European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - March 22, 1992, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Odds amp ends miss Many its Judith Martin d ear miss manners when two or More females Are at a restaurant table with or without men if one excuses herself to go to the ladies room does the other excuse herself also to accompany her gentle Reader How is that again Are you asking whether ladies who Dine together must also make a unanimous decision about whether and when to go to the bathroom Why no. When one lady gets up it is certainly common for one or All the ladies present to say Quot i believe ill join  that Way directions Only have to be asked once they can talk about the gentlemen in private and the ladies can assist one another in seeing if dresses Are straight in the Back. But this is not required for heavens Sake. Etiquette May be in the business of regulating human Contact for the general welfare a but it does allow anyone who does no to need a diaper changed or to change one to go to the bathroom by herself. Dear miss manners As competitive ballroom dancers my Boyfriend and i have frequent occasion to Wear evening clothes. Of course neither of us wears a wrist Wutch when formally dressed but this has resulted in our being late More than once. I am thinking of buying him a pocket watch. How is this properly carried he does not normally Wear a Vest and carrying it in a pants pocket would be problematic for dancing. Is it acceptable for him to carry it in the inner breast pocket of his jacket what does he do with the Chain and is there any Way for a lady to carry a watch in the evening gentle Reader naturally miss manners is As devoted As you to the Rule against wearing wristwatches with evening clothes. Not Only does this violate traditional fashion but it violates an etiquette Rule against ladies and gentlemen seeming to keep track of the time when they Are supposed to be at Leisure. But of course even miss manners needs to know what time it is. She cannot be out carousing All night or her head would ache too much to tackle etiquette problems in the morning. This problem is recognized by etiquette pocket watches Are indeed considered proper for evening dress. However it is not Correct to string the Chain across the vested Tummy As is permissible during the Day. The Chain of an evening watch goes from the watch pocket to the regular pocket on that Side. If this is a problem during dancing an exciting idea to miss manners As she tries to imagine How vigorously you dance the watch May be tucked away with or without a Chain wherever the gentleman pleases. The Point is that it is tucked away. Now we come to the lady a problem. However much miss manners has been beaten Down by the problem it has never been to the Point of condoning visible watches. An evening watch worn by a lady whether on wrist or pin is a mistaken notion. No watch should be visible no matter How Many diamonds it boasts. One solution miss manners tried is a Long neck Chain with a tiny watch at the end which is tucked out of sight into the do Collet age. The Folly of this Only hit her when she unfortunately needed to know the time smack in the Middle of a Black tie dinner and thinking she was being Subtle about it slowly hauled up the Chain As if absentmindedly while continuing her dinner party chatter. Only when she realized that no one else at the table was talking or even listening did she notice that her Little gesture spellbound the entire table of guests who were watching open mouthed to see what might finally emerge from the mannerly bosom. So much for that idea. Miss manners has Long since switched to a version of the pocket watch a keeping one of her Lapel watches a miniature travel clock or even a credit card sized Modem digital watch in her evening bag. A Bracelet watch in which a Cap Over the watch face is a secret part of the design of an innocent looking Bracelet is another solution. But Isnit this really a Wristwatch True it is a watch and it is worn at the wrist. But As miss manners keeps pointing out the advantage of manners Over morals is that in manners what can to be detected by others does no to count against one. In Ltd feature  Aries March 21-april 19 watch out while making any Public presentations. People tend to pick up the wrong message. Taurus april 20-May 20 use your willpower to create what you want in your life. Just say Quot i  gemini May 21-june 20 your dual nature comes in Handy when you must do a Job requiring diplomacy. Cancer june 21-july 22 rethink an idea you have had for a while and outline it on paper. Leo july 23-aug. 22 while at a major turning Point in your life Don t make any Hasty decisions. Be patient. Virgo aug. 23-sept. 22 if it feels like someone has put your life on hold Don t despair whistle while you wait. Libra sept. 23-oct. 22 misunderstandings and missed communications can leave you feeling quite frustrated. Watch what you say. Scorpio oct. 23-nov. 21 mix concentration with determination and you can make All of your dreams come True. Sagittarius nov. 22-dec. 20 the need to escape reality does no to have to be negative. Look for a positive route. Capricorn dec. 21-Jan, 19 an optimistic attitude will keep you going Strong through the week. Dare to think big. Aquarius Jan. 20-feb. 18 in your career there is danger of manipulation and or Power plays. Stand your ground. Pisces feb. 19-March 20 get inspired. If you can get away and explore some unknown territory. You la be renewed. Copley nows service postal service is doing a number on its patrons Cindy Chambers just when you think you be seen everything along comes a newspaper Story that boggles the mind. A ten year old girl gives birth to twelve year old boy is an almost unbelievable one i read in the enquirer recently. Then there a one that appeared in the stars and stripes under the headline a complaints Surprise postal  it seems officials from the . Postal service visiting Europe were a surprised by the complaints of overseas military postal patrons regarding the new address system. Apparently postal officials thought we would react to the change with wild unbridled excitement. A More numbers to memorize a they expected us to shout gleefully. A yippee now our mail will literally take forever to arrive a yet we reacted by complaining. Isnit that just like us overseas military postal patrons i can just imagine officials making the determination to change our address system. A a let a add a few More numbers just for fun a they probably said. A military people love numbers a and its easy to see where they get the idea. A Harvard mathematics professor deals with fewer numbers each Day than the typical military person. Just try calling the dispensary sometime. A a what a your age Quot they ask when you finally manage to get through. A a what a your phone number your unit address Complete social Security number How Long have you been making that strange gurgling noise hello hello a the number situation like everything else is complicated by living in Europe. First you re Given an obviously fake phone number like �?o52146,�?� then you re expected to memorize a ridiculous area code like �?o69058318098.�?� and remember a if you need help fast dial 023 that s 619 when you be got an emergency in Europe dial 581 unless you live in the Benelux a right. Is it any wonder your Quick Cash card gets eaten by the Money machine because you be punched in your video rental identification number instead and is it any wonder we re just a tiny bit hesitant about adopting this new address system i really am trying to memorize my new address though. Unfortunately the closest in be come so far is a bizarre combination of the two addresses featuring a any  the question is will stateside businesses accept this address any better than the real one ill have the answer for you when the mail is delivered at 1500 hours which for you civilian postal officials is., Well. You postal Guys love numbers so much Why done to you just figure it out for yourselves Cindy Chambers is a military family member in Schweinfurt  k11 1 1 \ embarrassing Momenta while conducting orchestras 1, Johannes Brahms a pants fell Down 2, Antonin Dvorak a fell asleep 3, sir Landon Ronald a fainted source tha armchair conductor Page 10 a sunday March 22, 1992