European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - January 13, 1991, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Sunday january 13, 1991 the stars and stripes a Page. Or is la 1 s a Ltd of x a a or it of a a Ltd a a j. Dear Ann Landers i feel compelled to comment on the advice you gave a a Arlene who was upset when a Man in the elevator snapped her pantyhose while her arms were full of office supplies. She said she Felt like slapping him. You advised her to go ahead and make a scene. Years ago when i was Young foolish and unconcerned about personal safety i found myself in a similar situation in an elevator with my arms full of groceries. It was Broad Daylight and i was re. Turning to my apartment. I lived in a Nice building and thought nothing of it when i walked into the elevator with a Man who was neatly dressed and wearing a yacht. In Cap. A \ As soon As the elevator door closed the Man proceeded to fondle my breasts. Thinking i could handle him since we were approximately the same size i smacked him in the face. His Only comment was a you Hurt me now in a going to Hurt  he beat me so severely that i spent nearly two weeks in traction in an orthopaedic Hospital with a severe neck injury. In be relived that experience dozens of times in the past few years and concluded that i had been an enabler. By hitting the Man first i gave him the justification at least in his twisted mind to beat me up. I now live in a Small town and yes i still ride elevators but in a a lot More cautious. If a potential passenger looks suspicious i wait for the next elevator. Lesson Learned in Oneonta n y. A . A a an elevator is an Ideal place to get mugged robbed or raped. An attacker need Only press the Stop Button Between floors and keep his victim away from the alarm. A it pays to be Alert. If you get on with several other passengers and they get Oft leaving you with a person whose looks you done to like it is Best to get Oft too. And do not attempt to use the stairs. You could meet the creep in the stairwell. I agree with your conclusion about having a a instigated the attack that put you in the Hospital. It is foolish to smack a fondled in the face when you Are alone. Better to have done nothing until you were in a position to escape to a place of safety. Dear Ann Landers my sister and 1 have had an ongoing disagreement Over the definition of a Clove of fresh garlic. 1  Clove is one piece pulled off a head of garlic. My sister  Clove is one  Sis was making Spaghetti. The recipe called for six cloves of garlic. She had Cut up six Heads of garlic enough to take care of half of Naples. In be had friends and family Call her but she will not believe anyone. Shell believe you Ann so please set tie it. A dinner is at stake. You have my permission to print my name. Joyce Shannon Hampton a. Dear Joyce you win. According to websters third new International dictionary a Clove is a a one of the Small sections developed in a Large bulb As in garlic a in a a Clove a Day girl myself. Hippocrates recommended it for upset stomachs. Aristotle used it for animal bites Albert Schweitzer used it in Africa to treat infections. Garlic May reduce cholesterol lower blood pressure and improve circulation. I recommend it. And what about friendships Chew a fresh sprig of Parsley and everything will be Hunky Dory. C creators Syndicate the Streand Lpes european edition circulation 200,000 col Gene , Usan. Commander publisher Bernard a. Zovistoski a. Editor a. It col Gayle w. Fix Usa Deputy commander. Marie Kominicki Bob Wicker Deane b. Mcdermott production manager managing editor circulation manager this newspaper is an authorized unofficial publication for members of the military services overseas. 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A writer lends support advice to spouses the following was written As thoughts and guidelines for family members left behind by spouses deployed to opera non desert Shief Fojt was originally written for the i s t combat communications group ten does and done to for helping you cope1 because when the Leaf Falls the tree does no to die do 1. Go out once a month or better still once a week. Do something frightening. No not something stupid something frightening Call up someone you be wanted to be friends with but were too shy to approach go to a restaurant or a Uso tour by yourself take your Drivers test try ordering at Mcdonalds in German Etc. _. 2. Start working to become an expert on something such As knitting Wood carving pastry making 17th-Century Irish lace the Spanish inquisition. Take your time and find something that strikes your fancy no matter How offbeat. 3. Learn to do something maybe its something you be always wanted to do but never had the time the room or the courage to do. Write the great american novel learn to knit to sew to balance your Check Book work a computer to bake the perfect loaf of bread or rebuild transmissions. Learn norwegian. 