European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - September 10, 1990, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Page 12 a a a the stars and stripes monday september 10, 1990n�?T places Madonna Sparks fund Raiser that boosts fight against aids from wire reports pop Singer Madonna artist David Hockney rep Henry Waxman and British actor Ian Mckellen were honoured for their efforts to combat aids during a fund Raiser that organizers said generated More than $ 1 million. Among the performers at Friday nights show in los Angeles were Madonna violinist Joshua Bell and singers Rod Stewart Sarah Brightman and Toni Childs. A aids is about living people not just cases a said Waxman d-calif., chairman of the House subcommittee on health and the environment. David Wexler chairman of aids project los Angeles said the event raised More than $1,150,000 for the 8-year-old nonprofit organization. Others attending included Henry Winkler Susan Blakely Marlee Matlin Bette Midler Angela Lansbury Gregory Harrison and Lynn and Vanessa Redgrave. Quot someone asked me Why we re All doing this tonight. Slowly but surely everyone will be touched by this a Winkler  Alley has miscarriage actress Kirstie Alley whose pregnancy was going to be part of upcoming a a cheers episodes has Sui a a feed a miscarriage the shows publicist con firmed. The Star of the popular Abc sitcom disclosed her pregnancy two weeks ago in a televised interview with Maria Shriver. The baby had been due in March and a a cheers producers had planned to eventually integrate it into the show. A a cheers publicist Alley  myer said Alley had a miscarriage but is Back at work and doing  married fighting woman rising country music Star Garth Brooks says he met his wife Sandy when he broke up a fight she was involved in at a nightclub in Stillwater okla. Brooks a finalist for five country music association awards this year said that he was a bouncer at the nightspot in 1983 when he was summoned to halt a dispute in the women a restroom. A these two gals had her cornered a Brooks recalled. A she took a swing at this one old Gal and missed her. But her fist went through the pressed Wood stall and she  get it Back out. A she was just madder than a  Brooks removed her fist and threw her out of the club. But he later began telephoning her and they were married in 1986. Brooks hit records include a if tomorrow never comes and a the  he is a finalist for the dear Abby i have never written to you before but after Reading the letter from a sorrow in san Francisco Quot i cannot keep silent. A a sorrow wrote a i had the sobering experience of visiting the grave of a Friend who died 10 years ago at the age of 21. Her family was distraught at the funeral and buried her in a wedding gown because she never had a real wedding. Apparently time had dimmed their grief her grave was neglected without a single Flower to brighten it. Please continue to remind readers to show their love to others while they live but also remember them in  Abby for Many years i Felt compelled to visit my mothers grave even though it left me overcome with grief to the Point of becoming hysterical. With the help of a Fine therapist i was Able to resolve the Issue. Now i do not visit my mothers grave or place Flowers there very often. Instead i choose to remember her As she was the last time i saw her alive a or As she was during my childhood a instead of in that grave. To me to remember her in her grave is to remember her gone and she will never be gone from my heart. Why put myself through the torment of visiting Cmar a male vocalist of the year single of the year song of the year horizon award and video of the  lady keeps Reading Barbara Bush will take her literacy Campaign to the air Waves Reading stories to children during a 10-week radio series beginning later this month. The first lady will read children a tales to a cartoon character during the 25-minute a mrs. Bush a Story  literacy tips and an interview with a celebrity will follow on the once a week show beginning sunday on the Abc radio network. A education experts Tell us about the value of Reading aloud to Young children a mrs. Bush said. A and its a wonderful Way for parents and children to spend special time  medal to be awarded blues guitarist . King opera Singer Beverly Sills Painter Jasper Johns and choreographer Merce Cunningham were to receive the National medal of the arts on monday the White House says. Actress Jessica Tandy and her husband actor Hume Cronyn Are other winners to be honoured by president Bush. The medal established in 1984, is intended to Honor those who have encouraged the arts and offered inspiration to others through distinguished achievement support or  