European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - September 4, 1994, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Page 20 the stars and stripes faces no places sunday september 4,1994 Pacino wins award in Venice wins from the associated press. Oscar Winner Al Pacino picked up a career award Friday at the Venice film festival in Italy but it was another famous american film Star Jack Nicholson who captured the spotlight. A also winning career award s were italian screenwriter Suso Cecchi do Amico and British director co Loach. Although Pacino was t at the festival Nicholson appeared on the Day his Werewolf movie to was shown. The Mike Nichols film which opened this summer in the United states was not in Competition. Nicholson said his personal life is less volatile than his a evil roles and reputation might indicate. A what they say about me is a lot different from reality a he told the Ansa news Agency. A i used to like to Chase after girls. Now in be changed. Its True i tend to be a nocturnal animal a i go to bed at 4 in the morning. But i promised my children id change to see them More often a he said. The movies in Competition Friday Weire Little Odessa directed by american James Gray and Pialle by Frances Karim Dridi. A \. Little Odessa a gangster movie takes its name from the russian jewish Community in Brooklyn new Yorkus Brighton  named for the famous red Light District of a Paris populated by burglars strippers and drug addicts is about a prostitute moving through the underworld Pacino 54, won Best actor at the Academy awards in 1993 for scent of a woman. Loach 58, has directed a Den Agenda and ladybird ladybird. Seventy nine year old Cecchi do Amico wrote the screenplay for Franco Zeffirelli a Jesus of Nazareth and. The main italian film version of pinocchio. Stones to play Las vegas step aside Wayne Newton. The stones Are rolling into Las vegas. \ Quot promoters said Friday that the rolling stones will perform two shows in october at the Mem grand hotel and Casino. The resorts 13,050-seat Arena will be the smallest on the stones three month tour. A where else can you see them in an intimate venue a asked Mem spokesman Bill Doak. A you can to anywhere. That a part of the  / the oct. 14-15 shows Mark the first vegas appear Anee for the stones who Are promoting their album voodoo lounge. Tickets go on Sale thursday and will Cost $100 and $200 a not cheap but considerably less than the $1,00q barbra Streisand charged for her new years eve show. A. A a. A a a a. Lewis seeks record telethon _ Jerry Lewis wants to set another record when he kicks off his 29th labor Day telethon. A. Last year s show brought record Public pledges of i Jack Nicholson appears Friday at the Venice film festival for the showing of is latest movie Quot Wolf $46,014,922. This years telethon starts today in Las vegas and Lewis says his goal As always is to raise a one Dollar  has helped raise More than $1.4 billion for the. Muscular dystrophy association since joining the cause More than four decades ago. He says the mad is gaining ground in its fight against neuromuscular diseases thanks to advances in Gene therapy and Dan research. A a a a a a. A / a a a they re giving us some wonderful Hope that answers to these 40 neuromuscular diseases Are near a Lewis said. A a 1winfrey has attitude change if some people have a hard time accepting the new Oprah Winfrey Tough. A in your 20s and 30s you Are always struggling to be open to what other people see As their vision for you a the television talk show Host says in people magazines sept. 12 Issue. A but you reach the Point where you re not willing to accept the Bull that you used to.�?�. 3t along with her new svelte look the 40-year-old Winfrey changed her attitude she made a last minute decision to Back out of a big Book Deal with Alfred a. Knopf publishers and she a also put a hold on her marriage to longtime Boyfriend Stedman Graham. Does that mean putting off kids too a for right now i feel i can make greater contributions to the worlds children. What it takes one on one i done to have a she told the  Lande shitting a woman is never All right dear Ann  we All Are aware of a few exceptions when mentally ill women have assaulted men the sobering facts regarding Abusi of women by men Are horrifying. For instance every year in the United states 2mul lion to 4 million women Are physically assaulted or raped by their husbands boyfriends or lovers. Of the 5,000 women murdered last year More than 70 percent knew their attackers. An even More chilling statistic is this one More than 80 percent of women who leave their abusive spouses and lovers Are stalked assaulted raped or murdered. The governments own studies indicate that most women Are attacked sexually assaulted raped or murdered in their own Homes and that the attacker is the husband or Boyfriend. Unfortunately a surprising number of these men Are not prosecuted because the women refuse to press charges.  