European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - January 08, 1995, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Miss manners Judith Martin dear miss manners is it acceptable in our country to use the european method of dining wit the knife in the right hand and the Fork in the left cutting the food As you cat it gentle readers is it acceptable for someone in the United states to speak with say an English or French accent certainly if that person is a foreigner or foreign born. But not to pass oneself off As being so. Eating european style keeping the Fork in the lefthand and packing food onto the Back of it with the knife rather than american style switching the for to the right hand after cutting and bringing food to the Mouth with the Fork facing upwards is accept Able in the United states for foreigners and the for. Eign born. For anyone else it is silly and affected. And miss manners does not want to hear that argument about How it is a More efficient Way to eat. She heard that your doctor thinks you Are already eating far too efficiently for your own Good without looking for ways to Speed up the intake. Dear miss manners my most striking features my Long fingernails each now 6vi to 7vi inches Long. I like to think of them As a work of Art. For my wedding i would like to have each of them decorated with Gold Nail jewelry Rhino Stone designs and Nail Art. It will Cost $500, but i have the Money so that is no problem i want to take the Opportunity to show them off to those friends and relatives who will not be Able to attend but will see the wed Ding later on  my Fiance and my Mother think i should not use Gold jewelry and rhinestones but Only Clear polish orsome Light Neutral color. Since this is a formal wed Ding which would you say is better for the occasion gentle readers oddly enough etiquette forgot to pass a Rule against bridal Nail jewelry. What an oversight. There is a general Rule that the Bride should look tastefully demure it being taken for granted that she also has her More exciting Side for display on Jess solemn occasions. Miss manner would suggest you be guided by that Rule had she not somehow gotten the impression that demure is not going to Appeal to your " but surely the combined wishes of your Fiance an your Mother ought to Appeal to you. However much you wish to impress the viewers of your wedding video pleasing the bridegroom and the Mother of Effat Cairo Egypt the Bride should surely Lake precedence. Dear miss manners what do you think of another who gives a baby Shower for her own unmarried daughter gentle Reader it is incorrect to give a Shower for a relative. Thus miss manners would consider another who gave a Shower for her own daughter to be acting highly improperly. Now what do you think of an etiquette advise who refuses to be drawn into a mean spirited plot to withhold harmless social rites from single mothers even under the strictest of circumstances the whereabouts of a prospective father during a baby Shower have never been considered relevant. Dear miss manners my spouse and i have purchased a House and furnished most of the rooms the dining room furniture is being taken care of by my family. What is the Correct Way to Complete the invitations is it improper to write monetary gifts i have no clue As to etiquette for having a House warming and explaining what we really  gentle Reader miss manners is afraid the problem is worse than that. You Don t seem to havea clue about which clue you need. A housewarming invitation is meant to convey the idea we have a new House and we d like you to come to see it be cause we Hope to entertain you Here  that i Why it limits itself to asking for the pleasure of  ple s company. There is no Correct Way to Issue an invitation that Means we have a a Csc House and it would give us pleasure to use your Money Don t even think about using your taste to furnish  dear miss manners this is a second marriage and i came into it with More or less the same amount of Money As my husband. However whenever we go out he makes the derisive comments in front of other people about me spending his Money which in t True or about me having More Money than i know what to do with. I have worked All my life and earned every Penny and have Only just retired at 65.1 find this embarrassing and i pretend to ignore it As i Don t want an argument in front of friends. Gentle Reader although discussing a spouses1 spending habits was never anything but hideously rude and disloyal your husband is not the Only on of his generation to make the mistake of assuming this to be cute and funny however All couples starting out Are entitled regardless of age to a few rancor free requests about How they arc to be discussed. The simple statement that any mention of finances in front of friends embarrasses you ought to be enough to put a Stop to Public comments. Your actual financial arrange ments Are beside the Point although miss manners would heavily suggest keeping separate accounts. United feature Syndicate feeling in Correct address your etiquette questions in Black or b to. Black   writing paper to. Miss manners . Box 91426. Cleveland Ohio 44101-3428. The Quill shortage prevents miss. Man nors from answering questions of copt through this column. Bart Amsterdam Netherlands crime has creeper Between wealth and Success Erma Bombick Aii of our lives we have been taught that Success is the acquisition of expensive material things. You obtain a Good Edu cation get married have a family an move into a Nice big White House at 1600 Pennsylvania ave. In a Nice neighbourhood in Washington d.c., Wilh Security at the Gate and a Marine at the front door and you be got it made. You believe that until someone starts shooting at you. Crime has caused americans to reconsider what is important in this world and what in t. Few people arc Bent on owning a watch anymore that is so expensive someone would Mug them to get it off their wrists. They think twice about buying Fountain pens that Cost three figures and if stolen make them want to kill themselves. Women no longer Chance wearing a fur coat that will not Only get snatched but will also get them ugly footage on the 6 o clock news. Women have mixed emotions about buying jewelry that rarely a eaves the Safe Deposit boxes. They Wear paste imitations when they go out. A rental car might just As Well have a lighted dog in the rear window that blinks Rob me i m a  getting your name in a society column used to be a status thing. Now it is read by Crooks who take advantage of your skiing trip to Aspen by Rob Bing outhouse while you re gone. Maybe the premise of material things symbolizing Success was wrong in the first place but these were things that brought people pleasure to own. It certainly makes people reassess what it takes to make them prosperous Loving a person who loves you Back. Healthy children. A roof Over their Heads. _ doing something productive. Loyal friends. The Promise of a new Day. If you be got that guard it with your life. _ Universal press Syndicate _ no kidding the starts of something big 1. Hewlett Packard began with $538 in Cash 2. Motorola s predecessor began with $1,315in Cash 3. Honda began with $7,000 4. Ford began with $_56,000 5. Gallo winery began with $59,000 6. . Nielsen co. Borrowed $45,000 to Start Birdseye foods lost Money first 16 years. World. Features Syndicate creature courtship 1. Gypsy Moth 45 minutes 2. Brook Salamander up to two Days 3. Alligator up to several Days 4. Horseshoe crab male May lock onto female for years 5. Grunion fish several hours 6. Praying mantis up to half hour ". European common toads Battle Over mates _. Up to 1.2 hours .77 0 Banco Oil Iio by Mark Walters Arbor houso.1988 Page 10 sunday january 1995