European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - August 25, 1991, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Cover Story from Page s Inai Ion which included a rays and an aids test. A the phone Bills were High a says David. The following year the newlyweds saw each other Only during Brief visits overseas. To add another turn to their matrimonial Maze they plan to marry soon within the Catholic Church. Nearly All Cross cultural couples will find their wedding rings bound by red tape. Governments place it there to keep inter cultural marriages from becoming an open route to foreign citizenship. . Law requires couples to be married for two ears before the foreign spouse May become a citizen. Most of their children done to have to decide. Many couples such As the vines take advantage of a . Provision that allows offspring to have dual citizenship for 16 years. A we done to want to say you re going to be German you re going to be american a a a says David an army staff  one of the few choices available to a child born across the culture Gap. Life changing decisions Are made by the Mother and father before the baby leaves the crib. Like language. Most bilingual couples teach their children both languages. Mirijanian and Ackermann plan to teach any possible children four a his German and her English French and albanian. A my daughter Speaks both turkish and English a aynur Hodges says about her 3-year-old child. Quot if i say something wrong in English Shell say a no its like  a parents also decide where to raise their children which will ultimately decide which culture the children will Call Home. Choosing is basically a Trade off. Whereas . Culture prides its non Stop Bustle european cultures say they have time to enjoy life. While Many americans display Howdy do extroversion to everyone Many Eastern cultures prefer to save affection for close friends. Fears that their grandchildren would not even have a culture caused Martine Dilworth a parents to sternly meet her engagement to Freddie. A they would say a what about your kids they wont be Black. They wont be White. They wont be anything a a Martine says. If All goes As planned the future ackermans and any pending children will take the. German route thank you. But leaving Sweet Home Chicago wont be easy Mirijanian says. A in America you can be whoever you want to is Kan Gorga Freddie Dilworth gets a dutch treat in Martinets music in their Home of Vonbaden Germany. Be a any Way you want to look you can look that Way a she says. A a in Germany i guess its True that you can do what you want to do but people look at you. I done to know if i look different but i know that i done to look  Ackermann Hopes that will change. A Many germans misunderstand the american mentality a Ackermann says a they can to understand what is going on in the states its Only from movies. A some people Are open to americans but some people have a Strong mind. My mind is they have to accept this to learn about the different  learning about different styles of life Isnit an obstacle Ackermann and Mirijanian say. Its a Challenge. Therapist Braun compares it to putting together a Puzzle. The More Young spouses try to piece together an understanding of their partners cultures the More Clear the picture. A feelings Aren t particular to any culture a Braun says. A a it a just the Way you express  tvs Donahue joins the inter cultural i relationship discussion thursday with a show called Quot Why foreign women Are stealing american  Host Phil Donahue talks with men who have married foreign women because they feel american woman Are More inter sited in careers than Fem Lues. Seb sirs the show St 11 10 . And an at 3 . Cent it ass lint do Caim David vines and Susanne have a rocking time with 3-month-old daughter  6 a sunday August 25, 1991