European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - February 10, 1994, Darmstadt, Hesse Thursday february 10, 1994 therapists thrive As memory joggers Ann Landers dear Ann Landers two years ago my grown daughter who had a lot of personal problems gained a great Deal of weight. She sought counselling from a therapist who introduced her to the concept of repressed memory. She was encouraged by this therapist to explore her past for sexual abuse. Her therapist concluded that i had abused her. Facts that directly contradict her allegations meant nothing. The experiences and memories of her older siblings who forbears shared All of her daily life meant nothing. By her definition it is impossible for me to be innocent be cause either i am lying or if really can t remember i am repressing the memory. Her Brothers and Sisters attitudes have made i have lost a wonderful child in a cruel and terrible Way. She needs help and i cannot reach her. She is As much a victim As i am. Can you help anguished and los dear Friend you Are not alone. The following letter was written by a Reader who shares your problem. The advice i give Toher will also apply to you dear Ann Landers a horrible injustice is being perpetrated against ple who Are unable to defend themselves. I Hope you will help get the truth out. By now i m sure you must be aware that some therapists Are leading vulnerable and distraught clients to believe that All their problems Are the result of having been sexually abused when they were very Young. The clients Are unaware of this until the therapists re store their repressed therapists Are accomplishing this fraud by using the Power of their position coupled with the naive Assumption by the average person . Member of the heal ing profession would not deliberately harm them. The methodology used by these therapists be come a Well defined pattern. These vulnerable an trusting clients seek help for ill defined problems. The therapist May Tell the clients that they have been abused sexually or satan Cully and then influence them through hypnosis suggestion group pressure/etc., until the clients actually believe it. One needs to be very careful in evaluating untre member cd memories of Early childhood that suddenly arc please Tell your readers that forgotten incidents can sometimes be recalled but current prac Tice among some therapists is to encourage such belief when in fact they never occurred please Tell us where we can go for help. Another victim in California dear California those who seek help with this problem should con tact the false memory syndrome foundation. The address is fms foundation suite 130, 3401 Market st.,Philadelphia, a. 19104 or Call 1-800-568-8882. Letters to Ann Landers should be addressed to her at . Box 11562, Chi Cago Iii. 60611-0562. C creator Syndicate just whistle for your wife husband dear Abby lean imagine the husband s despair described in a recent letter in your column when his wife dashed off in a crowd leaving him nervous and anxious. I had a wife who did that. Complaining was useless. I finally devised a solution. I Pur chased two whistles which we both Hung around our necks when we travelled abroad. One Day we became Sepa rated Between flights in a crowded Airport. Frantic i blew my whistle then i heard a responding whistle in the Dis Tance. We joined each other and made our connection those whistles were the Best investment lever made. John Giba Tequesta Fla. Dear John Giba what a coincidence on my pc Chain is a whistle the kind police use when they re directing traffic. It was Given to me about 30 years ago by my husband. With it was a line he borrowed from a Humphrey Bogart Lau dear Abby run Bacall movie if you want anything just dear Abby your letters about bringing one s own food to a restaurant brought Back memories. In the Early 1950s, when i was a lad of 4 or 5 living in new Orleans my Mother and grandmother took me to a very fancy restaurant in the French Quarter for lunch. I ordered my favorite meal Fried Chicken and creamed Corn. The waiter returned to Tell us that they were out of creamed Corn. I m told that i raised such a fuss that my Mother left the restaurant found a grocery store near by purchased a Small can of creamed Corn and asked the chef to please warm it for me. He did fortunately i be outgrown my insistence to have everything my Way but that incident will forever haunt me. Was i a spoiled child or what Rev Carlo j. Zabbara roman Catholic diocese of Dallas dear father Zabbia if you weren t a spoiled child you certainly behaved like one but obviously you turned out All right. 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