European Stars And Stripes (Newspaper) - September 11, 1986, Darmstadt, Hesse Thursday september 11,198g the stars and stripes Ann Landers dear Ann lenders my wife and i just resumed from our honeymoon. In was seventh heaven for me until the third Day when she told me something thai has been weighing i on my mind like a ton fleas it seems Sally has slept with five men who attended our wed Ding. She named an usher two guests the photographer and the Minuter. All this came out after too much Champagne. At first i thought she was kidding but it soon become apparent that she was 1 asked Why she had t told me when we were going together. She did the was afraid i might not marry her. I had never heard one whisper of gossip about this woman. She has begged forgiveness and promised to be faithful she wants a family right away. So do 1. But i am shaken by what she has told me and 1 want som advice. More than i needed to know in Panama City dear pan hold off bating a family ninth you fee confident out the marriage is on solid ground. It s going to take a while for you to recover rum the i howl time la you Best ally and for heaven s Sake Tell Sally to keep her ninth that the minister Dot sol need be a Budry. Dear Ann Landers while preparing a lunch for unexpected visitors my Mother asked me to go to the storeroom and get a can of tuna 1 noticed a can with a Date stamped on it july 1974. 1 brought in to mom along with a can of More recent Vintage last year Smy dad happened to be standing in Lite Kitchen. When i showed him the Dale on the can he said no Way would he touch it. He went to throw it out and Mosaid. Wait that tuna is perfectly of. Nothing can happen to it in. The can. I d eat it this very minute. He got her to use the More recent can bul that 1974model is sitting in the pantry until we hear from you. How about it Ann the d family in new England cud c the Tod my be just line but i would t at it twelve years is a Long time to hang to a Tia of fish when a Cott Imer what you stud to Tost it mighty limn gambit. Toss it dear Ann Landers Dale not his real name and i have been living together for seven months. The problem his personal Hygiene. When we were dating he showered and brushed his Teeth regularly. He would never have dreamed of getting close to me without using a Mouth Wash or i mint. The Man was immaculate since we be been sharing an apartment be has gone five Days without showering or brushing his Teeth. Lost night when he wanted to make love 1 almost threw up. 1 have tried talking to him but nothing works. There was a time when i wanted to marry Dale More than anything in the world 1 am having second thought about a life with a Man who Hain t enough Pride to keep Bis body clean. Why is he like this is there any Hope for our rela lion ship baffled and undecided dear b. And tithe Type of be Harlor Yon describe it something deeper haul Cardif Snen or lady Lemee. The Man has a cd Huck in he thinker. He Vecdi counsel into get a Mott if i Obet Arfre behaviour. Paft Raj tit Inlet Hentcelt to get ook help. If u Bosben you now it will drive you crazy later. I Moto � of ass Ssmon of nil in Mhz to 01 of Tok Sun my form Page 11 letters writer opposes credit card purchases do Scricc Membra really believe that cafes is doing them a favor by extending them credit card Pur Chase privileges this has been offered in the name of convenience supposedly for the service member. All cafes has done is shifted the bad accounts collection problem from cafes to the credit card companies. In will be interesting to watch the methods used in collecting Lardy payments in Europe what will the average Servic member receive about the same As the average stateside civilian grief. Credit cards Are an insidious Security Blanket peo ple feel Good with the knowledge that they can expand their purchasing Power by 11,000 to $2,000 or More per card. I got an offer fast week from & Bank for a card that featured $25,000 that Good feeling is eventually replaced by the anguish of 18 percent compound interest on Urc payable debts. The stereos Vars Etc hive Long lost the Luster they had at Purchase. The card Holder then takes other credit cards fro Mother Banks to buy other things often necessities like car repairs gasoline and even food. It s a common scenario. The problem can Only compound into even Tual bankruptcy. To wit an officer recently came into my office to inquire about some stocks he had read about. Some suitability questions must always be answered be fore such a Purchase. They revealed the following almost no debt free assets practically no Ouier investments total credit card debt s 18,000-plus. In two years at retirement and subsequent half pay he will be paying $3,240 per year in credit card inter est. Under the tax code changes the 13,240 will not be deductible. I told him that before we could talk further he would have to take my scissors and Cut up his credit cards into my waste Basket. He walked out of my of fice unable to comply of this situation could entrap an otherwise very intelligent Man it could entrap almost anyone. Credit problems arc simply compounded by too much Pride to seek outside help soldiers especially senior officers Are supposed to be immune to making such financial mistakes so they usually suffer in silence. My advice never use a credit card unless there is no previous month balance. If you Haven t paid off last month completely How will you pay this month plus last month in fact if you can t save for the Purchase before making it How will you pay for in plus interest now better yet destroy your credit cards. Otherwise two Yean from now you could be looking at a very dismal financial future. As George Washington said of govern ment it i Tike lire a dangerous servant and a fear some cannot the same be said of credit cards when asked by the clerk should we put this on your credit Caitor use an i advice on dope just say George chartered financial Coom Hant Heidelberg child of alcoholics provides information i read the article help for adult children of Alco Holics with great interest. I am an adult who was raised in an alcoholic Home and would Welcome the Opportunity to meet others in similar situations. 1 have looked into the matter but have found no support groups in Usa eur for per sons like myself. If someone knows of such an Opportunity Here i Hope they will write to your paper with this information. The Arkle gave no information on How to obtain help with this particular life situation 1 have read a great Deal in this area and would like to share the following resources with your readers. The National association for children of alcoholics organization Day in response to the letter he sees organization Day As wasteful " i d like la ask the writer if he attends those As he Calls them contrived excuses to take off a Day with and if they were held on weekends would he go i think of organization Day As one Day out of the year when the Soldier and his family can get out and meet the spouse s Bosses so to speak on an informal basis. It gives some organizations much needed cohesive Ness. And it raises the morale of the troops after Allisn t one of our primary duties to take care of the troops we Are soldiers 24 hours a Day and 36 s 366 for leap Yean Days year. What is one contrived excuse to Lake off a Day with pay sgt mania jul Woolen Elfei Greece is a National Clearinghouse for distribution of information regarding children of alcoholics. Contact them by writing to National association for children of alcoholics 31706 coast 201south Laguna Calif. 92677 the Haze Don foundation is a non profit education Al group that publishes a wide variety of very helpful books tapes and pamphlet on All aspects or alcohol ism. For further details write to Haledon educational materials pleasant Valley Road Box 176 Center City Minn. S50i2-0176 a Frankfurt area resident help in Heidelberg after Reading your recent article on adult children of alcoholics we fell compelled to write to you. We at Heidelberg Are fortunate in that we have an adult child of alcoholics meeting on tuesday night sat 7 30. The meeting is held at the Community counselling Center ration Barracks building 117. All who Are interested Are Welcome. We use the same 12 Steps As a and Alanon. 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