European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - February 9, 1992, Darmstadt, Hesse Cover Story tis the year for women to leap toward me by Sid Schapiro when cupids love tipped arrows Streak in Friday take heed its Valentines Day a and leap year yet gals do the chasing Guys play hard to get. Ever since we began having leap year we have been applying silly traditions to it such As the current one that decrees that during the year it is proper for women to propose marriage or other things to men. Your chances for sexual benefits however Are not Likely to improve just because the year has an extra Day in it. Long before women Learned to say a your place or mine Quot they had been proposing one thing or another to men. They used to say a if we were married we could live now they say. A if we re not going to get married i think you ought to get a place of your own because i need to be looking since the manhunt son what would you do if some fair Young Maiden exercised her leap year prerogative and asked you to be her permanent Valentine a lunch time interview with several member of bachelors inc. In a Manhattan Greenwich Village cafe All preferring anonymity elicited a variety of defensive tactics. A a in a Tell her i needed a year to consider such an important question a said one schemer a and then i be under any traditional obligations to say if a woman popped the question a pipe smoker said he would invoke the fifth amendment a and a then id have a discreet Check made to be sure she Hadnot just been released from a mental another revealed this Angle a a in a invite her to dinner and after she saw How Well i Cook and How tastefully in be decorated my apartment shed realize she possibly live up to my on the sly Side this fellow said a a in a find some Nice non personal Point of conflict a Money or religion or something like that a and then magnify it wholly out of the bachelors also gave thought to Side stepping situations that might offer a woman a Chance to propose Matrimony. A remaining Mobile a i think that a the answer said the Salesman. A i do a lot of travelling and it seems to have worked so the Lack of a plan is Best according to this Wisen he incr a when my confirmed Bachelor friends Tell me of their schemes for staying single its usually just after or just before they introduce me to their the Guy from Brooklyn observing an attractive woman at the next table blurted a Valentine Schmac Tinc if she a like that doll. In a trapped a while Guy chasing is in order women might consider sir Walter Scott a commentary on wooing a the lovers pleasure like that of the Hunter is in the Chase and the brightest Beauty loses half its Merit As the Flower its perfume when the willing hand can reach it too easily. There must be doubt there must be difficulty and the leap year theme is reflected in such Valentines Day cards As these a bearing come hither teasing artwork and flipping open to tender and not so tender traps a they. Handsome even though its leap year i Promise not to take advantage of you you la get a two second head a a it a leap year hold me tight. Or sober. A �?o1 know it s leap year but my Mother told me always to say a no a to a Man. So please try to phrase your questions a my leap year philosophy in the Battle of the sexes it matters not if you win or lose. Its How you play the game a since Many lovers add xes in signing their Valentine cards and other romantic missives it is interesting to note How the letter x happened to become a Symbol meaning a according to r. Brasch in his Book How did it begin the use of an x to signify a kiss began in the Middle Ages when the majority of people were illiterate and unable to sign their names. On the subject of the kiss one researcher came up with these Long lasting kisses in the world War ii Cra film you re in the army now Regis Toomy and Jane Wyman hold a single kiss 185 seconds a on what the guinness Book of world records terms the a most prolonged Oculato by kissing Marathon in cinematic guinness credits Debbie Luray and Jim Schuyler with a kiss for Charity that lasted 5v4 Days beginning Valentines Day 1980 on Singer Island Fla. Possibly the most kissed person in history was Navy it. Richmond Hobson a Spanish american War hero. At a postwar Celebration in Chicago two girls planted kisses on his heroic Check. Other females present were moved to do the same a 180 of them in 36 minutes. As the lieutenant toured a series of cities the kissing continued. In the end newspapers tallied 10,000 kisses for the hero. Incidentally Thomas Carlyle in the 19th Century said Quot if you Are Ever in doubt As to whether or not you should kiss a pretty girl always give her the Benefit of the Sid Schapiro is a stars and stripes new York Bureau Retiree f rom Page 5 meeting is similar to having a Blind Date in High school because you done to know exactly what to expect. She said the first thing she does is to see if the face matches the voice she heard on the phone. Quot you must be open minded and try not to show your Shock because they can be nothing like what you expect a Doty said. Quot after doing this for so Long i try not to make Many mental images because then there s less Chance of being disappointed or shocked one Way or the other a Good or bad. L eave yourself wide but Many times that Isnit the Case with men who done to take time to get to know the person behind the face. A either you fit the picture or you done to Quot she said. A in this hectic fast paced life you done to have time to Stop and smell the roses. You just want to look at it. If it looks Good then you might Stop and smell it awhile. But if you done to like what it looks like we re not going to smell it and that a sad in a Way because people Arentt taking the time. Its sort of like fast Chuck Robert Shiv positive Gay still wants to get personally Carla Hall the Washington Post it starts out As cryptically As any other personal and. Tony. Gay male outgoing warm fun. Italian 57�?�, 135 lbs., 31, dark hair Blue eyes. His positive asymptomatic. Seeking same. Give great foot rubs love film theater. Looking for Man capable of Romance affection and support. Between the Blue eyes and the foot rubs the and Speaks Earth shattering volumes about people who often can to play this dating game. A two years ago when i would Date someone and bring this up people would run out of my apartment like their hair was on fire a says Tony Morton the Tony of the and. R now Morton is one of the initial group of people advertising in a dating and brochure called connect one of the first dating services designed solely for people infected with his the virus that causes aids. He May not even have to wait for responses from the mailed brochure. In the two weeks since the his organization called being alive created the service the flurry of local television coverage a some of it featuring interviews with handsome Tony Morton a has netted him a few phone Calls from would be suitors. Being alive a a self help coalition of 8,000 los Angeles area people a already puts out a newsletter makes medical presentations offers information videos on local Cable channels and holds social events such As a recent Christmas party. A we found that people with his were asking for something that went beyond coping with illness to an assertion that they wanted to live fulfilling and meaningful and Joyful lives As any person in the world is entitled to a says the executive of being alive Ferd Eggan who is Gay and his positive. A they asked for help developing friendships and intimate companionship. That sounded to us like an important thing to being alive is run by a handful of paid staffers and volunteers supported by donations and a few Grants. Morton whose his was diagnosed in 1985, says these Days there a More understanding on everyone a part about the virus. A today i Date lots of people who Are his negative and they re much More educated and they act More pm pathetically a says Morton who a a Volunteer at being alive. Still he says he prefers to Date people who Are his positive. A i guess i still feel most comfortable with people who will be going through the same experience a he says. People infected with his arc urged to practice protected sex no matter whom they re with according to Eggan. Since announcing the Start up of the dating service in its latest monthly newsletter the organization has had about 250 inquiries Eggan estimates. Most were from the los Angeles area but because the newsletter is sent to people across the country responses have come from As far away As North Carolina Wisconsin and Florida. A total of 65 inquiries made it into the two connect brochures that were mailed last weekend. According to the organizers most of the participants described themselves As being asymptomatic or having arc aids related Complex or being in relatively Good health. The ads Are divided into straight and Gay mailings. Of the initial 50 Gay ads All were from men. The 15 straight ads included some from women. Page 6 a sunday february 9, 1992
