European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - November 22, 1992, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Odds amp ends miss m \ i Judith Martin dear miss manners our son will be graduating from University with High distinction a Magna cum lauds. The school supplies us with printed announcements that include a Small enclosure card stating the graduates name and degree hut since they Are mass produced they cannot state honors. Is is permissible to Han write the Honor on the card if not How would you suggest sharing the information with the Many relatives and friends who will be receiving the announcements but cannot attend the ceremony gentle Reader. Special Good news is properly announced in a tone of amazement which a formal card docs not convey. The Milestone itself is described calmly enough but any extras should be added breathlessly. Thus you might sent out an Ordinary announcement of your songs marriage but if you want to Tell people that his Bride is Nobel laureate in physics you have to Call them and blurt out a a guess what Quot in this Case. Miss manners will allow you to do it in a Handwritten addition to the announcement along the lines of Quot and he s graduating Magna we re so thrilled a she realizes that this uses up a whole family a allotment of exclamation Points for the year but Heck its Worth it. Cur miss manners when someone has indicated lie wants to enter a Row of scats is it proper for people already seated at the end to move Over toward the Middle to make room at the end or should those seated just stand so the newcomer can work his Way toward the Center gentle Reader it would be easier if everyone just shoved Over a bit  it but then someone will demand the Quot right Quot of sitting on the aisle by virtue of having arrived in time to secure that place. There is no Rule of etiquette demanding that you move Over propriety merely requires that you minimize your bulk by standing or by Tilting yourself to one Side if there is room in order to allow latecomers to get comfortably by. But the easiest Way to do it is by shoving Over. Dear miss manners my Fiance and i met at a Mutual Friend s wedding where not Only was he my escort but also he caught the Garter and i caught the bouquet. The Flowers were a smaller version of the Bride s bouquet meant for throwing. I have kept this silk arrangement in mint condition and would like to use it for my throwing Flowers. I would also Tike to use the Garter my fian cts caught to throw. It is also in mint condition except for fading from a Pale Blue to White. I think it would be romantic if the souvenirs that brought us together were used on the Day we marry but i am afraid this would be improper. Can you help gentle Reader the Only thing that strikes miss manners As improper in this oth wisc romantic Story is the idea of Quot throwing  throwing Flowers it Isnit even a Nice term. Miss manners does no to want to Tell you what it conjures for her. And the idea that a by id would grudge throwing her bouquet and have a fake one on hand to substitute is symbolically troubling. Have we gone so crazy Over memorializing such events that we grab our souvenirs even before they serve their purpose and toss out substitutes probably. Miss manners apologizes for ranting on about what the modern world has come to instead of answering your question. Of course you can reuse these mementos. Even Given the fact that miss manners does no to like the other Bride s action by which you acquired them she approves of your sentiments in using items at your wedding that have sentimental value. Just please done to expect to grab them Back from the people who catch them at your wedding. And done to use substitutes for throwing in Case a romantic couple happens to catch what you throw and perpetuates the Chain of accepting substitutes United feature Syndicate k s it n s Sagittarius nov. 22-dec. 20 this begins a new yearly Cycle. Clear the decks of old patterns and habits. Capricorn dec. 21-Jan. 19 avoid confrontations of All kinds. Your re not at your Best. You can Only play defense. Aquarius Jan. 20-feb. 18 bring your projects to a close. Kick Back and enjoy the returns of your efforts. Pisces feb. 19-March 20 you Are torn Between work and recreation. Find a Happy balance Between the two. Aries March 21-april 19 All of a sudden you re the Center of attention. Enjoy this new Lound popularity. Taurus april 20-May 20 an expected trip May be necessary. It could put a Strain on your finances. Spend cautiously. Gemini May 21-june 20 you get an extra shot of Energy put it to work on an important project. Cancer june 21-july 22 think before you act. Consider All angles. This Way you can avoid an embarrassing situation. Leo july 23-aug. 22. Potential associates Are powerful and can assist you in a number of ways. Let them. Virgo aug. 23-sept. 22 love at first sight is always exciting. Follow up to see if there is anything to it. Libra sept. 23-oct. 22 done to be misled by those who cannot know what s Best for you. Make your own decisions. Scorpio oct. 23-nov. 21 this is a great period for learning something new. Sign up for a class or seminar. Copley Seiyt words of Wisdom Aren t aging very Well k now that my kids Are adults i seem to have lost some of the mystique i had when i raised them. They were magic times when everything i told them was written in Stone. If i knew then what i know now i would never have talked so much. How was i to know they had great memories and would one Day Challenge me on everything i Ever said a remember when you told us not to play with matches or we d wet the bed Quot asked my daughter. Quot of course i remember Quot i said. Quot i was 25 years old before id Light the stove to make dinner a she said. Quot Why did you Tell us that Quot a the worst thing she Ever told us Quot offered a son a is that if we swallowed our gum our insides would Slick together. For years 1 had this picture of a giant Bubble gum Ball sticking to my rib  Quot the one i remember is when you told me if i put my hand outside the car window it would blow off. If i had just seen a hand Fly by on the Highway id have believed  Quot it could happen a i said stubbornly. Quot mom where did you get those stories like a when you grow up you la thank me for being so  right. Like we re going to throw ourselves at your feet and say thank you thank you for letting me sit on a hard chair right through puberty because you found a set of dirty dishes under my bed. What arc you crazy a a a in la never know How you kept a straight face when you told us our eyes would freeze if we crossed them i always wondered Why there were no telethon for Frozen  Quot parents arc weird a observed our son. Quot you used to threaten us to go to sleep by telling us a Bat was going to Fly in the window and suck the air out of us. You expected us to sleep after that Quot a you weren to easy to raise Quot i said numbly i never thought id lose my credibility. A listen to this Quot said our daughter. Quot she never allowed me to sew anything on sundays she said anything i stitched on sunday id have to take out with my nose on monday. Mom you re too much. In a going to Wash my  Quot it you go to bed with wet hair you la die of pneumonia a i said mechanically. Quot there you go again. Colds Are transmitted by a virus. In be never seen anyone die from washing her  Quot you re Young yet Quot i snapped. Universal press Syndicate no ,.�?Tthey died in poverty 1. Thomas Jefferson 2. Thomas Paine 3. Columbus 4. Explorer James Cook 5. Declaration signer Robert Morris 6. James Wilson Marshall discovered Gold leading to California Gold Rush world features Syndicate Page 10 a sunday november 22, 1992