European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - January 31, 1993, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Miss manners dear mias manners when one is served a Sweet Roll or Bun with a knife and Fork is the Fork used to hold Down the Roll while it is being Cut is it also used to convey each morsel to the Mouth or can each bite sized piece be picked up with the fingers i need to know before visiting a formal relative. Gentle readers miss manners knows it is widely believed that etiquette always likes to make everything As complicated As possible preferably taking a perfectly Ordinary activity and making it into something that takes a lifetime to learn but this happens not to be True. Etiquette would rather ridicule the  of eating a Bun or Sweet Roll with a knife or Fork. Only in the Case of a nonfunctional Sandwich a one that is too Over packed or Drippy to be picked up a does one resort to applying a knife and Fork to bread. Rather it should be broken into two bite sized pieces with the hand which then conveys it to the Mouth. Dear miss manners i am to attend a function that includes a reception seminar dinner and then dancing i would like to Wear gloves with my evening gown. Can i Wear the gloves All night if not do i excuse myself to the ladies room to remove them gentle Reader in spite of the sensuality that May be invested in the act of scr ruling Long gloves miss manners assures you that it i nevertheless considered a presentable form of clothing removal. It May be performed in full View of polite society. What is not respectable is touching food or drink with a gloved hand. You must therefore remove the gloves before taking any refreshment and certainly during All of dinner. You May keep them on while you Are dancing. But if you do happen to go to the ladies room miss manners trusts you will remove them there for what she Hopes arc obvious reasons. Bear miss manners friends have told me. That pm pretty and have said other Nice things to me. They re Good friends. But listen to the men i Date. One told me a you re no Sophia Loren but i can Tell that if you wore a lot of makeup you a be really  another one hearing someone comment that i should be a Model snapped Quot that a just because Quot my Boyfriend has run off with his wife. You re  another who was going to dinner with me for the first time said a you look great tonight. Mind you not perfect but pretty  aside from the question of whether i would Ever want to see any of these men again since they seem to Feci justified in holding even Yong up to Beauty contest standards what can one possibly say in re Sponic to such backhanded compliments Dps one say a thank you a when told one is not Beautiful the men i might add were no Cary Grants. Gentle Reader so miss manners gathers. She can to judge their looks but has a vivid  of their allotment of Charm. Of course you must say a thank  do not let a shred of sarcasm spoil your tone. And then you May pause smile shyly Bat your eyes and say Quot a you re just saying that to flatter  a gentleman who looks embarrassed at that might have some possibility of redemption. But one who replies Duffily Quot i assume that you a rather hear the truth a is not fit for polite society. Dear miss manners if family members from out of state stay with us for two weeks should they do dishes gentle Reader this question can Only come up with one of two types of visiting relatives those who do dishes when you done to want them to and those who done to when you do want them to. Miss manners gathers you have the latter. But relatives also come in three generations. If yours arc a generation older than you the most you can do is to say Quot of dear in a exhausted but i hate to leave the  if they arc your own generation you May say a do you want to Wash or Day a modern version a scrape or Load a but if they arc younger i.e., your children you should say not ask pleasantly a How about giving me a hand Quot As you Point at the Kitchen on your Way out of it. Dear miss manners my parents Are divorced and the people they arc dating really get on my nerves. How could i Tell them that i really done to like their companions a and both relationships could involve marriage a without hurting their feelings gentle Reader although parents arc not supposed to be romantically encouraged by their children a disapproval As children arc by their parents miss manners would not advise taking a Chance. A tactful a Well i done to like him or Herbut i guess that does t really matter if you do ought to serve to encourage about As much love killing guilt As any child can produce. United Foa Turo Syndicate footing incorrect address your Oti quota questions tin Black or Biro Black Ink on White writing paper to miss manners . Go 91428. Cleveland Ohio 44101-342b, the Quill shortage provosts miss Man nors irom answering questions except through this column. Since kids can be so Distant Why not divorce Erma Bombeck a Friend of mine called the other Day and said she was getting a divorce. Quot i thought you and Frank were Happy a i said. Quot we Are Happy in a talking about divorcing my  1 Quot you can to do that Quot i said a if kids can divorce their parents Why can to it work the other Way around a on what grounds a i asked. A neglect and incompatibility. Those kids done to know whether in a alive or dead.�?�. Its a trend whose time has come. Children never figure that their parents have expectations. They done to see their parents As vulnerable human beings who can be Hurt. Ruth Larkin is a Reader from Merritt Island Fla who resurrected a poem she wrote some years ago to her adult son who forgot fathers Day to Hal or. On fathers Day its father s Day you la be surprised to hear they decided to have it again this year. / just thought id like to prod you about who it was you did 7 Send a card to a he was the Guy in Hail Snow and heat who pitched you the Ball on Russell Street. He was the Guy in Case you forget who Lay on the ground in a tent yet with bugs and spiders in his cars and eyes -. So you could win some stupid prize. And it was also him in Case you forgot who helped you untie those Tow Sands of knots. On that boat he rebuilt with Brave Endeavor so you could look so very Clever sailing around the great South Day while he took pictures of you a Many a Day he was the Guy who took his life in his hands to Tesch you to drive on the Highway after hundreds of Miles he was All smiles you had finally driven out of the driveway. I could go on and on with lots More data but it will  me madder and madder this has bothered me a Smidgen do it again you a re a a dead Pigeon a from your former Friend and Mother a Universal Pross Syndicate no kidding what sex presidents do 1. Rutherford b. Hayes a president of National prison association 2. Franklin Pierce a became an alcoholic 3. Benjamin Harrison a represented. Venezuela in dispute Thomas Jefferson a designed University of Ginia Campus 5. Ulysses s. Grant a president of mexican Southern Railroad 6. James Monroe a walked new York City streets As unknown source world features Syndicate Mem Page 10 a sunday january 31,0to