European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - July 28, 1991, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Page 14the stars and stripes sunday july 28,1991 Elizabeth Taylor s former husbands Aro top Row from left Conrad Quot Nicky Hilton in 1950 British actor Michael Wilding in 1951 and producer Mike Todd in 1957 and Bottom Row from left Singer Eddie Fisher in 1959 actor Richard Burton in 1972 and sen. John Warner r-va., in 1976. She was married to Burton  Taylor to wed for 8th time from wire reports Elizabeth Taylor will take her eighth walk Down the aisle in october to marry her Blue Collar Boyfriend. Pop Star Michael Jackson will give the Bride away. A after being together for four years Larry and i finally decided we wanted to spend the rest of our lives together Quot Taylor 59, said in a statement released Friday. The Groom is Larry Fortensky a 39-year-old construction worker who met Taylor during their treatment at the Betty Ford clinic drug abuse Center in Rancho Mirage Calif. A life is Good and Sweet and we love each other and each Day As it comes and want to share our happiness with family and friends a Taylor said. A i always said 1 would get married one More time and with gods blessings this is it  Fortensky has been married twice before and has a 19-year-old daughter from his first marriage. The couple will marry oct. 5 in a private ceremony at Jackson a estate in the Santa Nycz Valley about 100 Miles Northwest of los Angeles. Chen Sam publicist for Taylor said Jackson would give his longtime Friend away. A it is True a confirmed Jackson spokesman Bob Jones. Taylor who won Academy awards for who a afraid of Virginia Woolf and Butterfield 8, has been married seven times two of those to the late actor Richard Burton. The Taylor Fortensky Romance apparently flourished when the actress was hospitalized and near death with pneumonia last year. Taylor was 19 when she married Conrad Nicholson a in icky Hilton on May 6, 1950, in an event hailed As the Hollywood social event of the year. After divorcing Hilton she married actor Michael Wilding then Mike Todd Eddie Fisher and Burton. She and Burton divorced in 1974, then remarried in 1975 and divorced again that same year. In 1976, she married virginian John w. Warner and helped his successful Republican Campaign for the Senate in 1978. They were divorced in 1982. Ann Landers dear Ann Landers i am 47, female and wheelchair bound. A stroke following brain surgery left me paralysed on my left Side. I spent six months in the Hospital and now am working very hard in physical therapy. This letter is to All tyros Boorish insensitive people who insist on telling me How Lucky i am. They remind me that 1 am Lucky to be alive a Lucky to have such wonderful family support and Lucky the stroke Wasny to worse. What an Odd word. I done to feel Lucky. 1 wonder How some of those people would like to have my Juck. Would you believe a woman recently said to me a one advantage you have now is that you will get the Best parking places wherever you  can you believe such ignorance Here a another one while waiting for an elevator a stranger said a that certainly looks like a comfortable  1 responded a there is no such thing As a comfortable  she looked surprised. Do i sound bitter angry perhaps so. I am getting counselling now and my euro psychologist suggested i write to you. How do i Deal with these situations. Thank you for any help you can give me. . In fort Worth dear fort Worth i was deeply moved by your letter and wanted to provide the Best answer possible so i phoned or. Henry Betts head of the rehabilitation Institute of Chicago and asked for his guidance. He suggested that i ask another wheelchair user who probably Felt bitter and angry when she got  Marca Bristo is a 37-year-old woman who broke her Heck in a diving Accident 14 years ago. She has since married and has had two children. Marca is president of Access living in Chicago. This is what Marca said when i spoke with her about your letter a please Tell your fort Worth correspondent that 1 know exactly How she feels. I Felt a lot of the same kind of anger when i was first disabled. It is the Normal reaction of a person who finds him or herself suddenly deprived of so Many of the simple freedoms that Are always taken for granted. A those people who make you angry a the ones who say dumb things a they make me angry too. They mean to be Nice but they Are uncomfortable because your disability makes them recognize their own vulnerability. They Are trying to be Friendly and Point out something positive about your condition. You a better get used to it because such comments will never Stop. You re going to hear them forever. A some disabled people find help through support groups. 1 never went that route. My major help came from one on one visits with individuals who had been through what 1 was experiencing. For me that kind of networking was extremely effective. I gained incredible strength from people who were living examples of what i could be if i had the will and determination to work at it. Not Only did they give me emotional support they shared with me dozens of practical tips on specific things i could do to make my wheelchair existence More positive. A turn your anger into constructive activity. By working to change underlying attitudes you can gain control Over your existence and not feel so victimized. A your local Center for Independent living can help you. For information write to National Council on Independent living Troy atrium fourth Street and Broadway Troy . 12180. There Are dozens of these centers All Over the United states and they do a fabulous  creators Syndicate dear readers the letter from the woman who Felt a Lump in her breast but was afraid to go to the doctor prompted a deluge of mail. Some typical letters dear Abby 1 lost my Mother and three Sisters to cancer so 1 can sympathize with a scared to death a who Felt a Lump in her breast and was afraid to get a Mammogram. I join you Abby in urging All women a even those without lumps a to get mammograms regularly. They can save your life. Please Tell your readers that any woman can get breast cancer whether it s in her family or not 80 percent of the women who get breast cancer do not have it in their family. A Mammogram can detect breast cancer two years before a woman or her doctor can feel a Lump. All women should have regular mammograms beginning at age 40 a particularly women of color because they Are More Likely to die because they did no to catch it Early  Abby a a i a i urge All my Sisters Black or White to educate themselves about this scary but treatable disease. For More information your readers can dial 1-800-4-cancer. Patti Labelle dear Abby in 1977, when i discovered a Lump in my breast 1 was terrified nevertheless i made an appointment to see my doctor and a week after my a positive Quot Biopsy i had a modified Radical Mastectomy. I was devastated and depressed. The third Day after my surgery a Lovely cheerful lady showed up in my Hospital room and asked me if i had Ever heard of a reach to  i told her 1 had not. Then she went on to explain that my surgeon had contacted the american cancer society and requested that a Volunteer from that organization pay me a visit. This encouraging woman told me that she. Too had had a  she gave me some exercises to do and also gave me a a rest Bra Quot and a temporary prosthesis. But the Host thing she gave me was Hope and Assurance that i was still the same woman 1 had been before the surgery. Since that time 1 have become a Volunteer in the reach to recovery program and have enjoyed the rewards of helping Many other women who were As heartbroken and depressed As i had been before reach to recovery reached out to me. Barbara j. Myhre Bandera Texas dear Abby like Quot scared to death a i Felt a Lump in my breast. Unlike her i immediately saw my doctor. Even though it was cancer 1 was one of the Lucky ones because i sought Early diagnosis and treatment and i am alive today to talk about it. Quot scared to death Quot is afraid of How her husband would feel about her following a Mastectomy. 1 had the same fears but throughout my ordeal my husband was my biggest supporter and my Best Friend. If anything the situation brought us closer together. He says he loves me for me not for my body parts. I am thankful to have made it and i would love to Tell the world that 1 am proud of my supportive husband. If Vou use my letter feel free to use my real name. Jan Nichols Carleton Mich. Universal press Syndicate