European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - September 8, 1991, Darmstadt, Hesse Odds amp ends if the Home is his Castle where do you escape Cindy Chambers columnist s s 4 a where arc we going this w a weekend Quot. A huh be Tushy i thought wed j stay Home. Watch All Star wrestling. Sort of take it Quot but the kids and 1 have been cooped up for three weeks for three Long weeks you be been in the Field while i be been stuck Here playing a Mommy has a the least you can do is take us out for the a not another trip to a Castle we already spend More time in castles than Queen Elizabeth. Anyway Why Don t you take the kids somewhere yourself Quot Quot so you can lie around in your underwear drinking Beer and eating Chicz doodles All Day fat Chance. Besides we need you to read the a sure. Great. That a what i really want to do after three solid weeks in the Field get lost in the Countryside with a map and a Bunch of Cranky people. Sounds like a really different Way to spend my time Quot Quot it s not my fault you belong to the a testosterone battalion a you were in trouble when you found out the brigade motto was a severing tics with our families so they can sleep better at night Only they done to because we re always in the Field and burglars know Quot Quot Don t go dragging my battalion into it. We be got a Job to do and we do it a Quot 68 weeks out of the year whether you need to or not. I know. 1 guess i should be thankful. After All the main reason we be been married this Long is that we be Only seen each other five Quot wait a that a it what Day say we get re acquaint cd spend the weekend at Home getting to know one another put some steaks on the Barbecue maybe get a bottle of wine. Spend a Nice romantic evening together just like old a have you been Reading Cosmo again Quot a wok make jokes. I m offering you a Chance to rekindle our relationship and a a a a fall tight in a sold but what do you plan to do with the kids put them in suspended animation Quot Quot the kids. Hmm. Well then maybe we should just watch a Little to family style. I think wrestling might be Click. A they wait a minute. Quot a ooh and would you mind doing a Little laundry 1�?~vc got three weeks Worth in my Duffel bag. If you Start now you can probably get through it by Quot Quot Quot Honey Honey of. Well. Now where does she keep the cheer doodles a Quot Cindy Chambers is a military family member in Schweinfurt. German miss m Lusby Judith Martin United feature Syndicate ear miss manners i am a Young looking 41-year-old woman with a 20-Ycar-old daughter. There a a very Strong resemblance Between us and when people meet us for the first time they automatically assume we Are Sisters. A fact in be corrected them their immediate response is a How old arc you anyway a their Shock and embarrassment at making such a Blunder leads me to believe that they Are not in fact trying to he rude but Are just surprised. Flow can i avoid directly answering this question without sounding offended or causing additional embarrassment gentle Reader miss manners is afraid that there is no protecting people from themselves if they insist in going around announcing their assumptions about people they done to know. Sisters whom they assume to be Mother and daughter arc going to be less Calm about this than you arc. In this Case they have Only compounded the first rudeness with another rudeness. When Are they going to Stop but we will be gentle with them anyway. Miss manners suggests a Sweet smile with the words Quot old enough to be her dear miss manners i was astounded when my aunt asked me if my recent marriage was one of convenience. I was so shocked and Hurt by this intrusion into my personal life that i was unable to answer appropriately. How might 1 have responded to such a cruel question gentle Reader by saying Quot yes auntie its marvellously convenient to have the person you love bound to you but what on Earth got into her docs she not know that the proper thing to say to a newly married Nephew or Niece is Quot congratulations dear miss manners a female Friend introduced me to her male Friend when we were All single. He later became my husband and my Friend was Matron of Honor at the wedding. Since then my Friend has married too. My husband still considers her his Friend. Is it proper for him to Call this lady on the phone for a Friendly Chat he feels awkward about it because we done to know her husband very Well. Since our marriage my husband and i have each maintained several non romantic friendships with people of the opposite sex. Is it permissible for a married person to visit such a Friend without the spouse present can one develop new friendships of such a nature we Trust each other but we want to give anyone the wrong idea or cause our friends to feel uncomfortable. Gentle Reader it strikes miss manners that you of All people should be grateful for the changes in society that make genuine Friendship possible Between ladies and gentlemen. Miss manners certainly Hopes your Trust has not diminished. It would be dreadful to imply that you believe your husband could reject other ladies before you came along but not after. And it would be highly ungrateful for him to Cut off his Friendship with this lady after she did him the enormous Benefit of introducing him to you. So the problem As you correctly identify it is to avoid misunderstandings with others. Your friends husband for example. Of course Friendly overtures should be made to him As Well. You cannot have so close a family Friend without at least attempting to make a Friend of her husband. But As we know these attempts Don t always work. And you done to have to be a foursome now with them or any other couple to the exclusion of old or new two Way friendships. You and your husband can help each other in dispelling any notions others May have that your opposite gender friendships arc romances in disguise. A social posture toward a spouses friends should be obviously warm. And any hints to the contrary should be indignantly rejected Loki its it it >11 s Virgo aug. 23-sept. 22 you Are More emotional than usual. You also have intensified willpower. It is a Good time for self improvement. Libra sept. 23-oct 22 focus is on privacy and introspection. Take the time to look at your values and listen to your dreams. Scorpio oct. 23-nov 21 discuss your Hopes and wishes with others. Friends can help you achieve your goals. Sagittarius nov. 22-dec. 20 discover your hidden strengths and utilize those talents to gain Success in your career. Capricorn dec. 21 Jan. 19. You May be focusing on travel but wait a month to plan. Look at the philosophical Side of life. Aquarius Jan. 20-feb. 18 it is a Good Day to share your knowledge and resources with other people you will gain from the experience. Pisces feb. 19-March 20. Time to expand your appreciation of the arts. It May give you insight into other areas of your life. Forefront. Focus on keeping balanced. Plan fun activities for the evenings. Taurus april 20-May 20 spark some Romance into your old relationship. Surprise your mate with a night on the town. Take risks. Gemini May 21-june 20 you May need to readjust your plans in achieving goals at work. Don t let them interfere with your Domestic life. Cancer june 21-july 22 communication is at a High. Now is the time to present new ideas. Take an interesting class. Leo july 23-aug. 22 shop for things that will improve your image or your Home. Resist going overboard. Aries March 21 april 19 work is on the cop by news sen ice Page 10 a sunday tember 8, 1991
