European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - January 23, 1994, Darmstadt, Hesse R drawing out the new Man for All seasons by Rosemary Sawyer Brussels Bureau of Burguron says he joined the army for the same reason Many of his Peers signed on with Uncle Sam straight out of High school. This will make a Man out of you Burgh Ron says he remembers believing. This will really instill More of a sense of sixteen years later and no longer in uniform Bur Guron looks at his earlier decision in a different Light. He says he still believes soldiering can build charac Ter and a sense of courage but questions whether the Macho military image is overplayed. A lot of folks have the wrong image sometimes of a Man in the military Here s the Guy lifting weights at the gym All the time or he s out Here pushing tanks or something like that. But i la Tell you what there s a lot of people out there in the military with a lot of Beautiful skills and creativity from weaving to getting in the Kitchen sometimes to get their hands Burguron says it s unfortunate that Many men Don t try to discover and develop that Side of their natures. He simply does t take time to reflect. To be real it s a quest and it s a search. You have to look at it objectively and first of All you have to Deal with Burguron a former sergeant first class agrees with author Robert Ely s premise that there must be a tearing Down for men to discover their real selves. I think we re sometimes wrapped up in what i refer to As the onion skins Burguron says. We re sort of like a environment plays a big role in shaping that co Coon says Burguron now an army and air Force Exchange service manager in charge of food service for Brussels american school. He tells of his experience growing up in a very Man oriented family in a male dominant neigh boyhood in Detroit. His two Sisters provided gentle strokes to balance the effects of his six Brothers. But it is the wrestling and ribbing that come More to mind when looking Back at those Early years. I was always running about and playing Basket Ball Burguron says. That s How we lived in the neighbourhood. It was basketball. I did t like people to know that i took piano lessons. I did t share that. 34, began piano lessons at age 6, largely because of his Mother s influence. His siblings also played instruments. Burguron and a sister and brother also formed a vocal Trio that Sang for banquets and local parties. His father a Carpenter taught him the love of working and creating with his hands. Burguron is encouraged that today s children Are growing up in an environment that will Lead to their leading Fuller lives. I think we re seeing something new Here Bur Guron says. We re not making a Sissy out of him today or an effeminate Type of person but he s Des tined to learn to do All things he s destined to be productive in society and to share those things that make him productive the creative Side of him As Well As the All seasons Burguron relates it to his experience at a youth summer Camp last year. He says teaching the Chil Dren to play percussion instruments gave them a Chance to exercise their hands and get a sense of rhythm. And that s what i think is important. Life s about this rhythm. How we find it is up to us. A lot of times i find it through the things that i like to do Best. That s music that s Art sometimes is Rosemary Sawyer sex i Joe Burguron serving it up a lot of folks have the wrong image sometimes of a Man in the want something real look at this family Man. A. By Marian Hamilton Mediterranean Bureau eith Vasvary can do a mean two step. You can find him most weekends at country Western nights at the local enlisted club scuttlebutt. Most of the rest of the time you la find the Petty officer second class on the Job As a medical technician for the naval clinic at Cap Dichino Airport in Naples Italy. Country dancing does t make Vasvary a real Man. Neither docs his Job. The Navy pampers you says Vasvary a 32-year? old Kentucky native. You get a paycheck every week you get a roof Over your head and you get three meals a he does think that it offers a Challenge to people who want one. If you Don t strive toward a goal or to do the Job they la just give you jobs off in a Cor Vasvary defines a real Man this Way somebody who takes responsibility who takes care of his wife his kids his family his parents the people who work for him and the people he works for. But is he so Busy taking care of everyone else that he neglects himself Vasvary admits yes some times you re working so hard to do your Job and take care of your family you neglect yourself. The real Man gets torn Down. He gets having your first child is what makes you a Man according to Vasvary father to two boys in Grade school. You Don t go to your parents for help any is Marian Hamilton Naples Keith Vasvary the Navy pampers More. You re if. When the kid boy or girl says daddy for the first time it does something. That s when i grew up quit being a child. My dad was in College he was a swimmer he strive. He s been a manager in every one of the stores he s worked at. I be always tried to be like my Vasvary says he does t think much of initiation rites or real Man retreats for men who did not have a passage into manhood when they were younger. If they Haven t done it by the time they re in their Early 20s, i d say it s too late. You get a lot of men that go on these male bonding things Hunting trips and such they re the ones who go in and some body gets shot or who go off into the Woods and somebody gets Hurt. I m against january 23, 1904 sunday Page
