European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - October 13, 1991, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Page 14 the stars and stripes sunday october 13,1991 faces n places Duke declines love potion from wire reports the Duke of Edinburgh husband of the British Queen on Friday declined an offer of african aphrodisiacs. Four Teaspoons of the Brown Green and yellow powders would have Cost him 40 cents said Amos rus Ike a tribal healer in Harare Zimbabwe. Rus Ike an officially recognized a a no Anaa Quot or Witch doctor said the Duke asked him about Nis remedies during a visit to an open air Market in Harare with Queen Elizabeth ii and City mayor Simon Chokwa Vaire. A i told him this Medicine gives men More Power Quot rus Ike said. Prince Philip smiled and said Quot that s  but he declined to accept a Sample of the aphrodisiacs made from ground plants and known in the local Shona language As a pm Sara a Shavat and a a mundane  the Queen moved on to a vegetable stall without remarking on rus Ike s array of powders roots colourful liquids Ostrich feathers and Bones. The Queen visited a Harare school later Friday. She was on the second Day of a five Day state visit to this Southern african nation that gained Independence from British colonial Rule in 1980.Carter to miss dedication former president Carter wont attend next months dedication of the Ronald Reagan presidential Library because he will be in Africa monitoring elections. Carter president Bush and former presidents Reagan Ford and Nixon a and their wives a had been scheduled to attend the nov. 4 opening of Reagan a Library near Siml Valley Calif. It was to be the first time All five had been together. But Carter backed out because he is to Monitor elections in Zambia on oct. 31 and will stay in Africa through the first week of november. Quot he would like very much to be there a said Carters spokeswoman Carrie Hannon. Quot its simply that the Date for the zambian election had not been set at the time he accepted the invitation to the Reagan  last year All living presidents except Carter made the dedication of the Nixon Library in Yorba Linda Calif. He cited previous commitments. While he was president Reagan came to Atlanta for the dedication of the Carter Library in 1986. Reagan Defeated Carter in his re election bid in 1980.misses his fiddle a futuristic fiddle being Road tested by David Ragsdale of the Rock band Kansas was stolen during a sept. 27 performance in Raleigh . Quot the sound and feel of the instrument was a revelation to me with Rich presence and flawless intonation a he said. Quot now 1 Teel lost without  the High tech Graphite composite electric violin was left in an upstairs dressing room at the showcase concert Hall nightclub during the bands show said police sgt. Warren l. Massey. Two men were seen upstairs but showcase employees thought they were with the group because they were seen talking to band members earlier. The instrument is Worth about $3,600. Harare mayor Simon Chak Wavalue right presents Queen Elizabeth ii with a Straw hat As her husband the Duke of Edinburgh looks  gets the Call there is insufficient evidence to support a woman a claim that she had a three year common Law marriage with baseball Star Dave win fled an appeals court in Houston has ruled. The 1st court of appeals agreed with Winfields lawyer when it ruled thursday that state District judge Allen j. Daggett erred in his instructions to the jury on Winfields statements about the relations ship with Sandra Renfro. Earle Lilly Renfrow a lawyer said a $1.6 million award to her and $3,500 in monthly support for the daughter she had with Winfield will stand until he appeals the Case to the Texas supreme court. The 2-1 ruling from the appeals court overturned a 1989 decision that kicked off divorce and property settlement  toning Down actor Jim Varney said his alter ego the wisecracking Ernest p. Worrell has toned Down in recent years Quot he used to be really abrasive a True Bubba Type who rolled his cigarettes up in his shirt sleeve a Varney said in an interview published Friday in the tennessean in Nashville. A we have a softer gentler know it All now a or As he likes to think of himself a a Man of vision and Scopes a Ann Landers dear Ann Landers in a writing about a Carol the 60-year-old attractive Quot really decent widow who is marrying the 60-year-old widower. He wants to split All expenses Down the Middle while he carefully locks up his assets to make sure his kids get every last dime should he die first. If that woman has a Nickels Worth of brains she will run not walk in the opposite direction. If she is foolish enough to stay she should ask the following questions who will do the housework laundry cooking and cleaning will those chores be split Down the Middle too what if one spouse becomes seriously ill will the other one be compensated for nursing care