European Stars And Stripes (Newspaper) - January 19, 1989, Darmstadt, Hesse                                The stars and stripes Page 11 dear Ann Landers Why is it that neither you nor any other writer in the popular press has Ever written a word on behalf of a group of women who have been overworked and underappreciated for As Long As ican remember the Job i am talking about involves a great Deal of responsibility. The pay is less and the hours Are longer than any other Job i know of. Our Normal workday i from eight to 18 hours Long. We Are supposed to be Able to handle any and All emergencies. We Are expected to be efficient Alert indefatigable affectionate supportive diplomatic and sometimes acrobatic. We must also have a High degree of warmth flexibility competency and integrity. We Are often asked to perform All sorts of extra duties that have nothing Todo with the Job such As move furniture grocery shop drive the family car and take the children to the Doc Tor the dentist for music lessons Etc. We Don t get minimum wage. We Don t get paid time and a half for overtime. We Don t get tips. We watch Over your most valuable possessions your children. We spend More hours with them each Day than you do. We give them the Best that is in us and we try to enrich their lives by providing Quality care. Will you please let us know that we Are appreciated your Nanny  Nanny you spoke for a great Many women today and i thank you. A Good Nanny is Worth her weight in Gold. Too often she is taken for granted and is the last to be rewarded. I Hope this column will serve As the catalyst for a Good Many raises around the country. Don t forget parents the Cost of living has gone up for your Nanny too. Dear Ann Landers i have been through a year of hell with my 19-year old daughter. During that time i be Learned a few things. The most important was to rethink my role As a father. Your readers might profit from my experience. I used to believe that a father should Juve advice and offer opinions that had t been asked for. Now i real ize the role of father is to answer questions and pro vide information when asked. I used to Tell my daughter what she should think an do. Now i allow her to figure these things out for herself. I used to try to spare my daughter the pain of Mak