European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - February 14, 1993, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Cover Story from the cover other questions she hears when do you Date have sex make a commitment there s no Pat answer no magic age no magic Lime lips tells them but if you re questioning if you Are ready you re probably not nevertheless each year As Many As a half a dozen of the school s students arc married often to a Serviceman and maybe one or two become preg Nant. " you re too Young is what everyone told Jennifer and William Landis but they say their hearts told them otherwise. They Are one of two Young married couples at Baum older High who said they found True love. Jennifer 17, and William 19, met in High school in York a. They were married last april during her Sophomore year. William a private first class works near Baum Holder High at the Headquarters company for 3rd in 12th inf regt while Jennifer attends classes. Like Many recruits he joined the army for College Money and experience in mechanics. William admits he thought his future Bride was a senior when they met. By the time they figured out each other s age it did t matter they said. A six month separation when William went to an army specially school settled it. I never wanted to be without the feeling of being together with him again explained Jennifer de scribing William As easy to live with. Whenever i m Down he gives me a hug and tells me everything willbe  William in turn said Jennifer always listened to him and understood especially when he had to be away on Field exercises. He also boasted about How she was smart in chemistry and aiming for the Honor Roll. To have a Nice family raise our children and have a House in the Woods away from everybody is what Jennifer sees for their future she also Hopes to be a psychologist. William also envisions a quiet life. He Hopes their Job schedules will be compatible that he says is critical not a need to be Rich or  after 296 Days of marriage they were hard put to cite conflicts or pet peeves. They laughingly said they both liked to have the toilet paper Roll pull out from the top still although she wishes them Success lips and other Counselor say Many Young couples like the la discs will have Rocky times ahead they Don t do Well because they do not have the maturity cautioned lips who has had 20 years of experience working with Young people. They often Start out Well but they arc still developing As individuals. Their chances of growing and changing together Are slim. ?1one often outdistanced the other. They do Well until about age 24" when real world concerns such As children finances and careers have to be sur mounted. The lovers of Troy Baum older s Tabatha and Terry Givens 19 and 20, say they have already worked through the most troubled time of their relationship. They were mar ried in december 1991, despite advice from her parents his parents and everybody we knew Tabatha said. But i loved him and already had a son by him while at Henderson High school in Troy ala., ninth grader Tamalha fell for the handsome Lola Grade basketball hero Terry. Other girls they got pregnant and their boyfriends would leave that child stranded said Tabatha. He stuck with  while the couple sorted things out Saku Culiz now 2, received his name. Tabatha and a girlfriends a Elfelt  Terry and Saquic Utlz Givens have stuck together from Troy ala., to bum Holder Germany. Decided they liked the sound of it. Today after being married 411 Days she keeps me on my toes. We argue a lot just in a fun Way said Terry who is a private first class with the 4th ,12th inf regt. He complements his wife who finished High school in january. She manages the household and takes care of their son sometimes when Terry is on Field duty for weeks. I love it Terry a wheeled vehicle Mechanic said. She s matured. She can take care of All these things and keep herself  the wide eyed marriage Stormy times in a relationship Don t happen Only Early on say Joanne and Jim Spiller. They were mar ried after meeting on a Blind Date in Enid okla. She was a senior in High school and he was a freshman in College. Those sock hop Days were More than four decades ago. Love is not a big warm feeling All the time that you Are always wanted or want the other person said Jim now col. James Spiller chaplain for the 32nd army air defense come in Darmstadt Ger Many. Divorce had entered his mind he admitted but Sis pm Bathen. Joanne and Jim Spiller stationed in Darmstadt have been married 14,694 Days on this Valentine s. Never lasted  he volunteered the comment As he sat with his wife recently in their Home to talk about How they weathered 40 years of life together. The Spillers life has entered on their Home and Faith but it was t always my Blue heaven Joanne said. She had wanted to Many a doctor then Jim dropped pre med and decided to go into the ministry. Then about is years into the marriage he came up with of All things joining the army. At that time their daughters Karen Kathy and Susan were 11,8and 5. You Don t have three teen agers at one time that you Don t have problems Joanne said. Even in year 28, there was a Low Point in the relationship that she describes As Only a Pride  today their daughters Are married and have Given their parents six grandchildren. Successful marriages might be "inherited/1 they said. When people see their parents working through Good and bad times they Are More realistic about commitment. Joanne s parents were married 67 years before her father died. Jim s parents were married 42 Yean be fore his Mother died. And his father s second marriage is into its 27th year. In any Case Jim suggested couples Young and old need to work at marriage maintenance. That includes continuing with the niceties that attracted people to each other when they were courting. She still wears lipstick when he comes Home because he Hes it. Almost All of their married life he has com Home for lunch. People should also be honest and open without criticizing All the time Joanne said. She admitted she gets annoyed when her husband puts things off and he will never understand her need for Perfec Tion. Compromise patience and love steady the course. Jim tells people they must be very intentional about their relationships. They must decide i am married today i m going to stay married and the same the next Day. It s going to be a Good marriage. Joanne is Active in Community work and joins her husband in giving marriage seminars. Her recommendation the More a couple has in common the More they have to share the longer they can enjoy things together. Your sexual Side is important but so is work in the Yard and painting the Back Fence she said. After being married 14,694 Days the Spillers say they Are less idealistic and More at ease. She still Dis likes his procrastination he still can t fathom her compulsive Ness she said. But what surprises us most is the depth of our  Page 4 sunday february 14.1993