European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - July 1, 2007, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Page 4 scene stars and stripes july family spouses among wars wounded a Reader posted a question and shared her struggle with her husbands Post traumatic stress disorder on the spouse Calls blog q my husband and i have been married 18 he joined the military at 34 years we were having problems before he but i thought it brought us any he was in Iraq for three then sent to Walter Reed with he kept in Contact with me until he was moved into the Malone i went up for the weekend and he treated me i Felt As if i was somewhere i want then a week later he told me he didst want me in his i feel so alone the military became such a big part of my life at an older age than but i feel As though spouse Calls mat Aso me appreciate it i feel As though the spouses Are forgotten when we also go through a lot of mental i wish i could make my husband understand what he has done to i have a lot of respect for what he has done for our but that is Sepa it oui i Tern Barnes marriage be he is on All kinds of and that could have something to do with sometimes i wish someone in the military would care about where the spouses Are coming i know this happens All the but it seems to me they Are taught a code of Honor  they Back it up i feel As though i have been just thought i would see if you could give me some Cav scout wife a As you Are combat trauma affects the whole please find a trusted professional although you feel there Are Many people who do if you live near a base or you can go to a the or family Center for help in finding a facet face counselling is also Avail Able at no Cost to you through military one for More go to look below the Banner and Click on i person you can be referred to a professional Counselor in your you can also Call 18003429647 to talk with someone who will guide you through the it is important to speak with someone who is familiar with military life and its connect with trusted friends and family and let them know what you Are going keep reaching there Are people who do care and want to help As you the medications your husband is taking could certainly affect his As does the disorder talk to someone and give your husband time for Healing and treatment before you make a life Chang ing next week ill have More information on this important subject an interview with aphrodite author of Back from the front combat and the Terri Barnes is a military spouse and a Mother of three living in Send questions or comments to . 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