European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - January 14, 1994, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Page 26 the stars and stripes Friday january 14,1994 let s Oil try to be sensible about sex today s crossword dear Ann Landers i am 70 years old and finally have a question for you. When Are you going to get realistic and Stop this non sense about sex being so wonderful that people can t live without it Tell these kids the truth Ann banana splits Are wonderful but do you want a steady diet of them sure sex is Nice but so is the satisfaction that comes from learning to swim Well or style your own hair or develop a Talent for writing. To read your columns one would come to the conclusion that the Kidskin your Vicinity Don t do any thing but make out. If people like you would just shut up kids would accept the enjoyment of sex As the earned Reward for the acceptance of responsibility. If you think teen age girls who allow themselves to be used by irresponsible males Are having fun you Don t have a grasp of the situation. The Only Way a woman can get the utmost satisfaction out of sex is when she is respected. -.". How much respect is there in wallowing around inthe Back seat of a car with a boy who zips up his pants and goes Home you Are in a position to teach these kids to value themselves and to value the children they Are Able to produce. Why Don t you do it i am sick and tired of the degradation of what can be the most Beautiful experience two people can share. Sick of senseless sex dear senseless letters such As yours Are a Challenge because part of Ann Landers what you say makes some sense and then you go off half cocked and get goofy. For example you will never sell teen agers on the idea that learning to swim or style their own hair is As much fun As having sex. I would t try it. You then Tell me to shut  sorry but i won t shut up. I intend to keep on telling teen agers that Back seat sex is indecent and unrewarding and May be Hazar Dous to their health. Dear Ann Landers i recently read about a school in the Midwest with the most terrific program. It grades the parents. Parents Are Given Marks for attending Parent teacher conferences providing a in diet place to study Reading with their children participating in school activities and so on. In t that a great idea it is an undisputed fact that children whose parents Are involved do better in school and in life. Think of the Impact this could have on promoting education an reducing crime. We will never solve our crime and drug problems simply by having More police More prisons More judges and More juries. Not if we keep pumping out More criminals. We will solve Pur problems Only when All parents Are held responsible for their children. This program is an Excel Lent Way to get started. It s simple and costs nothing. Marilyn in Spokane  Spokane terrific idea. 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I have a somewhat different problem. My wife and will be walking Down an aisle in a department store when poof she disappears into thin air. My children Tell me they used to be terrified when they were Little and she did that to  a recent trip to Europe she disappeared in a mob scene at a new York Airport. I nearly went crazy trying to find her. She finally showed up and casually explained that she had stopped to talk with someone for a minute or  Abby Abby your suggestion that a Man and his wife walk Arm in Arm through crowds misses the Mark. It s much easier to Burrow through a crowd single file than two abreast but if i insist that she walk ahead of me so i can keep quibble an Eye on her she gets insulted. Any solution Milwaukee dear Milwaukee insist that she walk ahead anyway. Shell survive the insult with far less trauma than losing each other in a crowded Airport or department store. Dear Abby concerning books that one Loans but and Are never returned i personally never loan a Book to anyone unless i Don t care whether i get it Back or not. I own a Bookstore that handles out of print hardback books. In looking through a secondhand Book i found the following statement on the Flyleaf ". And please return it. This May seem a strange request but i find that while most of my friends Are poor mathematicians they Are All Damn Good bookkeepers. Ralph  Stubbs Dorothy j., Independence to. Letters for this column should be addressed to dear Abby at . Box 447, mount Morris. Iii. 61054. C Universal press Syndicate 1.14. Crypt quip a j n z p n t n pig i j d j q w v x in x pm x d t n j d d i p q j f f d of i o d f j v c z w w p yesterday s crypt pulp what s the smart est most educated Bug in the world per haps a spelling Bee today s crypt quip clue z equals m 5 s it birth Oak is an annu8l of to   maid a Lent m6 up. Late 1. 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