European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - January 2, 1994, Darmstadt, Hesse -4 Page 10 miss manners 6 Judith Martin dear miss manners at our wedding my Fiance will have both his biological father with his new wife and his adoptive father with his new wife. His biological Mother is unable to attend a he is not close to his biological father having seen him once in the past four years and never having heard from him at holidays but he wants both fathers with their wives at the head table with my parents. Do both fathers get boutonnieres Wantla Reader sure Why not its Only a Flower not a badge of Merit in advanced fatherhood. And if you have a parents table you done to really want to put him in Public exile. But it is easy for miss manners to be glib on the Assumption that your Fiance has already dealt with the one Good answer to the question of Why not that it might Hurt the feelings of his adoptive father. If that gentleman secure in his songs love can enjoy sharing his position symbolically miss Man nere will know who it is who has brought up your Fiance to be emotionally generous. Dear Mitt manners when Cashiers and attendants used to say a thank you Many years ago i would take my receipt and reply a a you re when they stopped that and began saying a have a Nice Day a i would say a thank you a you too a now that All they say is a there you go a those replies seem nonsensical. The Only response lean think of is Quot there you stay a sent it Reader let s see if we can get an approximation of a polite Exchange going again. Suppose you say a thank you a it is too much to Hope that the cashier will then say a a you re Welcome a but you May Well get a Quot thank you Quot in which Case you can say a a you re in t politeness fun miss manners Hopes there Arentt too Many people in line behind you. Deer mlee manners where does one draw the line Between etiquette and respect for religions when at a Catholic wedding ceremony i stood and sat when others did but i did not Kneel or take communion because it did not feel right to me afterwards i thought that maybe i should have Knelt. Should one treat it differently if one is in the wedding party when my Boyfriend was an usher he took communion because it would have looked funny if he was the Only usher that did no to. At the same time it did no to feel right to him. Wantla Reader miss manners rarely gets the Chance to be horrified at evidence of people conforming with others behaviour in order to be inconspicuous. But with All due respect to your gentleman. Friends motivation he made a serious error. Yes etiquette demands respect for religion. But to treat a serious religious ritual such As communion As if it were an outward form devoid of Content does not qualify As respect. To stand and sit when others do is part of the tradition of showing respect that we All share. Miss manners is willing to concede that the question of kneeling can be left up to your own idea of Quot Comfort Quot even though she despises using a dreadfully selfish term for determining proper behaviour. But to pretend to a religious act without meaning it is however Well intentioned highly improper dear miss manners if it is Ever proper to use the term �?oms.,�?� is there a period after the a a mss gentle Reader of course the term is proper. Furthermore it is so. Useful that miss manners cannot imagine How anyone could resist it the most tradition minded people in the world miss manners being not the last of them herself must recognize that there is no other Correct Way to address a married or widowed lady when one is using her own first name rather than her husbands or one is divorced with a lady a first name is always incorrect. And yes it takes a period like �?omrs.,�?� is an abbreviation and one documented for several centuries for the former All purpose female title a a miss is also derived from that once highly respectable title but As it has its own Vowel it has come to be classified As a word. A a dear mlee manners is there any decent Way to give a dinner invitation with the understanding that it is not for a full blown dinner party evening but instead for a couple of hours of repast before the hosts and doubtless the guests too must withdraw to prepare for the next Days workload my Girlfriend and 1 differed on this Point As i planned a Nice Lamb roast for a sunday night when we both had to do a couple of hours Reading after dinner. She disagreed with my inclination to invite our next door neighbors another two career couple for sociability before we All returned to our tolls. Gentle Reader miss manners does no to suppose you could do your Homework before you play finish your Reading and schedule a Nice late sunday Lamb roast dinner instead of an Early one you cannot Tell people to leave before the expected length of a dinner party. Encouraging them to go when they have overstayed that period is hard enough although sometimes Dir Ely necessary you could invite them with a proviso such As Quot would you like to take a Quick dinner break with us sunday say about six to eight Well sit Down at 6 30 Sharp so everyone can get Home Early Quot but miss manners will not guarantee that you can enforce it. United feature. Syndicate feeling incorrect address your etiquette questions in Black or Blue Black Ink on White writing paper to miss manners . Box 91428. Cleveland Ohio 44101-3428. The Quill shortage prevents miss manners from answering questions except through this would dim Erma Bombeck now would you like to live in the magical kingdom of celebrity Dom where the lights Shine Day and night there Are no locks on the doors to be Ftp people from a walking in on your life and you live in constant fear of being evicted to people who can to get recognized by a Butcher when they hold a Low number this does not seem like a major problem. What could possibly be More exciting than tooling around in a Umo being tugged at by adoring fans and stared of while Yoti eat yet this past year two superstars left the Palace grounds and said a no / Michael Jordan at the Peak of his basketball career begged the press to let him be a private citizen once again. Princess i choked with emotion said she could no longer Cany out her duties under the scrutiny of the pit Bull Media. Both were two giving people who tried desperately to handle it All until inquiring minds took away from them something they desperately needed to survive a piece of themselves. The bigger the stars get the smaller the cameras that probe into their personal lives. Do we need to see Julia Roberts at a private party or Princess i working out in a gym can we make it through the Day without a press conference by Michael Jackson a former maid Talent can no longer sustain performers. They must share their past present and every personal thought. They must endure intrusive cameras at their weddings and funerals and cassettes sold of their private conversations. They me immortalized in literature by disgruntled children agents and people out to make a Buck on sleaze. I remember a few years ago a Young idol David Cassidy the Partridge family supposedly was so overwhelmed by the invasion of his life that he dropped put of show business. He returned recently and quietly to the new York stage. When Andy Warhol predicted everyone would become famous for 15 minutes he probably knew it was All they could take. Universal press Syndicate no kidding patents really issued by . Government 1. For a vibrating toilet seat 2. For a parakeet diaper 3. For a Rifle that fires around Corners 4. For dog housebreaking training pants 5. For alarm clock that squirts Sleeper. Inventions necessity is not the Mather of patents ridiculous and Sublime .7 countries without any known Oil 1. Korea. 2. Sweden3. Belg fun 4. Uruguay5. Paraguay6. South Africa a a �?�7. Switzerland american Petroleum Institute sunday january 2, 1994 j
