European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - April 09, 1991, Darmstadt, Hesse                                By Chuck Roberts. Staff writer after the fanfare of a heroes Welcome wears off the return trip to married he can be a Rocky Road for service members coming Home from operation desert storm. A a Quot you have a  is Ripe for marital problems a said it col. Bruce Murphy. He is part of a v corps. Program in Germany to make awaiting family members aware of problems they May face and How to Deal with them. They Call the awareness program Quot desert calm.�?�. Marital problems could arise because the  changed both the returning Soldier and the awaiting a y spouse Murphy  we  Quot in a bad marriage there May be Only one person.  said Murphy who is the chief of assistance and investigations for the v corps inspector general. Quot now you have two people who have changed in a Short period of time.�?�. A a  a a. The service member returning from the Gulf May have seen or done things in combat that have caused profound and psychological changes. Many of the spouses left behind have changed because they have been forced to take on responsibilities formerly assumed by their husbands. Many Are paying Bills and changing the Oil in the car for the first time. Quot things did no to freeze for either one of them when they text Quot Murphy said. Quot they need to recognize the changes that have taken place in each other and decide How they want to go on from there.�?�. Daisy Figueroa says her husband Carlos returned from saudi Arabia a changed Man changed for the Bettera. A a a a a a a a a a a a a a. A Figueroa 23, a specialist with the 1 St inf div fwd at. Goppinger Germany said he Learned to tame., a bad temper while working two months at the port of Dhahran. Quot those scuds Are pretty imminent danger Quot he said Quot it being in the Gulf put my life into a different perspective being in saudia Arabia was like cold water on my bad  a. A a. A a. A a. A Figueroa saw a different woman in his wife when he got Back. Y a. A a a a y  Quot a Quot expected her to be a total nervous wreck but she was pretty confident Mote Independent than when i left her Quot he said. Yew by by a by by. A she thinks so too  a a a. A a. Quot i did his taxes and handled the finances. Normally he handles the Money Quot she said in addition she cared for their 2-year-old son. Carlos or. A i. For Christmas she flew to the United states to stay with her parents but said she Felt More comfortable when she returned to Germany to be with other women in her. Situation. A a a a. A a. A. A. A a a Quot they Don t really know Back Home in the United states what you re going through Quot she said. Y a the couple agree the circumstances strengthened a their marriage. A y a Quot a by a a a we saw Little things we needed to fix Quot he said. Staff sgt. Randy Hill also with the 1st inf div fwd said his biggest problem Vas learning to be a father again. A a a a a a a. A a a a. A a a a. Hill 33, and his wife Rebecca Are the parents of Mercedes 3, and 9andy jr., 18 months. Y Quot they be got to get to know you again. You have to redo everything to re learn their Little habits again Quot he said. Hill s adjustment went  we had a big thunderstorm right after i got Back Quot he a a said. Quot the first time i heard the clap of Thunder i reached for my hip. For his Gas mask a. A the sudden sound had reminded him of a Patriot. Missile firing. A a a. Quot i found a different wife a Little stronger and self. A dependent Quot Hil said y a Roberta Hoback said she has changed since her husband went to saudi Arabia shortly alter Christmas Eind she intends to make some of the changes a a permanent Way of life a a. Quot what s going to be hard is that i a Active Quot Hoback said. Quot i like my aerobics and i done to want to give it. Up and it Means either he has to come with me or be Home join the Wake of one in a series Gulf vets families face period of readjustment v a. 5&s Randy Pruitt Daisy and Carlos Figueroa with their son Carlos or. The separation brought on by the War strengthened their marriage the couple say. Page 14 a the stars and stripes. A. Tuesday april