European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - September 06, 1977, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Page 18 the stars and stripes tuesday september 6, 1977 modern Medicine old age need t be Tim of decline deterioration by Michael j. Halberstam  is pushing 40. She diets incessantly spends too much Money on cosmetics an clothes and too much time at the hairdressers. She is afraid of growing  is in his mid-40s. He drinks too much is getting fat and is Short of breath when replays catch with his kids. He too is afraid of growing  has taught Harriet Joe and the rest of us to fear old age and indeed to Den that it will happen. But sooner or later it does happen and when it does society withdraw Many of the vital life supports that younger people take for granted jobs adequate healthcare transportation Legal services decent housing and Protection from  these harsh realities old age need not be merely a time of deterioration and de Cline. We can decide to grow old gracefully and successfully even while enhancing our present lives whether we Are 33,44, or 55. George Bernard Shaw once observed that a perpetual Holiday is a Good working Defini Tion of  old age sends the bodies an minds of millions of older americans on per manent vacation leaving them nothing to doubt wait for death. But we can change this dreary late in life plan if we begin soon enough. First we need to gain and maintain physical vigor. This Means exercising Noojin order to be Able to exercise later. A flattish Seden tary 43-year-old is already old in body and will not improve with age unless he or she begin regular workouts in a sport that will last a lifetime. Jogging bicycling and swimming can be continued into old age. People who have remained creative and productive Well into their later years have a some earlier Point in life ordered their values and their ways of thinking about aging. One of the essential tasks of Middle age therefore is 2 Swiss companies changing ingredients in painkillers Basel a two leading Swiss drug companies said they Are changing formulations of widely used painkillers to  a substance linked by recent tests to a cancer causing  of Basel said the changeover involves opt Alidon one of its top moneymakers and Tonoyan and would be completed within three , also of Basel said they would replace Atinoph Enzone in their formulations i Balginy spas Mol i Balginy and org Ayrin worldwide by the end of the year. To anticipate loss of work and of loved ones which Are the major sustaining forces for most people. In their place the person who Ages successfully must substitute  goals and relationships and recognize the pressures and realities of  reality is that physical strength and attractiveness even with exercising will inevitably decline. The person who Ages Well offsets this loss by appreciating in himself other qualities that come Only with longevity Wisdom and  also Means that children grow up and leave that spouses relatives and friends  survivors who fail to find  outlets for love and Friendship descend into despair. The film Harry and Tonto about an old Man and a cat who journey across the country to Gether is a Good example of How an older person can replace these  aging person must accept a decline though certainly not a disappearance of these drive. In its place can come sensuality which involves the entire body and not jus the genitals As a source of pleasure and inti Macy which is the emotional Side of sensuality and involves deep caring for and Trust of another person at any age a person should develop mental flexibility so that past experience does not automatically shape his future life. The Well adjusted person shapes his life to  experiences instead. Old age Means retirement and this May Cal for nothing less than a  value system in which Competition status achievement an ambition Are replaced by cooperation Friend ship and  activities beyond the  age has the great advantage of allowing us to be selfish if we wish. Husbands who Havel bored for their wives or wives who have been servants to their children  can live for themselves. If someone wants to do Volun Teer or Community work Fine but if he does t there s no pressure to accept the , an older person must decide whether to dominate his body which will decline i health or to let his body dominate him. In Stead of relying upon physical Comfort he needs to develop other relationships and activities that endure despite state of  old successfully Means examining where we Are where we Are headed what obstacles await and what resources we have for getting there satisfactorily. The future can be something that happens to us or it can be something we cause to happen. New York times therapies in self help books questioned by psychologists san Francisco a the millions of americans who Are buying self help books May be helping themselves to the harmful therapies of charlatans a panel of psychologists said  psychologists including one who has written self help books suggested that a guide for Consumers should be circulated to Check up in a scientific Way on authors  were careful to say that even the most irresponsible books such As those which Promise instant happiness or a better sex life overnight should not be  really wants this stuff to be censored said or. Perry London of the univer sity of Southern California at the american psychology association s 85th annual meeting Here. What this organization could do is sup port a consumer s guide making very Clear twas trying to offer a Public service not trying to establish standards London told a  conference. In recent weeks such titles As How to take control of your life looking out for number 1" and i m of you re of have been on Best seller lists All Over the country. The panel did not single out any specific Bookfor criticism. The Apa s concern is prompted by boo Sand tape recordings that encourage mental self help Side stepping the psychologist or psychiatrist. While it might seem self serving for psychologists to criticize the trend Many of the authors Are Apa members  material being produced  has an Aura of respectability it never had before London noted. Or. Albert Ellis author of Many such books said Consumers have Little to judge a Book by mostly blurbs on the cover and advertisements. It s time we did something to validate the testimonials and Check up in a scientific Way he said. Ellis said there is significant potential for harm in some of the books. 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Where does the Point of Justice lie Anonymous of course dear Anonymous True it i tragic when the body outlives the mind Bat nobody gets a contract which guarantees the length of time either will last or which will go first the body or the  s a Law against shooting people because they Are no longer  and if there were to Law would you do it i think not. So quit eating yourself up and accept with Grace that which you cannot change. Dear Ann this letter is a answer for the sad Mother who wrote about her crippled so who had the slight Limp. I was the ugly girl no one danced with because of a congenital deformity. People wonder if i am a crippled  i we tall through High school and col lege without a single Date an never was invited to the great senior prom of life  that Mother to get her son to go to activities that do not involve couples. He should stay away from dances and visit Art galleries boat shows concerts stage plays and movies. He could join a club pertaining to his favorite  one of his men friends will introduce him to his the Friend s sister who will be interested in the boy because he has a Beautiful spirit and she won t even notice the Limp. I be been there dear Friend terrific advice. One word from someone who a been there is More valuable than 1, from an  the important Point of you letter is to stay in circulation and not hide in a Corner and fee sorry for yourself. Dear Ann Linton and i bought into a Lovely condominium a few months ago. Our next door neighbor is a widow. The first time she met Clinton she could t take her eyes off  told us he looks exactly like her deceased husband. Now she has informed us Bot that she is in love with him. At first i thought it was just a pass ing thing but  she watches for Clinton every time he leaves the apartment and returns just to have a few words with him. He is flattered by her attention and i believe he is beginning to enjoy it. What can i do about it an old Story with a  wrinkle dear . Don t make an Issue of it or you la create a prob Lem where none exists. Be Friendly laugh about it in the meantime fix her up with a Nice widower or divorced Man who looks As much like Clinton As pos sible. C 1977 Field enterprises inc