respect for Rodney an attorney for Rodney Dangerfield says the comedian will press on with a lawsuit against Caesars Palace after negotiations Over an out of court settlement fell apart. The lawyer Barry Langberg said Friday the talks ended last month when attorneys for Caesars filed court papers claiming Dangerfield was a chronic cocaine marijuana and alcohol abuser. A the chances of a settlement Are almost nil now that Caesars has chosen to take the tack they have a Langberg said. The lawsuit claims Gross negligence and breach of contract stemming from a March 1988 incident in which Dangerfield says he suffered Eye damage after being scalded in a steam room at the hotel. Caesars has filed a breach of contract counter suit against Dangerfield that seeks $100,000 plus punitive  Ellie to be late when a a Dallas begins its 13th television season this fall family matriarch miss Ellie will be missing at least for a while. Actress Barbara Bel Geddes announced earlier this year she would not return As miss Ellie but a Lori mar Tel pictures spokesman said Friday she May appear later in the season. The shows first 12 episodes will explain her absence by saying she is on a european vacation. Dear Abby where she is not surely not for her she would be the last person to want me to suffer such pain. Sign me. Remember them alive dear remember thank you for putting into words what Many feel. We done tall handle grief in the same Way so to those who find peace and Comfort at the graveside of a loved one i say a go and May god be with you but done to sit in judgment of those who find grave Sites too painful to  i published this poem several years ago that says it All do not stand at my grave and weep i am not there i do not sleep. I am a thousand winds that blow i am the Diamond glints on Snow. I am the sunlight on ripened Grain i am the gentle autumn a rain. When you awaken in the mornings hush i am the Swift uplifting Rush of quiet Birds in circled flight. I am the soft Star that shines at night. Do not stand at my grave and cry. I am not there i did not die. Author unknown dear Abby apropos the letter about the Secretary who was learning from the pros actor Tom Selleck gazes out onto Baltimore a memorial stadium held while doing research for an upcoming role As an american ballplayer in Japan. Selleck was Given permission by Field umpires to Wear an orioles uniform and sit in the dugout during a game Between Baltimore and the Seattle mariners. In 1984, a heart attack kept the actress off the show for an entire season and she was replaced by Donna  Dukakis Speaks out Kitty Dukakis says she would not object to her husband running for president again. A you know i look at other political leaders who have said they would never do such and such a mrs. Dukakis wife of Massachusetts gov. Michael s. Dukakis said in an interview Friday with Barbara Walters. A i think its a mistake to make those kinds of pronouncements. I done to know what a going to happen tomorrow Quot mrs. Dukakis said. Mrs. Dukakis chronicles her problems with drug and alcohol abuse in a new Book a now you  she described herself As manic depressive and said she would not have been Able to handle the pressures of being first lady had Dukakis won in 1988. A not so Long ago i came perilously close to becoming the first lady of the United states. I say perilously Only for myself not the country a mrs. Dukakis told Walters. Looking for a a Europe under a a us in the dictionary Back in the �?T50s, we had a Young Secretary right out of High school. One Day the Boss asked Ner to Call Captain Smith at such and such a number in Washington . She dialled the number and asked to speak with mister Captain Smith while discussing this later one of my co workers mentioned another Young Secretary who typed from dictation a these figures were calculated with a sly  Back in those Days we used slide rules another person recalled the time he received a Tele phone Call from a person inquiring Why the first person and sent him an envelope containing Only three pieces of Carbon paper. It seems that the first person had dictated a letter to the Secretary and asked her to Send three carbons to the second person. Another time the Boss had to make a Quick trip to Washington ., so he asked his new Secretary to get him an air plane ticket. When he examined the ticket he found that the destination was Seattle. Upon questioning the Secretary he was told a you told me to get you a ticket to Washington but you did no to say where in the state so i picked a City for you a believe it or not Abby these Are All True stories. Raymond f. Elsner Littleton Colo. Dear Raymond i believe you. Nobody could make up anything that Good. Universal press Syndicate