European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - March 1, 1992, Darmstadt, Hesse Odds amp ends j miss \1 v mks Judith Martin dear miss manners what Standard of behaviour is required of a lady during labor and delivery having previously gone through unmediated childbirth i know that there Are times when one feels testy and that these Are exactly the times that nurses and so Forth ask questions and give instructions that have to be dealt with. If one gets a bit Short tempered should she apologize later even though she May not know exactly whom she was Cross with or How badly she behaved does one apologize for being noisy if one has managed to remain cooperative if so to whom gentle Reader noise is rather an expected part of the procedure and not objectionable in itself. But if a a Short tempered a Means attempting to alleviate ones discomfort by accusations and outbursts against others apologies Are certainly in order. Nurses and other Hospital employees May have a professional understanding of such behaviour without being totally immune to its human consequences. In any Case you should be thanking them for their assistance. A Lack of knowledge As to whether you behaved badly can gracefully be covered by adding Quot i Hope i did no to cause you too much dear miss manners i done to know How to address a letter to an entertainer who is Only one name. Then there Are some rap performers who have names like a too i intensely dislike addressing strangers by their first names i dislike it even More intensely when its done to me which is not at All uncommon when you re an unmarried woman but it seems even Ruder to address them by their Given names if you happen to know them when they have chosen not to use those names. If its a person of african american descent i May feel its not unreasonable to wonder if a surname was dropped for reasons similar to those for which Malcolm x dropped his surname. Of now really a i Don t write that sort of letter to entertainers. Sometimes i just have something i need to Tell them. Gentle Reader although miss manners shares your dislike of strangers taking liberties with one s first name a to the extent that she has taken the precaution of not even having a first name a she must Point out that the legitimate cause for annoyance is the fact that such usage is unauthorized. The Holder of a name should be Able to Confer the privilege of intimacy. If people other than you and miss manners want to Confer that privilege promiscuously it is not our business. It is Safe to say that those who do not have last names wish to be addressed by their first names. Miss manners would nevertheless assume that respect was not unwelcome so she would use a honorific a is. Cher for example. If there Are two names she would assume that the last name is a Well tie last name. Or. Too Short would be or. Short unless he specified otherwise or. Malcolm x would be in second reference or. X. The reasons people alter their names Are Many but they do not interfere with other Peoples obligation to address them As they wish to be addressed. Nor does miss manners need to know the contents of letters you write in order to approve of your seeking a Correct Means of address. Nevertheless she is relieved to hear that you Are not writing them that kind of letter. Dear miss manners during our wedding reception a number of friends told us that the wife of one of my Best friends was passing out Bright Orange and Black fliers for her new housecleaning business. Our wedding colors were Orchid and Black we did not know what to say or do so we Didah nothing. Should i have said something to her at the time and is it too late to say something now was this proper gentle Reader please done to give miss manners false clues however entertaining. For one awful moment she thought your objection might be that the fliers clashed with your color scheme. It would have been preferable to Stop this outrage when it occurred although miss manners sympathizes with you in your paralysis at the idea of reprimanding a wedding guest. It would have been Best to Send an usher to collect the fliers and hand them Back to the offender with the explanation a this is not a business now it seems pointless to make a fuss unless you plan to take the unwise step of inviting this person to another party. In that Case you could say when you Issue the invitation a this will be a social occasion at which we prefer that business is not but you can have great fun turning the wedding anecdote into the kind of you la never believe this Story that gets funnier miss manners promises you As time goes by. United features syndicate11 k s it la a s Pisces feb. 19-March 20 look to the people around you to Tell you some things about yourself. Words Aren t necessary. Aries March 21-april 19 creatively articulate information that others might have trouble grasping. You can see through the fog. Taurus april 20-May 20 friends look to you for the answers. You must improve your method of communication. Gemini May 21-june 20. Be discriminating about All the information you get regarding your Job. Stay Clear about your duties. Cancer june 21-july 22. Speak up and present your opinion of what you perceive to be important. Be persuasive. Leo july 23-aug. 22 being Overly optimistic is your Only drawback. Review your achievements and go from there. Virgo aug. 23-sept. 22 if you can look beyond appearances you can see the truth for what it is. Libra sept 23 oct. 22. In relationships you can feel alone and Distant. So close and yet so far rings True. Scorpio oct. 23-nov. 21 cheerfully accept the responsibility of family obligations and you will be greatly rewarded. Sagittarius nov. 22-dec. 20 be careful not to squander your time in search of perfection that does not exist. Capricorn dec. 21-Jan. 19 you have the ability to assess the facts quickly and accurately. Use this Talent wisely. Aquarius Jan. 20-feb. 18 you May have to adjust your aim As you shoot to make your Mark on the world. Copley nil by Sofic dizzy land makes you feel right at Home Cindy Chambers euro Disneyland the theme Park whose theme is a we speak English better than you do because we re French a opens near Paris next month. It will feature All of Walt Disney a most beloved characters including Mique la Mous Mickey Mous Eblanche Neige Snow White and the perennial favorite of French people everywhere Legrande goof Jerry Lewis. This is Good news to people with a few billion extra francs and the desire to eat snails dressed As cartoon characters. But the rest of us poor slobs Arentt Likely to visit the theme Park unless we can choose Between monthly payments Lump sum payments or a Day at euro Disney on the new voluntary separation form. Fortunately we now have something better than euro Disney. Its my-0 Disney the Only Disney theme Park located entirely inside military housing for a Small fee in any currency you can visit Many exciting family attractions. To tiered a world of Field gear conveniently spread out All Over my master bedroom. Watch your step then its off to laundry room land where the kiddies will enjoy several spinning Static free rides while you peruse the extensive collections of mismatched socks dating Back to 1967. A big part of any Disney attraction is standing in line and Here at my-0 Disney there la be plenty of that just Down main Street is sleeping Beauty a commissary where the Princess fell into a deep sleep while waiting in line on a payday saturday. Also time permitting you can stand in line at sleeping Beauty a service station sleeping Beauty a Bank and sleeping Beauty a movie theater and done to forget to visit the world of tomorrow which thanks to the world of draw Down consists of the empty apartment across the Street. Finally on your Way out pick up traditional overpriced souvenirs. Choose from hundreds of items my husband says hell a be damned Quot if hell ship Back to the states. All will probably provide years of wonderful vacation memories. My of Disney its cheap its convenient and Best of All its not in France. Cindy Chambers la a military family member in Schweinfurt Germany. Lucky Breaks of movie stars 1. Doris Day a car crash ended dancing career 2. Burt Reynolds a injury ended football career 3. Lee j. Cobb a broken wrist ended violin career source world features Syndicate page8 a sunday March 1. 1992
