European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - August 24, 1991, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Ann Landers dear readers i am on vacation but i have left behind some of my favorite columns that you May have missed the first time around. I Hope you enjoy them. Ann Landers dear Ann Landers Many parents Lack consideration when they name their Newborn infants. Id like to give your readers some guidelines. Their children will be forever grateful. 1. Done to choose a name just because it is popular at the moment. Ten years from now Jessica or Candy will be one of eight in her class with the same name. 2. Choose a first name that goes Well with the last name. If your family name starts with a done to give your Little girl a first name ending in n because a name like Marilyn Nash will come out sounding like Marilyn Ash. 3. Done to name your child for a to celebrity movie Star or sports figure. In five years the Star May be forgotten and you la be sorry. 4. Done to Combine your husbands first name with a feminine ending and invent something a a cute like Markella or Johnette. In later years the poor kid will be asked a is that one name or two a a what was that name again John what a a would you please spell that name again a 5. Done to let your husband talk you into naming the baby Herkimer or some such name just because it has been in the family for a Long time. Its not Worth it. In a signing this. Made my mistakes and in a sorry dear Abby editors note Abby is on a two week vacation. Following is a selection of some of her favorite past letters dear Abby. My problem May seem Small to some but to me its very important. My husband and i have been married for More than 30 years during _ which time he has been a Good husband and provider. He has Only one fault which really irritates me. He surely must take Vitamin a a in because that a his favorite word. When he talks about a trip we took together he says a when i went to Yosemite a or hell say a i have a grandson or a i own some  he talks As though he does no to have a wife. I May As Well be dead. It makes me feel so Small and insignificant. Its terribly humiliating. Is it wrong to feel Hurt about this done to suggest that i talk to my husband. I have and its done no Good. Hurt dear Hurt your husbands overdose of Vitamin �?o1�?� has Proba. Saturday August 24, 1991 dear sorry thanks for the advice. Too bad you did no to sign your name a or let us know what you did to your children that prompted you to write. Dear Ann Landers the letter from the teen Ager whose father called him belittling names brought Back some heartbreaking memories. I was a tall girl for my age. My dad took Delight in calling me a the big Oxx or a the Long drink of  i also had a crooked tooth in front. He never lost a Chance to Call it to the attention of a new Friend by asking a How do you like our snaggletooth Witch a because of my father s merciless belittling mom called it a teasing a Little grew up self conscious and shy. It Wasny to until 1 left Home for College that i realized i was far from ugly and not much taller than most girls my age. Although i still have moments of insecurity a in a in my 40s a in be come to realize that my father did this to compensate for his own feelings of Inadequacy. Name callers have their own private hang ups. When Young people understand this it can help them feel less bitter. Receiving end dear receiving your letter contained almost All the advice i was prepared to give. Id like to add one More thought however. Most parents who Are unable to show affection to their children were denied affection by their own parents. Sometimes it takes therapy to break the Chain. In the absence of professional help just understanding can perform miracles. C creators Syndicate Bly become addictive by now. But if he a a Good Man hell make a conscious Effort to avoid hurting you. Remind him that Vitamin a a we is Good for marriage and ask him to leave Vitamin a a in on the shelf for a while. Dear Abby i feel just terrible. A Friend of ours brought a Young woman Over for us to meet. His wife died about a year ago she was very loud talkative and Bossy which was disappointing to us because we knew his first wife who was a real lady. The following Day the Man came Over alone and asked us what we thought of his woman Friend. We told him the truth. Well you guessed it. They Are being married and we Are not invited to the reception were we wrong in being honest my husband thinks we were. Can to lie dear can to honesty is always the Best policy but you should know that no Man wants an honest opinion of a horse after he a bought it. 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