European Stars And Stripes (Newspaper) - May 23, 1985, Darmstadt, Hesse                                May 1985 the stars and stripes Page 9 spouse does Tine coping in sea of women by Tony Nauroth Nuernberg Bureau chief Germany David Grosskurth finds himself awash in a sea of is a male Hes married to 4 Kathy of the 501st adjutant general and he says Hes doing just Fine coping with the thank there Are situations that occasionally Bend his ego out of for while in line at the com hell Trade the latest on Price information and discuss the Best deals of the but he draws the line at swapping nor is he waiting breathlessly to join the wives i do empathize with he says of his female feel lonely when my wife goes to the Field for two i also see a need to fight for greater recognition of the contributions made by military regardless of our had to convince unit of status Grosskurth arrived in Ansbach seven months ago when his sponsor was assigned to the 1st army for the first three they slept in separate rooms in a Barracks because it took them awhile to convince the replacement unit that he was not in the other than and the minor irritants of Check cashing officials who want to know which unit Hes or who ask Kathy which unit her husband is life has been pretty they in mistaken for somebody son be cause i look so Grosskurth but usually the automatic Assumption is because in i must be the Grosskurth got a Job working with the Ansbach Mili tary Community morale support fund property for three months before while he he was really i had to ask am i or am i just along for the ride such he give him an insight into what women As spouses go through especially those who have work skills that remain unused and ambitions that Are frustrated while waiting for the sponsors tour to Grosskurth has a degree in computer programming from Central Texas he cant use there Are no Job so in biding my she has the in hopping from one place to sometimes i feel like i have no the Grosskurth have been married for years and say they have done Well reconciling their relationship to the army Way of doing the Atlanta couple got married after she graduated from Basic he had been a Soldier Recruiter but was medically from the they say the Only time their army relationship interfered with their marital relationship was when Kathy got photo by Tony Nauroth civilian spouse David Grosskurth gives his service member a orders to come to and he got a computer programming Job offer in we had a real Row Over he now there both in since he got his things have been you cant let it get to he youve got to Grosskurth said that most army paperwork and trans actions Are already set up to Deal with the regardless of if there Are any there a matter of individual attitude sometimes on the part of the service person behind a other times on the part of a wounded male spouse who must Deal in a Topsy Turvy Grosskurth has some advice for male make sure of your commitment to your its got to be take whatever Job you can simply working boosts if two military members Are married and one is thinking of leaving the think hard about i have a Friend who was in this he got found himself with nothing to developed an inferiority com plex and turned into a dont let curiosity seekers get to does Grosskurth feel like a curiosity lets put it this Way 1 feel like a vast bul in learning to Deal with As for the word its Best not to mention he says its a real ego its he couple made decision to let military wife Lead Way by Joe Mapother staff writer Ramstein Germany where Katherine Bolton her we made the decision when we got married that i was the More care Rori enter said an air Force staff that How they ended up in Max takes a lighthearted approach to being a military members husband Ive noticed that they dont offer As much for enlisted personnel husbands As for Ive thought about joining the enlisted wives said the Musi  Max and Katherine had a pretty Good idea what was in store when Katherine left Florida to join the 7486th comptrollers Max grew up in an air Force environment and did a stint in the army Katherine has eight years of service experience since Leav ing her Home in it was the air Force that brought Kath Erine to Hurlburt Field in fort Walton and the couple met there and were married two years a year later Katherine was on her Way to Max was to follow As soon As suitable quarters were Katherine managed to find housing on the Economy in fairly Short but she photo by Gus Schuettler air Force staff Katherine husband Max said it want a piece of German landlords wanted to meet the Man of the House before and he was waiting Back in sunny Florida for word from help came in the form of a retired army couple living downstairs in the building that Max and Katherine eventually moved Katherine credits their willingness to help and their knowledge of the language with smoothing the they finally convinced the landlord in they do have reverse she but there were More hurdles to one of them was negotiating the As far As Katherine was of a thousand pounds Worth of household goods space to transport Maxs musical equipment you have to live with a in a to realize what goes into she Max has Given thought to playing again professionally and keeps his hand in by playing with Katherine said she would gladly put off a return to the Rigours of Long practice and nighttime what is said both Katherine and is maintaining work schedules that allow them time for that took the first Job he found was at the base recreation Center and involved weekend Max then spent a stint As a Cook at an officers club before Landing his present Job As a forklift operator in a base Ware the couple Are not import what if one of us makes More Money Katherine i feel that in household chores Are shared with a similar disregard to who does when it needs to be we do said i am a liberated Katherine but i dont do the Slack is picked up when laundry needs the two now work near each other and can share lunch they often eat at something that will become easier after they move on to avoid problems that might crop up from working near each other and living Katherine and Max set aside evenings when they do things Independent Katherine goes Max prefers a rainout might result in Bowling for life in Europe has been both we knew in we would get things working the Way we said Max said he  mind staying if she wants to extend and that her decision ill be wherever she