European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - February 9, 1992, Darmstadt, Hesse                                This woman plays the Field to the letter be Kanitsch fun if ? y a a. A to k Ltd  i Salt it <6x, its amps Jim Dar Zeim Maggie Doty scans possible dates. With men nuking up nearly w percent of the . Military it can be difficult for american men to meet single women in Europe who Are working for Uncle Sam. Meeting Maggie Doty would be even More difficult. She is a 3l year old american who lives and works on the German Economy. Meeting men especially american men Isnit easy for the divorced Mother of one who teaches English at a German language Institute in Darmstadt Germany. Although she May come in Contact with hundreds of people each Day on the Job and in her town she says meeting and establishing a relationship with German or american men Isnit easy. Or Wasny to. Now Doty has found a Way to Weed through the masses and pick and choose prospective suitors. She contacts men who place advertisements in German newspapers looking for women to marry or Date. A a it a like getting to a Needle in a Haystack without the Hay a Doty said. A a it a quicker. Its an interesting Way to meet people and there Are a lot of interesting people doing it and they re All in the same predicament How do i meet someone Here Quot Doty has dated about 50 German men since she began answering ads last summer in such newspapers As die Zeit and Frankfurt s Mundschau. No serious relationships have developed but she said she has formed Good friendships. Before she Wasny to Likely to meet single men unless she happened to bump into them on the Street. Maggie said she does no to think it s a Good idea to Date people you work with. Also she said society is set up More for men to meet women than vice versa. A for a woman its a Little different than it is for a Man to be going out to dinner or to the disco unless you go with a group of friends and then you have to Hope you meet a group of Guys that Are together. It can be awkward it can work you never  being an american works to her advantage when replying to ads in the German newspapers. Doty said that anything american is popular among the germans although she said German men Are sometimes jarred by her straightforward manner. German women have told Maggie that they would be afraid to respond to an and. Even though americans Are popular and she Maggie Doty on the Lookout in Frankot Irtz a Mundschau newspaper a a it san interesting Way to meet people. Speaks Haw less German. Doty said there also is a cultural Gap she has to Deal  men according to Doty a German men seem to be less Independent and do not adapt to living alone As Well As american men. Who tend to leave Home after High school and Start fending for themselves. A German men need to have a woman to help them do the things formerly done by their mothers. A Frankfurt s All Gemeiner newspaper contains ads from men who have an exact idea of what they want for a w Ife and offer serious marriage proposals. A some German men Are looking Only for a mistress. A because getting a divorce can be expensive in Germany some married couples will continue living together while leading separate lives. Some wives will even take messages for their husbands from women answering their husband s and. A be wary of single German men with children. They often see a woman As a Mother wife and then As a person. Then again she has met single German men who Don t seem to mind that she has a  and game unlike american magazines that Are filled with ads from both men and women German Contact ads Are placed mostly by men Doty said. She has never placed one herself. Why because she said most German men probably done to take time to read newspapers. German men pay As much As 400 Marks about $250 to have their and placed Only once in the saturday paper. Doty said she quickly scans the ads and circles the ones that catch her Eye. She reads the circled ones again to get a better feel for what Type of person the Man is seeking. Then she writes a letter that includes what it was about the Man that caught her interest and information about herself such As age weight her first name and her Telephone number. Maggie said she never responds to men who Are smaller than she is and usually does no to Date men who Are seven years younger or older than herself. A you have to decide what you Are looking for before you respond Quot Doty said. Quot you must decide Why you Are doing it and what you Are looking for. Otherwise you will be  she said its Best to be honest about yourself in your reply because Many men Are specific about the Type of woman they would like to meet. For instance if you fit every description listed in an and except for being a Scorpio instead of a Pisces it would be Best not to respond because they probably  be interested. Or if you lie about other Small details there probably will be a sense of betrayal when the truth is later Learned. Sometimes she writes Only two letters in reply to the ads but has written As Many As 15. Because she has gotten better at analysing the ads Doty gets More responses even though she sends out fewer letters. When the men choose among the responses received from their and it May take As Long As four weeks before they Call if you Are number four or five on their list said Doty an attractive and articulate woman who has spent about half of her life in Europe. If possible its Best to talk on the phone two or three times to develop a sort of Friendship before arranging a Date she said. But that a not always possible because some men Are eager to talk meet and get on to the next person on the list but some men wont even Call unless a picture is included with the letter. Doty never sends a picture of herself. If asked about her looks she tells them a you  be embarrassed to be seen with me in  a it makes you feel like you Are in some sort of Beauty contest a she said of the men requiring photos. A they sit there with letters and pictures and make their pick based on looks. That a the Type of person i really done to want to  after agreeing to a Date some men will arrange Long trips across Germany so that they can meet several women in a Short period of time. Doty usually meets them Halfway if the Man lives far away. Although Doty said she feels Safe meeting men through the ads she often meets them in a Public place Lor Coffee. She said the atmosphere at that first on tinned on a age h february 9. 1992 sunday a Page 5