4. Keep your letters Bright and cheerful nobody is saying you have to be a Shirley Temple but lets face it your spouses have a lot on their minds right now so done to add to their worries by moaning and groaning. In other words Send them the kind of letters you a like to get funny Friendly chatty full of harmless gossip and news about loved ones 5. And while we re talking about letters accept your spouses for what they Are. If they hate to write letters done to get Hurt and angry because they Are not like so and sons spouse who writes twice a week. And if they done to write for a while keep your Cool. Chances Are they have a very Good reason. It 6. Remember More than Ever you Are a living role Model to your children however Young. As you act now so shall your children act later. 7. Rediscover the love of Reading. Too often our experience at school with its Book reports assigned Reading Etc. Drives out our love of Reading. But you re no longer in school. Read what you want to read and As fast or As slow As you want to read. 8. Keep family routines and your perspective As Normal As possible. Daddy or Mommy wont be Here for a birthday or Holiday the world wont come to an end. Improvise. Ask youself what a single Parent would do because that a what you Are now. Try and remember that its not their Choice that they re not with you. Desert shield Isnit exactly two weeks on the Riviera. 9. Give serious but not ongoing and morbid thoughts about a what  know where All the important papers Are where you might go and what you must do. Its not a pleasant thing to Deal with but that does no to make it any less important. And because you Deal with it does no to mean you want it to happen you done to buy ear insurance because you Hope you la wreck your car. 10. Finally accept the situation and get on with our life. Remember Vou Are not alone. Thousands upon thousands of military spouses before \ of have kept the Home fires burning while their Pait Neis went Ott to War in Vietnam and Korea to the Battle of the bulge and the shores of Omaha Beach to Shiloh and Gettysburg to Yorktown and Valley forge. They have passed the Torch on to you. Do not fail them. Done to i when it comes to sympathy done to go to the Well too. Often. Even when talking with close friends or other spouses who Are in the same circumstances done to overdraw on the amount of Comfort to which you arc anti tied. And be sure to at least try and show genuine interest in what a happening in the other person s life. 2 done to decide to kick up your heals and have a fling when your spouse is gone. Keep yourself clean. If not for them then for gods Sake Tor yourself 3. Done to Ever forget its not Only the bottle you have to be careful of but the Telephone. All too Many people reach for this with the same self indulgence and desperation As they do the bottle and the result is the same overuse. 4. Done to listen to the news if you done to want to there a no Law that says you must. The events that Are unfolding Are beyond your control. If keeping Well informed brings you Comfort and makes you feel Safe go ahead but if it makes you feel depressed frightened angry or helpless turn it off. 5. Done to do anything weird with your appearance or your credit cards. Recognize that its nothing More than a combination of depression and a desire to show Independence. Get hold of yourself. 6. There May come a time when the Load is just too heavy for your heart to carry alone. Done to be too shy too proud or too embarrassed to go to a Church or synagogue. They Are not museums for saints they Are havens for those who suffer. 7. Done to fear the holidays and weekends. After All they re really just another Day of the week. Done to think of them As a dead  think of them As time to catch up on your chores letter writing or just some free Days to kick off your shoes and do nothing. Try and think of the weekends As gifts not punishment. 8. Done to Brood. 9. Done to forget your children need you More than Ever. Help them to develop and to be Strong. 10. Don t lose your interest in life. When the Leaf Falls the tree does no to die. A Barbara Weber Lindsey air station Germany. Pen pals i am a regular Reader of the stars and stripes and am also taking part in operation desert shield i am 23 years old. I like travelling and listening to the music. A salary Fernando. 75, up Capo amp a directorate King Khalid military City. . Box 10023 Hafer Albaton 31991, Saodi Arabia my Mailbox is starving. I m a 24-year-old German National married to an american. I like motorcycles cars animals foreign languages skiing All kinds of music and dancing. A Cornelia Wendeth 649th engr. In b. Co. Apo new York 09081 a i am a 27-year-old registered nurse. I have Many interests including listening to Rock and blues music travelling and socializing. A \ a Lorraine fairburn215c Wood Street Walthamstow London e17, England. My hobbies Are playing Ball games Reading and collecting Stamps. I am 18 years old. A a Alma Lin Cay Arancia Block 0. Purok 3. Upper Tambler general Santos City. 9500 Philippines i am 33 years old. My hobbies Are strolling cooking and swimming. I also like to watching movies and to Lelia s. Bentinganan. Flat a instal mansion,3/fl 3 Eastbourne rd., Beacon Hill Kowloon. Hong Kong i am a 26-year-old registered nurse and would like to have pen pals. I enjoy writing playing word puzzles a playing atari watering basketball games and Road my a Lorena t. Matillano. Pc of Teresita t. Matillano 483 Mabolo St. Combo a fort Bonifacio Makati. 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