European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - December 18, 1994, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Page 20 the stars and stripes faces places sunday december 1.8. 1994 Dangerfield natural film Academy gives him. Of a. A 1 from wire reports although Rodney Dangerfield has been ment Onedas a possible Best supporting actor nominee for his work in Oliver Stone s Natura Botn killers he still gets no respect. When he applied for membership in the Academy of motion picture arts and sciences the comedian was turned Down Flat. With major parts in at least three theatrical releases to his credit Dangerfield meets the minimum criteria for consideration. But according to a letter signed Broddy Mcdowall chairman of the actors Branch executive committee Dangerfield still lacks enough of the kind of roles that allow a performer to demonstrate the Mastery of the  this is ridiculous especially since thousands of Academy members Haven t done any movies to speak of said Dangerfield who was informed of the decision last week. People still quote lines from Cadd Shack which i did in 1980. Back to school which starred in took in nearly $100 million. And Oliver Stone who told me he loved my work cast me Ashe father from hell a Guy who molests his daughter. Maybe the character which i wrote myself was so distasteful that it turned the Academy off. Certain people Roddy Mcdowall included sometimes let emotion overrule their  natural born killers was his first dramatic role the 72-year-old Dangerfield admitted. No excuse for shakur tupac shakur needs a better doctor s note if he wants to be excused from court. Superior court judge Paul Flynn of los Angeles on Friday extended an arrest warrant issued nine Days ago and told the rapper s lawyer to have him in court jan.25.  v. Flynn said there was t enough information in doctor s note that said shakur is in no shape to travel from new York to los Angeles where he. Faces weapons charges. Shakur was shot two weeks ago in robbery at a new York recording studio. I Don t even know How you can show this document was signed by or. Shakur Flynn said. Shakur failed to appear in court wednesday in new York on a sex abuse conviction but the judge in that Case gave shakur a one week reprieve. Man meets Savior Stem Why would Howard Stern help talk a Man out of committing suicide Why ratings of course he says. You got pm Homeboy replied Ehi Ilio Bonilla who recently called Stern s nationally syndicated radio show by cellular phone from the George Washington Ridge in new York and said he wanted to jump. Bonilla visited Stern in the studio Friday nine Days after police pulled him from the Bridge during the live  ,. " t laughter is the Best Medicine and you did it for rolling on out a rolling Stone guitarist Keith Richards front and Singer Mick Jagger perform thursday in Seattle s kingdoms during the final . Stop on the group s North american tour. Me the 29-year-old Bonilla told Stern. Stem offered one of his egocentric spins on the whole affair you owe me big time i expect you to come and paint my  vet thanks Hope with statue thanks for the memories Bob. Dan Ojeda was so cheered by a Bob Hope Uso show when he was a paratrooper in Vietnam that he promised himself he would do something for hop someday. On Friday Ojeda who now works for a Minneapolis manufacturer unveiled a Model of a statue of Hope by Minneapolis sculptor Rodger Brodin. Every Soldier needs to laugh Ojeda said Friday. He said Hope s United service organizations show i Vietnam made him feel so Good that i was kind of  Ojeda got a veterans of foreign wars Post i Roseville minn., to pay for the statue which shows Hope with a microphone. He would t say How much i Cost. " / ,.\.  " the finished Bronze statue will be placed on the grounds of the a medical Center in Minneapolis next year. The state department of veterans affairs said Hope and his wife Dolores approved the project. In need Only love stays dear Abby Don t you think it s time we retire some of the traditions that originated when they served some useful Pur pose but have no place in the late 20th Century when the responsibility for wedding expenses was assigned to the parents it was common for children to marry when the Bride was still a child. She was pre pared to be Only a housewife and Seldom if Ever gainfully employed. Likewise the Groom was a youth Likely struggling to establish a Home. Hence a tradition was born based on common sense. The Bride and Groom of today however Are usually older and on More stable financial ground than their parents were. Why should older people have to mortgage their Homes spend their retirement nest eggs or take out Loans to