European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - September 2, 1995, Darmstadt, Hesse Page 20 the stars and stripes saturday september 2, 1995 Herman 9-z Quot if you get any worse can i keep your paint roller Quot Twe Mej the Wight Oroon i a to school a amp made us act zombies. Eabl/0 Cut of the Hospital Alx Zap but he Biz orb a very Bone in his body was his Quick discharge the a result of so Ras new at Apical Ilsc cevey r e l t w i behind scenes look at life of a problem Drinker s wife dear readers i am on vacation but i have left behind some of my favorite columns that you May have missed the first time around. I Hope you enjoy them. Ann Landers dear Ann Landers awhile Back you printed a letter from the wife of an alcoholic. It was one of the Best things in be read on the subject. Can you dig it up and run it again Toronto fan dear fan i dug it up and Here it is dear Ann Landers a wife a behaviour toward her husband is the Best clue to whether he is an alcoholic. If he is a problem Drinker she will probably 1. Make excuses for his drinking and Mother him. 2. Drag him out of bed in the morning and make sure he goes to work. If he a got a bad hangover phone his place of employment and say he a sick.3. Clean up the bed when he vomits or worse. 4. Tell him not to strike or yell at the children. Strike or yell at the children herself. 5. Encourage him to drink at Home so she can keep an Eye on him and hopefully the rest of the world won t know about his 6. Ask the children to phone the bars he frequents and instruct them to a go get daddy and bring him 7. Complain about the Money he spends on alcohol. 8. Buy More for him or give him Money to buy it himself. 9. Pour it Down the sink. 10. Blame his drinking on his friends or the people he works with. A a. A 11. Blame it on the army the Navy or the air Force. 12. Use sex As a weapon to control him. 13. Cry Over him and let him see her red eyed and miserable. 14. Refuse to sleep with him. 15. Keep on having children by him. 16. Buy him tools or sports equipment so he will have something to do besides drink. ,. Ann Landers 17. Leave him 18. Go Back to him. I 19. Spend the night in a hotel. ,. 20. Spend it with the neighbors. 21. Run to his Mother and Tell on him. 22. Give him the a silent 23. Tell him to phone if he wont be Home for supper and then scream at him when he does phone. 24. Charge him with assault.25. Withdraw the charges. 26. Tell him to Cook for himself because he failed to come Home to cat on time. 27. Pray he will quit drinking. 28. Pray he will drink himself to death. 29. And finally a when some crisis in the Home forces her to do so a she will do the Only thing that makes sense. She will get her husband or herself and the children out of the House unless he promises to quit drinking for Good and proves it by going to alcoholics Anonymous. A a. Been there letters to this column should a addressed to Ann Landers co the stars and stripes. Unit 29480, Apo 09211. A. A c creators Syndicate. No need to feel like a Dummy when Boss is on phone editors note dear Abby is on vacation. She left behind some of her favorite letters from 1980. Dear Abby i am a Secretary who qualifies in the a i never thought id be dear Abby Quot club but i really need help with this problem. When someone Calls to talk to my Boss and i Tell the caller that he is engaged in a Telephone conversation the caller invariably says a How Long do you think hell be a a. Now really Abby i am not a mind Reader and there is virtually no Way of knowing whether he will be tied up on the phone for an hour or Only two minutes. 1 always say politely a a in a sorry but i have no Way of then i am made to feel like a Dummy. Abby on your feet. Please give us secretaries a Quipp reply to this asinine question. A. A a a. A a a. ,. A . Dear . Instead of telling the caller that the Boss is on the phone simply say a a in a sorry he a unavailable now but if you care to leave your name and number i will have him return your Call As soon As end of problem. Dear Abby. My problem is my husband s family we get along Fine for the most part but when it comes to politics and social issues we disagree violently. In order to keep every family get together from erupting into a noisy Battle i just keep my Mouth shut. However my children Are now bid enough to understand the talk and i done to want some of the erroneous bigoted statements made by my in Laws it to go unchallenged. My husbands family always initiates these political discussions. How in the world can i remain silent without destroying my children a belief in my ideals keeping the peace dear keeping a noisy Battle involving poli tics and social issues is much healthier for children than the choked off silence you Are maintaining in the interest of peace and quiet. Speak up. Silence implies Abby a a keeping the peace wrote to say that she and her husbands family had vast disagreements when it came dear Abby to politics and social issues so in order to keep every family get together from erupting into a noisy Battle she kept her Mouth shut. She said she Felt guilty afterwards because now that her children Are old enough to understand the talk she did no to want some of the erroneous and bigoted statements made by her husbands family to go unchallenged. You replied that a noisy Bat lie involving politics is far healthier for children than the choked off silence maintained in the interest of peace arid quiet. Silence implies agreement. E. A Abby i grew up in a politically Active family and i consider the experience valuable. I highly recommend that keeping the peace should Challenge any views she considers bigoted or wrong. She owes it not Only to herself but to her children. \. Coincidentally the Day i read that item in your column i saw the following quote displayed in the office of judge . Sanders Shepherdsville by a it is better to debate a question without settling it than to Settle a question without debating Joseph Joubert Julia b. Barry Louisville by. 6 jdres5�d,0 dear Abb c/0 th0 Stan. O Universal press Syndicate ,. Call the Usa Only per min. 06221-12140/12178 from Germany Zurich Gay it Lloyd
