European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - March 8, 1992, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Odds amp ends miss Many is Judith Martin dear miss manners on Valentines Day evening my husband and i attended a dinner party Given by a Friend. Her parties Are usually informal dinner is pot Luck guests come and go at will and guitar playing and drumming usually follow the meal. When we arrived at 6 p.m., we were told that the meal was being postponed until 7 15 because one of the guests was going to be late. My husband and i did no to mind but our Friend Olaf was very hungry and tried to raid the Kitchen. The hostess asked him to wait. Olaf then disappeared for at least two hours. Meanwhile the hostess was assenting herself periodically from the party to Giggle in her bedroom with her new Man Friend. When dinner finally arrived Olaf still Wasny to Back so we started the meal without him though some of us were slightly worried about him. When he returned he was silent and Moody did not even partake of dessert and left Early. The next Day i heard comments from two party attendees on the rudeness of the hostess for refusing to feed Olaf although she had put out a few appetizers and for retreating to her bedroom occasionally instead of playing hostess non Stop. Who was the rude one or is my special group of friends on the verge of being uncivilized All around gentle Reader miss manners is always charmed to hear of an appropriate new Way of celebrating Valentines Day. Unfortunately this Wasny to it. Although the hostess is supposed to tend to the needs of her guests yours seems to have gone overboard perhaps forgetting that she was equally responsible for entertaining All of her guests and not retreating to satisfy one while deserting the others. Miss manners wishes she had not started that line of talk and will Stop it right now. However guests cannot attempt to dictate the schedule of a party by making demands for dinner raiding the Kitchen or going off to sulk. Since you ask no miss manners cannot find one civilized character in this account. Dear miss manners i want to ask both my sister and my Best Friend to be maids of Honor. Is it of to have two maids of Honor How would this work gentle Reader Long an advocate of making the wedding cast suit the actual people available rather than assigning the available roles whether or not they fit the circumstances miss manners is Happy to put her approval on two maids of Honor. Provided you done to get silly about it. That is you will not she Hopes attempt to duplicate the tiny offices they Render a for example allowing each to hold the bridal bouquet during part of the ceremony. The main thing about being a maid of Honor is just standing there during the ceremony and knowing that one holds the title. Dear miss manners in my gourmet supper club we take turns hosting suppers where we serve seven course meals with appropriate wines using Fine China Crystal and fresh Flowers. When i was hostess i overheard a male guest asking my husband to get the basketball game on television. Because my husband and i discussed this possibility earlier he said a sorry a my wife does t want the to on  this guest then approached me wanting to know a Why not a i stood my ground but he was unhappy and i was upset at being put in a situation where i refused a guests request. Later another male guest made the same request which i again refused. Was i wrong to disregard the wishes of two of our 14 guests i done to think it would have mattered much to the other guests but the idea was distasteful to me after weeks of planning and preparation. This was one of Many scheduled season games. Gentle Reader. Miss manners does no to need to Tell you that it is rude of guests to accept an invitation to one entertainment and then ask to enjoy another. As this was a club activity there should have been a discussion by the group about whether to hold a party on the night of a game. And this should have been followed by a Chance for wives of these two men to ask them about the Date. If you then decided to go ahead those dissenting would have to make a Choice and decline one amusement or the other. But there you were with unwilling guests. Miss manners appreciates the fact that you did not reciprocate their rudeness. What she could have done then would be to put the game watchers into another room suggesting they take their dinners on trays and eat while they watched. She would then have reset the table for the remaining guests. Its True that there would have been a Grain of Dis approval visible in this procedure although miss manners would have insisted on it so cheerfully that it would have been impossible to fault her Good will. And she would not have considered herself responsible for the tone of conversation on the Way Home Between a spouse who had sat at the table and one who had deserted it. United feature  of is Pisces feb. 19-March 20 you get a new lease on life so get ready to make wonderful personal changes. Aries March 21-april 19 clean House on a subconscious level. Dust your brain and polish your intuition. Taurus april 20-May 20 Don t allow comrades to undermine your efforts to succeed. Overcome All obstacles in your Way. Gemini May 21-june 20 turn your attention toward your career goals and uncover new ways to use your creative talents. Cancer june 21-july 22 a desire for travel haunts your every thought. Get started on making vacation plans. Leo july 23-aug. 22 at this time focus your attention and Energy on paying taxes and eliminating any debt. Virgo aug. 23-sept. 22 firm up any Legal or contractual agreements that May be pending. Concessions May be necessary. Libra sept. 23 oct 22. Figure out ways in which you can be More efficient in giving service to others. Scorpio oct. 23-nov. 21 take Romance off of the Back Burner and turn it on. Go out and socialize. Sagittarius nov. 22-dec. 20 make those necessary Home improvements so that you will enjoy staying Home More. Capricorn dec 21-Jan. 19 in your scramble to gain control of your finances Don t spread yourself too thin. Aquarius Jan. 20-feb. 18 your agreeable attitude brings positive experiences into your life. Remember you attract what you radiate. Copley news service Winter games a cinch to bust without spandex Cindy Chambers with the Winter olympics at Albertville France Haring just been put to rest i offer one last observation on americans competitors. It Isnit the years of discipline that keep most americans from competing. It Isnit the physical superiority of athletes the sacrifices they make or the pain they endure. Its spandex. How Many people do you know who Are willing to pour themselves into an elastic tube and turn sideways before millions of television viewers every time i watch a downhill skier i am dazzled by the fact that the olympics Are Able to assemble enough people to appear in varicose vein bodysuits for the Competition. Done to try this in your own Home or you could lose the sight of a Good Eye i found most of the events prohibitive for average americans. Take the luge. Please. Luge is a French word for Looney tune. A sled carries a rider on his Back Down a Chute of ice at 80 Miles an hour. There Are Only a handful of women who would or could Wear the Speed suit skintight apparel with no buttons zippers or decorations and a 30-Pound Lead Vest to compress the Chest. I done to know any of them personally. My Choice for a Speed skating outfit would have been a Little peplum Deal to cover the Condo thighs that come with the sport. But no. Its More spandex. I should be cheered to know i have the same thigh Girth As Dan Jansen but in a just 5 feet 2 inches. I done to know How spandex got to be the uniform of athletes but it is insidious. One Day we were looking at baseball players who wore bloomers that swirled around their legs like vacuum sweeper bags and Tjie next thing you know their pants were so tight they  hold a plug of  players and basketball players supported the trend with spandex under their shorts. But it is the olympics that have catapulted the fabric to world class status thus limiting the events to the few the proud. The Flat. Finding enough americans who can hold in their stomachs through an entire event takes away our competitive Edge at a time when we could use a shot of world dominance i hate to look to Japan for the answer but look at their entries. Are they laminated into suits that take them Down mountains and Cross country and through tunnels of ice they re probably sending 700-Pound sumo wrestlers to Barcelona and letting it All hang out. Cindy Chambers is a  family member in Schweinfurt.  k11 i im.7they jazzed up their names 1. Muddy Waters a real name Mckinley Morganfield 2. Brook Benton a Benjamin Peay 3. Della Reese a Dellareese Taliaferro 4. Peggy Lee a Norma Jean egstrom 5. Dinah Washington a Ruth Jones 6. Nina Simone a Eunice Wayman 7. Mel Torme a Melvin Howard source world features Syndicate Page 8 a sunday March 8, 1992