European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - June 14, 1992, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Miss m i is Judith Martin dear miss manners How can 1 ensure my 10 and 12-year-old children a safety and reputation with friends 1 have not met May 1 make discreet inquiries of Mutual friends without being a busybody should i invite the Friend and parents to our House for dessert what is the protocol for parents when Young teens Are dating beyond being chauffeur and chaperone what responsibility do they have to the other child s parents gentle Reader miss manners is glad you Are asking her advice on this so Many parents make the fatal mistake of asking their children instead. Children consider it intensely embarrassing to have their parents ask questions of other parents make Friendly overtures to their friends families and insist on taking responsibility for other children temporarily under their charge. But if children had judgment the parents  need to would they it is not rude Only parental to look after children just As it is not insulting Only childish to be embarrassed by parents. By All Means cultivate your children s friends and their parents. Ascertain under what conditions they will be visiting others a starting with whether the other parents will be at Home which is something one can no longer take for granted. When driving Young teen agers on a Date the Parent observes whatever terms arc agreed upon Between the two families a notably what time the Date is Over. And while apparently totally absorbed in the task of driving sitting alone in front with eyes firmly fixed on the Road he or she nevertheless makes sure nothing off limits is going on in the Back. Dear miss manners 1 have a Friend who docs something in restaurants that i find quite off putting. 1 be tries to get chummy with the waiter even in the nicest establishments. Quot where were you bom a he might ask. Or a mow Long have you been working Here a it seems to be a response to the copious quizzical looks that All attentive waiters give but i drop my silverware figuratively 1 be says that he a just trying to be Friendly or disarming. Am i wound too tightly or is he wound Torii Okor on s gemini May 21-Juno 20 enhanced popularity should make this a pleasant period. Delight in having reached such Heights. Cancer june 21-july 22. Your thinking be air Ini Quot More emotionally orientated. This is Aii it tune to develop your intuition Leo july 2d-aug 22k Heip to bring diverse Gumps together Tot a common goal your efforts Are greatly in vat it d Virgo aug 2d dept 22i recognition leads to advancement on the Job Buck your head out of the crowd and real Libra sept 23 of 22 you be leached a paint of Hap Ity in lax and enjoy year via earned j Scorpio j2 t 2d nov 21 a substantial Gilt May Arne Une pm 2 d y h i a family member in thankful Sagittarius Jox 22 he id comm a motion is you  w and 22 in  the  2 express you nah. Tak j Capricorn  21  of a c i h m on loosely gentle Reader somebody a wound wrong. Why would a reasonable person want to disarm a waiter who is probably balancing a plate of hot food somewhere above the Region of that persons head. It is one of the trials of modern service jobs that the clients feel free to be chummy with people who May Well not wish to socialize with them if Given the Choice. Miss manners recommends that they fend off any unwelcome attention by answering relentlessly a very Good sir a or a whatever you say Madam no matter what the Nosy question. However she docs not want you to take her sympathy As License to Correct the manners of a Friend. That too is an example of Cheeky intrusiveness. Dear miss manners i lost a loved one recently and a family member approached me about taking pictures of her Laid out. I did not think pictures should be taken but i did not say no. I want to remember her before her death not Laid out at the funeral Home. Should i accept the pictures or express How i feel or keep quiet gentle Reader none of the above. The offer was kindly meant and you accepted so there is no Call for condemning the practice. Yet miss manners fully understands that you done to want those pictures anywhere within reach. Fortunately allowances Are made for the raw feelings of the bereaved. You need Only Tell your relative that you appreciate the intention but find that you cannot after All Bear the thought. Dear miss manners my sister eloped. She and her husband Are planning to renew their vows in Church on their first anniversary in the presence of family and friends. There will More than Likely be a cocktail reception afterwards. Many relatives have not acknowledged my Sisters marriage though announcements were mailed. My Mother believes they arc waiting to be invited to a Shower hosted by the brides Sisters of whom one lives out of state one is away to College one lives in the area and one is planning her own wedding. What is the protocol Are showers appropriate once a couple is already married if there is to be a party in their Honor at their first anniversary. Gentle Reader do you imagine that a wedding Shower Calls attention to the need to acknowledge a wedding in the Way that a rain Shower Calls attention to the need to fetch the umbrella if the announcement of the wedding did not bring Forth congratulations miss manners doubts that a series of wedding events up to and including the 50th anniversary is going to do it. You May be relieved to hear that it is too late for a Shower which in any Case should never be Given by relatives. United feature Syndicate an Opportunity to travel but keep the Cost manageable. Pack Light. Aquarius Jen. 20-feb. 18 you set the standards for yourself and others. Be sure to set them High. Pisces feb. 19-March 20. Most of your Energy is rooted internally. Go within to find a no direction. Aries March 21-april 19 Don t hesitate to speak your mind but do it tactfully. You Huit yourself when you Hurt others Taurus april 20-May 20 the More Money you have in Reserve the More secure you feel maintain your savings Teyv news pm awesome women done to get it yet either Erma Bombeck there is probably not a woman alive who has not had to endure some form of sexual harassment or exploitation. In the beginning most of the torment was directed toward what we looked like _ the size and availability of body parts from the neck Down. When we forgot Why we were put on this Earth some truck Driver or construction worker would remind us. When women flexed their brains the move to keep us in our places became even More threatening More insensitive and More severe. In the �?T80s, when a push was on for women s Equality i travelled throughout the United states to talk about these inequities to anyone who would listen. ,.during that time a group wanted to roast me and rive me an award. The Money to be raised was for a Good cause and i said yes. When a representative called to finalize arrangements he said a first we ii have the reception some photo Ops followed by the strippers the luncheon and the program. A hold it a i said. A Tell me again what comes Between the photo Ops and the luncheon. A the strippers.�?�. A Are we talking women taking off clothes strippers a a Marc there any other kind a he laughed. I said emphatically a no a a then How about we put them in a nearby tent so you wont see  a no a i said. I Felt pretty Good about myself. It was a Small Victory for womankind. Who knows maybe we had just turned another Corner. At the luncheon two women came up to the head table and said a you Erma Bombick a i said  they said a a we re the strippers thanks for nothing. You did us out of a Job that we needed. We Hope you re Happy a it is unfair to say a men just done to get  Many men actually do get it. Some neanderthals who feed off their own insecurities will never get it. What is significant Here is that some women still done to get it. They still believe coming out of a cake is better than baking it that scholarships Are awarded for what you look like in a bathing suit and you can to sell Beer until you re undressed and a member of the swedish volleyball team. Until they see the Light baby we be still gut a Long Vay to go. Universal Pioss Syron Aleno kidding toy trivia 1. Or. Potato head a first toy advertised on to 2. Hula hoop a almost called a swing a hoops 3. . Joe a modelled for 23 congressional medal winners4. Frisbee a first called a Pluto platters�?�5. Model trains a invented As window display not toy6. Yoyo a inventor also created Eskimo pies scarce Lviv