European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - January 17, 1993, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Page 16 the stars and stripes faces a no places sunday january 17,1993. A a a 1 a Valentines to vets prime irritation a passerby looks at John Gladden s roof decorated with an inflatable figure of sir Winston Churchill the former British prime minister and a swordfish in the London suburb of Norbury on the front town is a world War ii Churchill tank. Following complaints local authorities said they could do nothing about the tank because it technically is a vehicle but they said they would study the lews to see if the roof figures were in Al platoon of building codes sex miss America reigns Over pet world from wire reports As a veterinarian Debby a Turner has been travelling almost As much As she did when she was miss America. Turner who won the 1990 Beauty pageant As miss Missouri is in the final months of a yearlong 21-City Lour speaking about responsible pet ownership. Before that she went on a yearlong world tour of churches schools and veterinary conferences in an interview with Ebony Magazine Turner said she plans to go into private practice later this year in St. Louis where she is arranging to work two Days a week at another veterinarian s clinic. A there will come a Day when 1 wont travel As much and Iti need to know my Trade Quot she said. Turner 27, had just a semester remaining at the University of Missouri school of veterinary Medicine when she won the miss America pageant a the third Black woman to do so when her reign was Over she returned to school and to hundreds of cows awaiting her attention on Missouri farms. Menchu treated for illness Rigoberta Manchu Winner of the 1992 Nobel peace prize has cancelled a trip to Chile while she recovers from Chicken pox. Menchu a Maya Indian has been getting treatment in Guatemala City since her return thursday from guatemalan refugee Camps in Mexico said Francisco grave of the National commission of widows of Guatemala. A she cancelled a trip to Chile the Day after doctors ordered Complete rest grave said. Menchu orphaned by Guatemala s civil War was hailed As a Quot vivid Symbol of peace and reconciliation in october when the Nobel committee awarded the .1992 peace prize to the 33-Ycar-Oid Indian rights activists. She fled to Mexico 11 years ago after receiving death threats. But she has returned to pressure the government to accept the repatriation of some 45,000 guatemalan refugees living in exile in  stamp out annoying dear Pliny something that has been bothering me for years and is getting progressively worse is the use of Quot you know Quot in everyday conversation. It does no to really mean anything its not a serious question requiring an answer. Its what journalists Call a a filler Quot a a couple of words to fill in what would otherwise be an embarrassing silence while you re trying to think of something else to say. In be enclosed a Noem titled a you know a a which i think says it All. Paul l. Henderson Spring Valley Lake Calif. Dear or. Henderson and you know i think it s Worth sharing dear Abby of All the words that we know today the ones overused which get in the Way of intelligent talk when conversing with friends Are the words you know used again and again. It bothers me so to have them used Over and Over since they Are really abused and lend no thought and arc hard to follow in a conversation that becomes so hollow. Its difficult to know just what they mean they Are used so much a like coming out of a machine they have no meaning because i really done to know just what they mean when they say a you know. Dear Abby re Quot can t Cope anymore Quot who is dreading the thought of her surly negative Stepson coming to live with her while he attends College my situation was identical. With some trial and error this is what i Learned to do 1 stopped bending Over backward trying to please him. I treated him As though he were my son. 1 wrote thoughtful Little notes regularly and left them in his bedroom because communication was a problem for him. Did no to make his father responsible for his songs relationship with me. I did no to try to Quot Outmon Quot his Mother. His father and i set Clear guidelines concerning laundry car his room and responsibilities and we stuck to them. 1 did no to coddle him. Was it difficult for me it was the hardest thing i be Ever done. Was it Worth it you Belt today 1 have a son. Being brought together from a Mutual love of the same person his dad we have dear Ann Landers. Since 1989, when you first asked your readers to Send a Valentine to a Veteran veterans affairs hospitals have received Well in excess of 1 million cards each year. These Valentines Are shipped to the vans National system of 171 hospitals and also snared with some state Veter ans car facilities and military hospitals. Last year for the first time some a hospitals began including an Ann Landers Valentine with each prescription mailed to Veteran through a s prescription mailing program. Thousands of Valentines were mailed across the nation this Way to veterans who normally Are not bed patients in a facilities. Many of these veterans responded with letters expressing Surprise and Delight at this Quot unexpected ingredient Quot in their medical prescriptions. Anthony , acting Secretary department of veterans affairs Ann Landers dear Anthony Principi Washington , i be always known that my readers Are the most warmhearted responsive people in the world. When i ask them to do something they come through Uke gangbusters. It s time once again to let our veterans know that they Are appreciated. It won t Cost much and it s sure to bring enormous pleasure to our vets to whom we owe so much. On any Given Day there Are approximately 60,000 veterans hospitalized in 171 department of veterans affairs medical centers nationwide. These men and women served in world War 1, world War ii Korea Vietnam and the War in the persian Gulf they represent every race color and Creed. We can never repay these valiant vets for the sacrifices they have made but we can do something to cheer them up and let them know we appreciate them and that they have not been forgotten. Teachers i m depending on you once More to make this a class project. Those handmade Valentines Are real heart warmers. When my staff and i passed them out personally last year at the West Side a medical Center in Chicago those were the most enthusiastically received of All. Please encourage your students to be creative and let them learn firsthand the satisfaction that comes from doing something for others. The veterans would be thrilled if you could drop off your Valentines in person at your local a Hospital. If there Isnit one nearby Send them to Ann Landers Val Entine vet Hines a Hospital Hines Iii. 60141-1489. I know of nothing you can do that would Cost so Little and bring so much happiness to those who deserve to be remembered. Thank you and god bless. A Ann Landers letter to Ann Lander should be addressed to tier at . Boa 11562, Chicago 111 6061.1-0562. C creator Syndicate found a common ground upon which to build a relationship of our own which took More time than one summer vacation. It was also a valuable growing experience for me. Grateful in Florida dear grateful congratulations you have achieved one of the most difficult feats in family relations being accepted and genuinely liked by a teen aged stepchild. Dear Abby please Settle a dispute we re having was the following a genuine invitation a or was it a Quot Back door Quot invitation Quot we re having Christmas eve at my House you re Welcome to come if you want  the recipient of that invitation Felt that the invite meant Quot come if you want to but use the Back  we be agreed that the invitation would have been much nicer had the Host said Quot please come wed love to have you. If you done to come you will be  curious in Sioux City Iowa Bear curious although the invitation was not As graciously put As it might have been it was still an invitation. Its just a Cut above Quot if you re not doing anything join  letter Lor this column should be addressed to dear Abby at . Box 447, mount Morris 111. 61054. C Universal press Syndicate