pay for lavish weddings while the newlywed Strot off to luxury Homes it s insanity that a supposedly intelligent educated society clings steadfastly to out Moded traditions from horse and buggy Days. Modern etiquette should be updated to dispose of the ridiculous. Eastlake Ohio Reader dear Eastlake Reader for years i have pointed out that although the Bride s family gives the wed Ding nowhere is it written in Stone that it is imperative. An elaborate wedding is a gift not an obligation. And in recent years More couples have opted to pay for their own weddings which makes sense to me particularly if the Bride has left the nest and established her eco nomic Independence. For parents to spend their savings or take out Loans to finance the equivalent of a a Broadway extravaganza is in my View needlessly pretentious and foolish. In 1992, i published a letter from or. E. Parke sell Ard of Fallbrook Calif. His words of Wisdom Bear repeating i devised the following plan for my daughter s wed Ding to protect myself and our sanity. I gave her a set amount for the total to be spent. I the wedding Cost More she and her Fiance would pay the difference. Dear Abby dear Ann Landers my Mother in Law s male companion is his positive. My husband and i both health professionals Are deeply concerned about her. Even though we know aids cannot be transmitted through casual Contact we still can t help feeling that she i somehow at risk. John frequently accompanies my Mother in Law when she comes to our House for week ends and holidays. This poses another problem that hits close to Home. We hate the idea that John is sharing our bathroom and using our eating utensils. Yes Ann. We know our fears Are irrational but we can t help it. Ann Landers i have begun to feel even More agitated since Learned we Are expecting our first child. I confronted my Mother in Law with my fears and she told me i  we ended up in a violent argument. I resent being subjected to this kind of stress. Should continue to let my Mother in Law bring her his Posi Tive partner to our Home for weekends my husband says he will Back me up if i decide against it trouble in Westchester  Westchester fear is fear even though it May be irrational and being pregnant probably intensifies your anxiety. I suggest that you have a few sessions with a medical professional who specializes in aids. You Are in Des Perate need of education. Being his positive is not the same As having  of people share living quarters with people who Are his positive or actually do have aids an they do not become infected. If after being educated you still experience anxiety about having John sleep Over you have a perfect right to say to your Mother in Law i May be crazy but i d prefer that your Friend not spend weekends  s your Home and you should have the last word. Dear Ann Landers my wife has a night out with her girlfriends once month. On that night my 3-year-old daughter and i go to dinner together. When i took Sara out last week she sat 6n oneside of the Booth and i sat on the other. Sara stood up and was looking Over the. Back of the seat at the people in the neighbouring Booth. All of a sudden there was quite a commotion. It seems that Sara had just Learned to spit and was standing on the seat spitting on the folks in the next Booth. They made a big Deal out of stand got up and moved to another Booth. Don t you think it was ridiculous for these grown  to make such a fuss 4�a Chicago Daddar dad if you re looking for support you be dialled the wrong number. Too Many kids started with antics their parents thought were cute. 8hould be addressed to her at . Box 11 562, Chi c creators Syndicate no Cago Iii. 6061 1-0562. She had her wedding at Balboa Park in san Diego. Her Mother made her wedding dress. A close Friend was a photographer and he gave her the pictures As a wed Ding gift we bought Many of the Flowers at the Market. By pending her Money carefully she had a Nice Check waiting for her when they returned from their Honey Moon. This plan enabled All of us to enjoy a Beautiful wed Ding and to keep our tempers and sanity intact. I Hope this plan will help your readers to enjoy their Daugh ters weddings with a minimum of  dear Abby considering the potential for accidents and fire from Christmas lights during the holidays May i make a suggestion that May prove helpful during an emerged Many times in emergency situations one panics an draws a Blank when the 911 operator asks for the address. I have placed my printed return address Labelson All my telephones. These labels also would help visitors and overnight guests if they need to Call 911. Longtime Reader in Denver � Daar at p � Box c Universal press Syndicate