a when one of them Dies will the remaining mate be permitted to live in the House or will one of the children say Quot this House belongs to me and i d like to move in the first of next month i was involved in such a second marriage and it was a damned mess. I paid half the Bills for an extremely sick husband for five years. I watched his savings mount while i was quietly going broke. When he died i discovered that the Home i thought was ours belonged to his daughter. It seems he had a will that i knew nothing about. The most important words of any marriage ceremony Are these a forsaking All others and Quot with All my worldly goods i thee  if a couple can to utter those words and mean them its not much of a marriage. A Midwest widow dear Midwest widow you be written a convincing letter but i am not sure that i agree with you. For example. If a widower with considerable assets marries a woman who is 30 years younger is she entitled to half his worldly goods chances Are that the deceased wife was a supportive partner who helped him accumulate those goods. Should a late entry be entitled to half of everything not in my Book Buttercup. I received a ton of letters commenting on that widows situation most of them strongly negative. The most direct and shortest came from a Reader in Nebraska. Here it is dear widow you Are better off alone. Dump the bum. Smart too late dear Ann Landers i know you believe children have a right to privacy concerning their personal mail diaries and such. 1 agree. But what about yearbooks do the same rules hold True my children claim no one should read the personal notes Between those covers. Well i did read them and was horrified at the filthy language and sexual references. I thought yearbooks belonged in the family Bookcase but i  dream of leaving this one where anyone might see it. Am i Square i have already informed my younger children that i am not paying for any More yearbooks. Please comment. Rio Rancho . Dear Rio if your kids done to want you to look in their yearbooks done to look. Too bad about the filthy comments. Twenty years from now  be ashamed of what a written inside and the people who wrote the smutty comments will have grown up and settled Down and they wont be especially proud of them either. C creators Syndicate dear Abby like Many others i never thought id be writing to you. My husband and 1 have been married for 20 years. About two years ago he started getting very Bull headed and selfish a even the people at work mentioned it. Our sex life was always of until about two months ago when he bought a video camcorder and announced that he wanted to videotape us having sex Abby 1 have never been a prude but that a where 1 draw the line. I tried to talk him out of it but he said he would not have sex with me again unless it was on film. I asked him to go to counselling with me. He refused a saying i was the one with the problem. 1 asked him to have a medical checkup. He refused. 1 tried to Tell him How degrading it would be for me etc., but to no Avail. He has been badgering me every night for two months dear Abby i am at my with Send. I am sick to death of his badgering and 1 done to know what to do. In be even thought of divorcing him but i still love him and we Are just approaching the time when we could travel and enjoy life. In a signing my real name City and state but please done to use them in your column As i would be very distressed if anyone we knew found out about this. Living a Nightmare dear living you surely know that your husband is a sick Man. You absolutely must get him to a doctor for a psychiatric evaluation. Please done to treat this As anything other than a potentially life threatening illness. Your husbands behaviour could be symptomatic of a brain disorder possibly a tumor. You must talk to your family physician about your husbands sudden personality change. And please write again and give me a Progress report. Dear Abby maybe you can shed some Light on a problem that has been bothering me. Can you Tell me Why my husband who is nearly 70 but in excellent health has in recent years become More and More a a allergic to soap and water Many of my friends of approximately the same age have confided to me that they have the same problem with their husbands. Is there a psychological or physiological explanation for this behaviour a or is it just another Way men have of aggravating their wives Columbus a. Dear Columbus i have heard this complaint before but it applies to women As Well As men. There is no single explanation but 1 offer the following As n person Ages ones senses a bearing and sight a grow Dull so Why not the sense of smell As Well some older people May find it difficult or inconvenient to Bathe Dally. Ipa also possible that they do not change their undergarments daily. Arthritis might also make it painful to Wash themselves thoroughly. C unt Versai press Syndicate