European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - December 18, 1994, Darmstadt, Hesse                                When the merry is missing in Christmas . Gilmore it s that time of year when warm feelings of giving anticipation love Romance Kindred spirit and forgiveness seem to ooze out of the pores of All those around you. Strangers Greet strangers with smiles whereas during the other 11 months of the year they May simply pass one another unnoticed. What you Don t feel it what s the matter with you Are you some Type of Scrooge there is definitely something wrong with anyone who does not go through this metamorphosis of cheerful change. Or is there it is a known statistic that depression and suicides Rise during this time of year. There Are those who do not get happier who do not Bounce with anticipation who do not forgive All those around them who do not feel the urge to smile for no apparent reason. Iris just the other Way around for them. Leaders at All Levels As Well As Peers need to be aware of this reality. While you bask in those nor Mal feelings that have you aglow be open to those who do not react to the Holiday season in the same manner. It in t that there is something Strong with the person.  v.\.v. Actually by pointing out that there May be some thing wrong you May end up intensifying the feel Ings of depression or sadness As the person s self Confidence May be further damaged in feeling that Send in your column plus photo of yourself to be our guest sunday Magazine the stars and stripes Apoate 09211 or Postrach 11 14 37, d-64278 Darmstadt Germany. If mailing disk save text in Asci and include printout. Columns Are edited for clarity and length. Opening laugh Carluch Havana Cuba i think your problem is that you re not  he is hot living up to your or other expectations or that he is putting a Damper of your seasonal cheerfulness. In other words try not to ostracize the person who does hot have that Holiday spirit that you May be expecting watch for the key factors in suicidal be Havior during this time of year. If you Don t understand Why someone does t react to the holidays the Way you would expect con Sider some of these real situations death occurs year round. Some people associate the holidays with losses they have experienced. Some religious beliefs Don t even note this particular season As being a time to celebrate. Some people Don t care for the time of year be cause it reminds them How far away they May be from those they love. Whatever the reasoning we Don t All feel the same Way about the Holiday season. It is unfair to make a big Issue out of those who do not gleefully chirrup and whistle to the crooning of Bing Crosby As he de scribes that White Christmas or hum to the Repeta Tive verses of we wish you a merry Christmas. For anyone who feels he May be losing control of depression or sadness Call on your unit chaplain or the mental health professionals in your area. If that makes you uncomfortable talk to your friends your supervisor your spouse or Call someone Back Home whom you feel you May need to talk to. Don t be a death statistic. Seek help because it is there. Staff sgt. . Gilmora is stationed in kaisers autom Germany. Shame Over Bosnia Jacqueline von Kaenel y dad was an anarchist All his life according to the Oxford dictionary definition of the word adherent of Doc Trine that All government should be  he never voted on the grounds that All politicians were a pack of  it is hard for me to fault him for this View i wonder How Many bosnian would agree with it especially muslims in regard to my country s Leader John major As Well As Bill Clinton and other Western politicians who have treated them so shamefully. How can a Mother Tell her child to respect a government that not Only condones but also aids and abets acts of genocide an Ordinary citizen like my self can find out facts about the Jna yugoslav peo ple s army by Reading widely available books. The  Misha Glenny is one example. The Book s salient Points at the outbreak of the War in former Yugoslavia 70 percent of the officer corps was serb. The army was reputedly the fourth largest Force in Europe. Can we then imagine that Bur leaders those responsible for the arms embargo were not aware of this when they imposed it it must be easy to use glib phrases such As Ball game and level killing Field at a cozy Safe meet ing in Geneva or Brussels. What it amounts to though is cold terror As a Rifle butt Breaks your door Down your wife Mother and children Are shot or taken away to some Camp to be raped repeatedly by Drunken men until the victims die of injuries your husband father or brother is beaten senseless Tor tured impressed into the army and forced to the front line against his own people. All these atrocities Are Well documented by am Nesty International or told to me by bosnian friends who managed to escape the . Government s policy has been consistently immoral and aimless. Yet we still hear Little but equiv Cating Waffle from the politicians who obviously would prefer the whole thing disappear so that they can get on with safer bets. It is situations like this that turn Middle aged housewives into anarchists. It certainly would t take much More to turn Young men into terrorists. Jacqueline von Kaenel lives in Stuttgart. Germany. Contents from the cover. 4-8 Dave Barry s gift bag. Sidelights. 9 George in. Bush hardly on the Mark. Words & wit. 24 James Kilpatrick has his winners. . 25bilhe Holiday s life Odds & ends. 10 miss manners on what s right at Christmas. In tune. 11 Why Junior is a bust. This week s films. 12-13 military circuit listings. Chuck Vinch Down on  television listings 14-17 local Cable and satellite schedules. Home entertainment. 18 the sound in Vars. Voices 21 Linda Ellerbe on a mean receiving end. On Parade. 27what Jackie Onassis left. Last laugh. 28 Dave Barry in the Jet age. Sunday is a weekly supplement of the stars and stripes. Editon Bucky Fox cover Story design Alice verberne production Bernard Jenican editorial assistance Louis d. Pierce Page 2 sunday december 18,1994