falso if anything Dan be done to help this child. Vantta Ramadan directly to the Point you Friend s parents Are also concerned and would obviously like to get their daughter Back together wit the father of her child however unlikely they Are to succeed. Directly to another Point Fiey and she Are unlikely to allow a passing Lover to participate in the child s upbringing however kindly your Best you can Hope for is to Tell them that you became fond of the child and to ask if you can occasionally entertain him As a Mere Friend of the family. If they permit it you can attempt to be Avail Bleas a confidant for the boy who sounds As if he could use one. And now miss manners would like to return tothe indirect Long enough to hint delicately that Given the Mother s history you should probably not expect the concern you show for the child to soften her heart. Daar miss Man tiaras i want to Send Pur clients thanksgiving greeting cards but my supervisors concerned that thanksgiving cards Are not the Norm and he prefers that i Send Christmas cards instead. I feel that everyone sends Christmas cards. Wantla Raa Dari right. That is Why they present. Miss manners must t be churlish. No doubt most people Send Christmas cards in order to offer greetings and kind wishes to those about whom they care. But among business acquaintances a sender desire to Call attention to commercial services being offered has sometimes been known to replace the gentler sentiments. From your argument that is what you wish. An you would be right in catching the attention of those who did not expect to be the targets of a new custom. Whether it would be favourable attention is another question. Miss manners believes that business people Are seduced by commercially motivated so Cial attentions far less than is imagined by those who approve the expense accounts. Christmas cards Are common enough for there Tobe some room for imagining that professional associates also Harbor kind wishes. Your invention of anew custom is far More Likely to be perceived As a new gimmick or if it catches on a new feature Syndicate fooling incorrect address your etiquette questions in Black or Blue Black Ink on White writing paper to miss manners. . Box 91428. Cleveland. Ohio 44101-3428. The Quill shortage prevents miss Man ners from answering questions except through this column. Friendship cuts through All the of scars Erma Bombeck Ihan t seen my Best Friend in five would she look like she Promise me she d be fat and have enough wrinkles to Plant sufficient wheat to feed the soviet Union. If she lied Tome cd never speak to her again. That s the kind of friends we had been forbore than 40 years. We met in College and did t share a single class. She was a music major and iwas working on a degree in English. We had Only one thing in common. Neither of us played Bridge. When i did t make the cheer leading squad she said you Don t have to sweat to get when she complained of her Coke bottle glasses told her it raised her in 30 Points. We hated the same people at the same time an Justice was always on the Side we were both on. When she was pregnant with her 10-Pound babies i said but you re tall you can carry the when i was pregnant she said but you face is thin. You Don t look pregnant in your we fought Gravity together dyed our hair together and even bought fake fur Coats at the same time. If we looked like two Polar bears on a Klondike bar we never mentioned it. Throughout our lives we could depend on each other to be supportive and say the right thing. The Only time she showed annoyance was when she baked bread for breakfast one morning and i accused her of turning into Martha Stewart. That was in kind. When she got breast cancer i wept. When i go breast cancer she cried. Our letters and phone Calls had gone beyond How Are the kids and Cen tired now on our biopsies and blood tests. Then her plane landed. You Haven t changed abit i shouted As we embraced. My gosh you Are still the same she said with Relief. Once More we proved what we All know Friend ship is Blind. Universal press Syndicate Barb. Real names of talk show hosts 1. Larry King Lawrence Harvey Zeigler 2. Jay Leno James Douglas Muir Leno 3. Joan Rivers Joan Alexandra Molinsky 4. Geraldo Rivera Gerald Myquel Riviera 5. Ruth Westheimer Karola Ruth Siegel 6. Steve Allen Stephen Valentine Patrick William Allen 7. Chevy Chase Cornelius Crane Chase it s talk America s favorite talk show Host works translated into Many languages 1. The Bible translated into 1,735 languages 2. Tarzan books into 56 languages 3. Davy Crockett Ballad into 16 languages 4. The exorcist into 12 languages 5. Garfield cartoon into 12 languages world feature Syndicate Page 10 sunday november 14, 1993
