European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - March 24, 1991, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Sks�b8ssbbs�w> a. A. A a do single people eat spinach with vinegar Erma Bombeck Universal press Syndicate of a Rich women cat it the a single i  it hits in the late afternoon i i when they stand in front of the re a Al. Fng Rator and try to pull together a yet another meal. They rationalize that if they did t have a family to feed they d grab something to Scarf Down while hanging Over the sink or Graze on the front Lawn for 15 or 20 minutes. Who knows they a probably lose about 15 pounds. But As it is they must fill a trough full of the Basic foods that a family will swill in less than 10 minutes. ,. The boredom corns from having to prepare More than a thousand meals a year. Every time 1 see a nest of Newborn Birds with their beaks open demanding to be fed i too fantasize Over wll in must be like just to feed yourself., my husband recently had occasion to be out of Towi for several weeks fit a the first time in years i entered a House that was All mine. This was great a i did t have to make a bed if i did no to want to. I could play my stereo so loud my Gums bled. And i could eat what i wanted any time 1 wanted to. The first night i ate dinner at 4 30 in the afternoon. 1 made myself a bowl of Burnt Popcorn. 1 love Burnt Popcorn. By bedtime 1 was starved so 1 made myself a Chili dog and opened a can of spinach drowned it. In vinegar and covered it with Crisp Bacon. My husband hates spinach. I was awake All night. The next Day 1 ale an entire pizza for lunch arid for dinner had a Peanut butter and banana Sandwich onion rings a plate of Angel hair pasta a bag of Taco chips with guacamole dip and a weight watchers ice Cream bar. After that my eating habits started to deteriorate by the end of the second week 1 realized Ketchup was the Only vegetable i d seen in five a clays. A a a a ,. Quot a i Wasny to using plates or silverware anymore., v one Day As i was hoisting a half gallon juice Carton up to my lips i saw my reflection in the Chrome Ort the refrigerator and realized a i am turning into my own kids Quot i had never been so depressed in my entire life in fact an Anima House Quality had come Over the ent ire House i Wasny to dressing in the mornings newspapers were All Over the place and i stayed up watching television until All hours and calling people who w Ere asleep. Is there a lesson to be Learned from All of this 1 think so. There is a place in everyone a life for decadence. Just ease up on the vinegar before you go to bed. Miss manner Judith Martin United features ear miss manners  elderly h it mothers life revolves around her live b b a Kiln tit had in my daughter 28. Has a Lar had More difficulty than the other four in getting a Job and supporting herself. Because of this my Mother has taken from her modest funds to help her with tuition a monthly allowance and gifts of clothing. My daughter rarely thanks anyone for gifts hut 1 find this particularly reprehensible in the Case of my mothers gifts. I did not bring her up this Way and i get extremely angry with her about it what do you suggest should be done gentle Reader a something should be Al. Though miss manners appreciates the fact that you tried and that a 28-year-old is beyond the reach of child rearing. You might Tell your Mother How you feel. You might even hint that you  futile to help support someone who has no recognition of what this Means. Miss manners cannot help thinking that the etiquette problem is not unrelated to your daughters other problems and the Jolt of finding that ingratitude docs not inspire gun Eros by May be useful to her a Bear miss manners a i recently Learned that the son of our former neighbors committed Sui Cid about a year ago. Because they were our neighbors for Many years i Felt a certain closeness to them. My first inclination was to write them a note expressing my sympathy. My friends cautioned that since so much time has elapsed id be opening an old wound and that since suicide is taboo Horoscope for the week of March 25. Aries March 21 april 19 revolutionary tide Rolls in work off tension in. Gym. Pul credit cards in deep freeze. Reorganize work space go Art Hunting. A a. A Taurus april 20-May 20 follow through on Hunch. Wage War on laziness obstinacy. Articulate feelings with enthusiasm. Love boat enters tranquil Waters. Quot gemini May 21-june 20 reunite with relatives finish letters Long distance communication. Negate dangerous liaisons. Move slowly in business and Commerce. \ cancer june 21-july 22 let creative imagination run wild. Asking questions gains allies hold the line on spending. Hard work discipline bring a Jackpot a a Leo july. 23-aug. 22 turn the tables on stagnation invite fiends for glad tidings. Movies and amusement in Vogue. Initiate monthly plans. Try a new hairstyle. A. A a Virgo aug 23-sept. 22 soul searching clears out psychic cobwebs. Locate misplaced items shop for values. Your written word commands  Jovial a. Libra sept. 23-oct. 22 gain Access lose Cret information. Don t shoot the messenger. Love relationship rekindles. Play waiting game at they  appreciate knowing that the news had travelled to me i had no intention of mentioning the cause of death gentle Reader a opening the wound do your friends imagine that it has closed miss manners despairs at the rationales people will invent to stamp out Courtesy and kindness. You have been close to these people and they lost their son. As you rightly surmise the cause of death is not a suitable topic for a letter of sympathy. Saying that you Are sorry and that you care. Is.  ���-.�?�. A a a. A a a. A dear miss manners a i have written a letter to an association that is dedicated to giving assertiveness lessons. Giving up on a dear ladies and a a mesdames a and unable to plur Alize �?oms.,�?� i called a Friend for help. ,. The letter has been sent off following her instructions without salutation or closing. There must be a salutation for feminist organizations that is the a abbreviated form of  several women suggested a dear sirs.�?�. Gentle Reader a dear sirs miss manners is shocked. But she is hardly less shocked at your disdain for the proper forms a ladies Quot and  she considers it a it Ola lion of female self re specs to denigrate terms associated with women and advocate the use of those associated with men. Surely this is the very opposite of feminism. Miss manners also finds offensive any Suggs Tion that feminism requires stripping life of its Little courtesies a letter without a salutation is too Curt for her taste. A like a a miss and �?omrs.,&Quot,  is derived from the older and once respectable All purpose be  male title  however she does not recommend addressing respectable people As a mistresses a nowadays. A  or a a ladies will do just Fine. Work. Rewards accrue. A Scorpio oct. 23-nov, -21. Intuition serves As steady guide. Penetrate mysteries. Applause headed your Way. Don t forget to Bow. Nurture relatives. A a Sagittarius nov. 22-dec. 20 time for Sawy a business moves. Wave magic Wand. Give needy a helping hand. All is. Shiny and. New. Fill up social Calendar. A a ,. A a a ,.capricorn dec. 21-Jan. 19 communication channels open wide. Be optimistic. Paint your personal masterpiece. Buy Art objects fresh Cut Flowers. Reveal Charm. Aquarius Jan. 20-feb 18 plan an exotic vacation. Stock up on health foods try new tactic in Romance. Stress compassion ,. Pisces feb 19-March 20 eliminate old fears blocks. Examine motives. Say no to extravagance. Bite the Good humor bar. Generosity rewards you doubly a Copley news service Page 10 a sunday a March 24. 1991