v., a we need to get the message across that it is never of for a Man to hit a woman regardless of the circumstances. A she drove me to it is not a valid excuse. / men Are almost always bigger and stronger and Able to walk away from a dangerous situation. A great Many males seem to believe it is perfectly of for a Man to use Force against a woman to prevent her from hurting him. Perhaps the time has come for every woman in the United states to be issued a gun in order to prevent a Man from hurting her. _ plenty fed up in Santa Cruz Calif. Dear s.c., Cal a if it is possible that anything Good came out of the . Simpson Case it is the spotlight beamed on the violence against women. But your Recap emendation that a every woman in the United state pm a wimped a gun is insane if there is anything this country does not need it is More guns. Guns Are not the solution. They Are the problem. A. The first time a Man hits a woman she should get out of the relationship. Stop believing a Man when he says a a in a sorry baby. Ill never do it  every study i have seen says he will do it again. Wife beaters almost never Stop. Another thing to remember alcohol and drugs Are almost Ahva Ysa Factor in wife beating. Just because a Man is drunk or High does not give him a License to beat or kill a woman. My advice to women who Are going with or married to a male who becomes violent is this one strike and he a out. Letters to Ann Landers should be addressed to her Al . To 11562, Chicago Iii. 60611-0562. A. A. C creators Syndicate. Dear Abby some time ago 1 very nearly became a widow because of a car trunk Accident. 1 intended to write to the car manufacturer and to you to get the word out about this potential danger but 1 never did. Your letter from Chris Mech concerning the danger of car trunks prompts me to write at this time. The trunk lid of our luxury car  stay open. In order for my husband to repair it he had to get into the trunk. A Jim Quot propped the lid open with a stick but the stick snapped a trapping him in the trunk on a 100-degree-plus Day. I had no idea he was working on. The trunk us 1 was merrily working in the House and there was no Way 1 could hear his cries for help. Fortunately he had a flashlight and a tire Iron in the trunk. The lord a and adrenalin a gave Jim the strength to pry the Jock open with the tire Iron. Me was  trunk for 20 minutes and he was one Shook up Man when he walked into the House dripping wet Abby we wholeheartedly agree that there should be some Way of escaping from the trunk of a car. Ann r. In Dallas dear . A. Quot. Thank you for an important letter. It should not require the know How of a Llo Udini and the expertise of a safecracker to get out of an automobile trunk should the need arise. Dear Abby. / a / i am an alcoholic woman. My husband has chosen to stand by me but we Are not allowed Contact with his two Young grandchildren. Although i have been in recovery for several years we Are still denied visits to the grandchildren on birthdays an holidays. We would like very much to continue sending them gifts and cards even though they Are never acknowledged. Should we Stop sending them gifts and cards even in alcoholics Anonymous i have not encountered anyone in this position. The parents of these precious children refuse to accept my amends and recovery. Sober grandma dear sober. Do whatever makes vow feel Good. I personally would have difficulty sending cards and gifts that go unacknowledged. Yes i know the Good Book tells us to turn the other Cheek a but each of us has Only two Cheeks. A a dear Abby dear Abby the letter from the woman who said she was married to an a Nice Many certainly hit Home with me after dating a Man for a couple of years i married him. It was a second marriage for both of us. Before our marriage he displayed a Normal interest in sex but after we were married it was an entirely different Story there was no touching kissing snuggling a nothing. When i suggested counselling he flew into a rage. I still done to know Why he Felt Hurt when l left him after five years of being Frozen out. Then i Learned that he had been a steady customer at a so called Massage parlor his sex had to be illicit dirty and Low Down or he  enjoy it _ _ while he was spending $100 a week at the Massage parlor he bought me used cars he had a new on cheap Tough cuts of meal rot gut liquor a you name it i lived m a House without heat until l screamed bloody murder. My family and friends thought he was a decent honest Man and i never suspected that he was cheating on me because he confined his activities to his working hours and was always Home on time. I just assumed that he Wasny to interested in sex. Abby Tell a lonely rejected and married to hire a private detective to follow her husband for a few weeks. Then Shell know if he is truly an a Nice Many a or Busy elsewhere. Frozen out letters lot this column should be addressed to dear Abby at . Box 4-47, Motif Morrs i. 61054. A a c Universal press Syndicate. .