European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - June 23, 1991, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Odds amp ends capture each moment for All that its Worth a a a a Erma bom Bec Universal press Syndicate i in pc a Friend Wim lives by a three word philosophy a seize he  just pos Sibl she might be the Wisest woman on this Phinit. Too Many people put of some thing that brings them Joy just Beci Utise they Haven t thought about it. Uon t have it on their schedule did t know it was coming or Are too rigid to depart Ionthe routine. A a. 1 got to thinking one Day about All those women on the titanic who passed up dessert a dinner that Fatel us night in an Elloul to Quot Cut  from then on. In be tried to be n Little More i a a a a. A Hli a. Flexible. A i  women out there will eat at Home a because  suggested they go out to a dinner after something had been thawed does the word refrigeration have no meaning for. You a a. A a a a a a a. A / i Low olten have your kids  to talk ,. And sat there in silence while you watched Quot jeopardy Quot a a a a. A a. V / a a a a. I cannot count the limes i called my sister and said Quot How about going to lunch in half an. Hour,?.�?T she would gasp Ami stammer "1 can t.11 Check one Quot i have clothes on the  Quot my hair a is  �?~1 wish i had known yesterday a a �?�1 had a Lale a real  Quot a looks like rain.�?�. And my Persona favorite. Quot it s  she died a few. Years ago. We never did have lunch together. Medause americans cram so much into our lives we tend to schedule even our headaches. We live on a sparse i fiet of promises we make to. Ourselves when All the conditions Are perfect. Wet go Back and visit the grandparents ,. When we get Stevie toilet trained. Well entertain. When we replace tile living room Carpel. Well go on. A second honeymoon ,. When we get two. More kids out of College a a a a a a. Lile has., a Way of accelerating As we get older. The Days get Shorter and the list of promises to ourselves gels longer one morning we  All we have to show for our lives is a Litany of Quot i m going to Quot "1 plan on Quot and Quot someday when things Are settled Down a  a a a a a a a we heti anyone Calls my Quot seize the moment a 11 lend she is open. , available for trips and keeps an open mind on new ideas. Her. Enthusiasm for life is contagious. \ a 1 you Lal with her for five minutes  re ,. Teady to Trade your bad feet for a pair of roller Blades and skip ail elevator for a Bui Igi Cord. My lips have not touched ice Cream in ii  love ice Cream. Just that i might As Well. Apply it directly to my hips with a Spatula and. Eliminate the digestive process. L ire other Day i stopped the car and bought a triple Decker. If Niy car Ivil an iceberg on the Way Home. I d have died Happy. Miss manners Judith Martin a mixed feature Syndicate. Car miss manners what is the prop.-. H or Way to eat a Black Olive non a a Jyh pitted in a restaurant of class gentle Render miss manners is a / / a not As interested in whal class of. Place you hang out As where the Olive hangs out. If it is wholes Mely consorting with raw carrots Anu celery As we All probably should be. It is eaten with the. Fingers. A if. It is in a salad in cannot expect special treat me ill. The same salad Tork used for the other ingredients May pick it up. A if it us immersed in alcohol you should eventually Drain of he entire drink for the Olive s own Good or course and then tilt the Glass and Roll it toward its late. Dear miss manners i am a single psychologist and often attend social events. More often than not 1 seem to get into conversations with single men that involve Long winded tales of their psychological woes a their problems , a their problems with their friends their problems at work and so on they apparently presume that As soon As they meet an attractive female psychologist it s perfectly All right to unload then troubles. I am basically a kind person and 1 do enjoy doing psychotherapy but i like to have a satisfying personal life too. Lately i be come to feel that in a Mother Teresa to the ailing contemporary male. It is no fun on a saturday evening at a Friendly. Get together to be cornered by some Man who proceeds to inundate me with his moaning and groaning under the Guise of trying to win Nic. Gentle Reader of dear. Miss manners is afraid that you Are a double victim of prevailing. But unfortunate conversational styles. A i in Bur work oriented society where the notion of purely recreational society hardly exists any Mosc miss manners keeps trying to bring it. Back but everybody is too Busy networking to listen it is widely believed that ones Job is also one s a Avorita topic of Aiter hours conversation. Such talk eventually offends practically everybody. Some Are Huffy by Catic they believe that they Are being judged solely on the basis of the. Perceived status level of their jobs. Others arc bully because Thev feel they ate being asked to give free professional services. And those who do not hold paid jobs Are really in a dither. A a. A a a a a a. A a a also  later they All gel bored sense less by Job conversation it Means that they arc subject to the same jokes and prejudices Over and Over again and that they never gel to relax by. Discussing another subject than the Tine that necessarily engrossed them All week Long. 2. A particularly unappealing style of courtship. Has risen by which pity is offered As an incentive to Romance. A possibly this is in response to widespread claims that the  thing about a pos. Sibly romantic partner is not Charm or looks but "vulnerability�?T a a _ a a a a. 1. In any Case great numbers of people report being Given whiny recitals  on first acct ing otherwise eligible people. A. A a to everyone s Surprise but miss manners1, this. Does not seem to work no matter How hard soft hearted people try they cannot get their pulses racing As a result of hearing How others of their gender treated the candidate rot Tenly. Miss manners feels particularly  you since you get both of these unpleasant approach us combined. A to Cut them off she recommends saying at the Start a ooh dear. You know i listen to people s problems professionally All week and i do my Best to help them. Bul l so Long to  conversation when i go  a a. Horoscope for she week of june 24 2 a 2 a Aries March 21 april 19 stress leadership skills avoid crannies with exercise. Keep promises. A  blossoms almost Dver night. A 2 a / / a 2. By Taurus april 20-May 20 watch sedentary habits your loyalty of work is rewarded. Dance  blues concentrate on . A Gemin. May .21 -june20 communication channels Are open stress positive traits. Think. About Home improvements. Start. Networking again. 22. 2 /-,-2. Cancer Juno 21-july 22 Complete old projects. Calm. Attitude prevents anxiety. Tone Down rhetoric keep Cool in Romance. ,. A a a a Leo july 23-aug 22 take charge in family affairs. Calls Are finally returned. , discontent go Oil. Shopping spree. A a a 2 Virgo aug 23-sept 22 Clear up old debt. Plan a festive weekend. Laugh. And the world laughs with you. . Sop 23-oct 22 brainstorm business opportunities. Be Loving and gracious spend mom time with friends. Seek put of the Ordinary people. Scorpio oct. 23-nov. .21 watch extra a. Gant Streak. Avoid family squabbles done to buy on emotions write Down valuable ideas 2 "2, a Sagittarius Klov 22-Pec. 20 stress work ethic. Win Over others through cooperation. Make Domestic. Adjustments. Romance lakes on emotional Jire. A .22 2,- 2 a ?. A Capricorn dec. 21-Jan. 19 avoid potentially dangerous situations. Use role models to get ahead keep lid on finances. Put Energy into Home life. A a2. Aquarius Jan.-, 20-feb 18 break Down Large tasks. Stay flexible at work play. Consult exports before  closets. 2 a. .2 -. Y-2. A Pisces. Feb. 19-March 20 2 guard privacy carefully. June into others pain. Expect a Job Prol motion. Share monetary rewards with loved ones Copley news service Page 10 a a sunday june 23, 1991